# What is one thing someone said that made you lose respect for them? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 9, 2016, 7:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573 "2016-01-09T07:52:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Urbanredneck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ea5d25/32.png) [@Urbanredneck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urbanredneck)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2016, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/101 "2016-01-11T22:26:00Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > You could tell from that time he came outside, looked at his house, then at yours, then back at his, then shook his head sadly, then unfurled his diploma, pointed at it, pointed at his house, then shook his fist angrily at yours? I wouldnt say that but he talked alot about his money issues and how he thought his Phd should be worth so much more. ---
**Author:** ![Urbanredneck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ea5d25/32.png) [@Urbanredneck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urbanredneck)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2016, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/102 "2016-01-11T22:28:38Z")
The one thing I lose respect for is if they break their marriage vows and commit adultery. Especially if their spouse is a good, decent person and they just cant keep from whoring around. If they cannot keep their promise and stab someone in the back (then take their money) why should I ever trust them? ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2016, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/103 "2016-01-11T22:37:52Z")
> [@Oddball\_92](#): > > Those who practice political correctness. Simple Political Incorrectness is a Misdemeanor Against Social Justice. Aggravated Political Incorrectness is a Felony Against Social Justice. ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2016, 11:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/104 "2016-01-11T23:39:43Z")
Here’s another. People who bash their ex on social media, and then wonder why they suffer repercussions. ---
**Author:** ![mage-girl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cc9497/32.png) [@mage-girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mage-girl)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2016, 11:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/105 "2016-01-11T23:55:39Z")
> [@usedtobe](#): > > Ummm - when it concerns a serious subject? > Ohhh - Mister Kotter! Mister Kotter! Did I get it right? Thank you. 🙂 Bonus points for the Kotter reference; loved that show when I was younger. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![PapSett](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ecc23a/32.png) [@PapSett](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PapSett)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2016, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/106 "2016-01-12T00:05:04Z")
> [@Dung\_Beetle](#): > > “It’s just a cat.” Said by a co-worker when I was grieving about having to put my cat down. Oh yeah, this too. Years ago, I was going to have my 14 and a half year old dog put down in the morning, and was walking across the parking lot at work crying. A co-worker came over and asked what was wrong; I told her, and her response was, oh well, it’s just a dog, you can always get another one. :mad: It literally took all I had not to punch her. I replied with, oh, really? What if one of your sons gets hit by a bus? how would you like it if I said oh, it’s OK, you can have another one? Never spoke to her again. ---
**Author:** ![bobkitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c67d28/32.png) [@bobkitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bobkitty)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2016, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/107 "2016-01-12T00:06:57Z")
> [@nearwildheaven](#): > > Here’s another. People who bash their ex on social media, and then wonder why they suffer repercussions. OMG, just as bad- when they bash their CURRENT significant other, and then suddenly they’re fighting in front of everyone. I always go in and comment “I hate it when mom and dad (or dad and dad, or mom and mom) fight…” ---
**Author:** ![mage-girl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cc9497/32.png) [@mage-girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mage-girl)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2016, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/108 "2016-01-12T00:22:30Z")
Oh, no, guys. I remembered another. This one is rather shocking. Unlike my previous one, which was a combination of “what the heck?” and “are you sure you’re not part of the problem?” 😉 I was working at my first real full-time office job, at the corporate office of a restaurant franchise. It was after the office move, so, late 2001 or very early 2002? I’d been there 6-plus years. I walked back to give something to the executive assistant, and we got into a conversation. There may have been another female office-type there too, I don’t recall. So we’re talking about celebrities and movie stars we find attractive. And I mentioned Will Smith. He’s good-looking, funny, and successful. Black? Who cares! And executive-assistant-lady says something like, oh, not my kind of thing, then follows up with (exact quote here): “I don’t believe in mixing.” To hear someone openly say that, in our supposedly modern age… I’m pretty sure I just stared at her until I could make an excuse to go. Everyone has their preferences, and that’s okay, but she really should have stopped before the “mixing” comment. Yikes. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Trinopus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/2bfe46/32.png) [@Trinopus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trinopus)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2016, 3:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/109 "2016-01-12T03:04:18Z")
On seeing a drawing of a science-fictional alien skeleton (a Kzin, in one of Larry Niven’s books) my cousin exploded, “That’s evolution! I don’t believe in that!” ---
**Author:** ![lalaith](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/96bed5/32.png) [@lalaith](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lalaith)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2016, 3:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/110 "2016-01-12T03:19:02Z")
A man talking about how much he gave his wife in the divorce. As if everything the two of them accumulated in their life together was all his and none of it hers, so it was “his” that he “gave” to her.:rolleyes: * * * People who suddenly come out with something racist. To quote myself, “Every once in a while, the conversational equivalent of going for a walk and stepping in a steaming pile of dog crap happens to me. I’ll be speaking with someone I know, and that person will come out with a bigoted, racist comment. I’m always nonplussed.” [Guess Who’s Not Coming to Dinner? The Socially Accepted Racism](http://maggieameanderings.com/2011-Jul-10.htm) * * * Oh, and a few from this list. Not everything on this list, but some. [The Top Ten Dumbest (Political) Things Republicans Have Ever Said to Me](http://maggieameanderings.com/2015-Jul-6.htm) ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2016, 5:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/111 "2016-01-12T05:08:16Z")
> [@bobkitty](#): > > OMG, just as bad- when they bash their CURRENT significant other, and then suddenly they’re fighting in front of everyone. I always go in and comment “I hate it when mom and dad (or dad and dad, or mom and mom) fight…” I’ve had 3 women unfriend and block me because they posted some variation of “We are finished! I am DONE with him THIS time!” and I replied, “Yeah, right. How many times have we heard that before?” :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![Precambrianmollusc](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/precambrianmollusc/32/63_2.png) [@Precambrianmollusc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Precambrianmollusc)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2016, 5:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/112 "2016-01-12T05:31:55Z")
People who get involved in passive aggressive work place politics tend to piss me off. For two people the exact phrases used get a bit techno babbly , but both were along the lines of “he told me to watch the pot of food as it boiled , and I did, it boiled all over and made a hell of a mess, he is incompetent I should have his job/his department should report to mine” type empire building nonsense. Both seamed like reasonable people prior to that, but once the pressure came on over a few situations that didn’t go so well, the pointy fingers came out with that noise. Fuck ‘em. ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2016, 5:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/113 "2016-01-12T05:37:04Z")
> [@mage-girl](#): > > Oh, no, guys. I remembered another. This one is rather shocking. Unlike my previous one, which was a combination of “what the heck?” and “are you sure you’re not part of the problem?” 😉 > > I was working at my first real full-time office job, at the corporate office of a restaurant franchise. It was after the office move, so, late 2001 or very early 2002? I’d been there 6-plus years. > > I walked back to give something to the executive assistant, and we got into a conversation. There may have been another female office-type there too, I don’t recall. > > So we’re talking about celebrities and movie stars we find attractive. And I mentioned Will Smith. He’s good-looking, funny, and successful. Black? Who cares! > > And executive-assistant-lady says something like, oh, not my kind of thing, then follows up with (exact quote here): > > “I don’t believe in mixing.” > > To hear someone openly say that, in our supposedly modern age… I’m pretty sure I just stared at her until I could make an excuse to go. > > Everyone has their preferences, and that’s okay, but she really should have stopped before the “mixing” comment. > > Yikes. :eek: Just as bad is “S/he’s pretty good looking, for a black person.” :smack: :rolleyes: :mad: ---
**Author:** ![Charlie\_Wayne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4bbf92/32.png) [@Charlie\_Wayne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Charlie_Wayne)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2016, 8:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/114 "2016-01-12T08:57:36Z")
> [@Urbanredneck](#): > > The one thing I lose respect for is if they break their marriage vows and commit adultery. Especially if their spouse is a good, decent person and they just cant keep from whoring around. If they cannot keep their promise and stab someone in the back (then take their money) why should I ever trust them? How can you tell whether someone is a good, decent person? What kind of test do you use? ---
**Author:** ![Urbanredneck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ea5d25/32.png) [@Urbanredneck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urbanredneck)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2016, 1:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/115 "2016-01-12T13:16:49Z")
> [@Charlie\_Wayne](#): > > How can you tell whether someone is a good, decent person? > > What kind of test do you use? They dont abuse them in any way (physically, mentally, or withholding sex). They arent a couch potato. They both do their share of household chores. They contribute financially. They are not a drain on finances. They keep up their appearance. Both agree on issues like children and religion. That sort of thing. Any other issues were there when they married the person and come as part of the package. ---
**Author:** ![Cardigan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cardigan/32/187_2.png) [@Cardigan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cardigan)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2016, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/116 "2016-01-12T15:24:38Z")
Maybe it’s more doing than saying, but I had a (former) friend who complained to the management about the service we received at a restaurant I got taken to for a birthday celebration. At the time I thought “gee, the service seemed pretty _average_ to me.” The manager comp’ed her dinner. The next time I happened to have dinner with this same friend at another restaurant she complained about how the food was prepared…the manager at this restaurant comp’ed the meal. I thought at the time “maybe she’s just really high maintenance.” The third time this happened, though, I figured out it was just her standard M.O. …She ALWAYS complains at whatever restaurant she goes to so she can get a discount or a freebie. By gaming the system she has undoubtedly saved herself some money, but at the same time lost much esteem in my eyes. I find her behavior embarrassing and won’t dine out with her anymore. ---
**Author:** ![Chihuahua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dec6dc/32.png) [@Chihuahua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chihuahua)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2016, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/117 "2016-01-12T18:21:30Z")
“I’m a Mormon.” ---
**Author:** ![MandaJo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac91a4/32.png) [@MandaJo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MandaJo)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2016, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/118 "2016-01-12T18:42:45Z")
> [@Urbanredneck](#): > > They dont abuse them in any way (physically, mentally, or withholding sex). They arent a couch potato. They both do their share of household chores. They contribute financially. They are not a drain on finances. They keep up their appearance. Both agree on issues like children and religion. That sort of thing. > > Any other issues were there when they married the person and come as part of the package. So you are sympathetic to cheaters if their spouse has gotten fat? ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2016, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/119 "2016-01-12T18:50:20Z")
> [@Cardigan](#): > > By gaming the system she has undoubtedly saved herself some money, but at the same time lost much esteem in my eyes. I find her behavior embarrassing and won’t dine out with her anymore. Geez, that IS pretty cheesy and embarrassing. I’d be tempted to keep going out with her for awhile. Make sure its a pattern. Then one day rat her ass out to everybody in earshot when she pulls it yet again. I knew somebody that CONSTANTLY berated the wait staff. No matter what they did it wasn’t up to snuff. Any problems with the food (which were usually just plain made up) were as if the staff themselves had personally prepared it wrong just to piss her off. I quit eating out with that person. ---
**Author:** ![DeepLiquid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/deepliquid/32/14893_2.png) [@DeepLiquid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DeepLiquid)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2016, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/120 "2016-01-12T18:58:03Z")
> [@billfish678](#): > > … > > I knew somebody that CONSTANTLY berated the wait staff. No matter what they did it wasn’t up to snuff. Any problems with the food (which were usually just plain made up) were as if the staff themselves had personally prepared it wrong just to piss her off. > > I quit eating out with that person. My sister in laws mother behaved that way, she embarrassed the living hell out of us in high school, she seemed to make it her personal mission in life to be a miserable hateful person to every service worker she encountered. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573.md?page=7)