# What is the best way to get rid of a stalker? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 18, 2012, 7:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922 "2012-01-18T19:14:05Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![slm2955](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c6cbf5/32.png) [@slm2955](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slm2955)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 7:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/1 "2012-01-18T19:14:05Z")
Not harmful but a lurker?😕 ---
**Author:** ![slm2955](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c6cbf5/32.png) [@slm2955](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slm2955)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/2 "2012-01-18T19:27:41Z")
So I take it no one on here has ever had a stalker:confused: ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 7:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/3 "2012-01-18T19:43:42Z")
You didn’t give us much to go on. Can you give some backstory? ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/4 "2012-01-18T19:45:54Z")
No one reading in that 15 minute span, apparently. Read Gavin de Becker’s book **The Gift of Fear**. He describes different kinds of stalkers and the best responses based on the situation in question. ---
**Author:** ![slm2955](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c6cbf5/32.png) [@slm2955](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slm2955)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 7:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/5 "2012-01-18T19:49:13Z")
> [@tdn](#): > > You didn’t give us much to go on. Can you give some backstory? There’s a guy that constantly checks the sites I’m on and it been getting really annoying lately to the point I rarely log on anymore because of it…I don’t mind if he’s reading my stuff if he was in my best interest, but he’s not and that what annoys me…so maybe I should quit those sites cold turkey:confused:? ---
**Author:** ![slm2955](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c6cbf5/32.png) [@slm2955](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slm2955)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/6 "2012-01-18T19:50:22Z")
> [@Ferret\_Herder](#): > > No one reading in that 15 minute span, apparently. > > Read Gavin de Becker’s book **The Gift of Fear**. He describes different kinds of stalkers and the best responses based on the situation in question. Ok will do. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 7:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/7 "2012-01-18T19:52:29Z")
> [@slm2955](#): > > There’s a guy that constantly checks the sites I’m on and it been getting really annoying lately to the point I rarely log on anymore because of it…I don’t mind if he’s reading my stuff if he was in my best interest, but he’s not and that what annoys me…so maybe I should quit those sites cold turkey:confused:? Coworker? Roommate? Family member? When you say he’s checking your sites, do you mean that he’s physically getting on your physical computer to check your browsing history? ---
**Author:** ![slm2955](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c6cbf5/32.png) [@slm2955](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slm2955)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/8 "2012-01-18T20:01:12Z")
> [@tdn](#): > > Coworker? Roommate? Family member? > > When you say he’s checking your sites, do you mean that he’s physically getting on your physical computer to check your browsing history? Nah,from his computer & we’ve never met and that what makes this sooo creepy… ---
**Author:** ![slm2955](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c6cbf5/32.png) [@slm2955](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slm2955)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/9 "2012-01-18T20:02:12Z")
But it’s my fault though for being so candid and naive on the net, that’s what I get, lesson learned. ---
**Author:** ![MacTech](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c0e974/32.png) [@MacTech](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MacTech)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/10 "2012-01-18T20:03:50Z")
A sniper? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![slm2955](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c6cbf5/32.png) [@slm2955](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slm2955)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 8:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/11 "2012-01-18T20:08:41Z")
> [@MacTech](#): > > A sniper? > 😉 Maybe:confused: ---
**Author:** ![PacifistPorcupine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@PacifistPorcupine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PacifistPorcupine)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/12 "2012-01-18T20:09:50Z")
How do you know he’s checking the sites you are on? ---
**Author:** ![slm2955](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c6cbf5/32.png) [@slm2955](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slm2955)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/13 "2012-01-18T20:18:28Z")
> [@PacifistPorcupine](#): > > How do you know he’s checking the sites you are on? He makes it known ---
**Author:** ![campp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@campp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/campp)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 8:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/14 "2012-01-18T20:19:40Z")
Change your user name(s)? ---
**Author:** ![slm2955](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c6cbf5/32.png) [@slm2955](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slm2955)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/15 "2012-01-18T20:27:44Z")
> [@campp](#): > > Change your user name(s)? I wish I could but can’t…that’s why I was gonna just stop logging on. Thanks anyways ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 8:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/16 "2012-01-18T20:30:52Z")
> [@slm2955](#): > > So I take it no one on here has ever had a stalker:confused: I have. The solution I found is to make friends with them and then they are a friend that is interested in your life rather than a stalker. Three of my four stalkers are now best friends of mine. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/17 "2012-01-18T20:33:15Z")
> [@slm2955](#): > > He makes it known How? ---
**Author:** ![slm2955](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c6cbf5/32.png) [@slm2955](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slm2955)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/18 "2012-01-18T20:53:32Z")
> [@Drunky\_Smurf](#): > > How? Quoting me & stuff ---
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/19 "2012-01-18T21:09:13Z")
Stalk (or lurk) him right back. The world is made up of two types, the victim and the perpetrator, and you don’t want to be the victim. See if you can creep him right out. ---
**Author:** ![slm2955](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c6cbf5/32.png) [@slm2955](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slm2955)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2012, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922/20 "2012-01-18T21:16:17Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > Stalk (or lurk) him right back. The world is made up of two types, the victim and the perpetrator, and you don’t want to be the victim. See if you can creep him right out. Haha nah, stalking him is not at all entertaining I just want some peace… [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/609922.md?page=2)