# What Is The Gay Equivalent For The Expression 'P\*ssy-Whipped'? **URL:** \ **Category:** Factual Questions\ **Created:** [May 14, 2004, 2:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-gay-equivalent-for-the-expression-p-ssy-whipped/245116 "2004-05-14T14:52:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 16\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Surreal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eada6e/32.png) [@Surreal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Surreal)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2004, 2:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-gay-equivalent-for-the-expression-p-ssy-whipped/245116/1 "2004-05-14T14:52:12Z")
We’ve all heard the expression ‘p\*ssy-whipped’ to describe a man who is completely controlled by his female partner who withholds from him sexually in order to get what she wants. Is there an equivalent term for a gay man who is completely controlled by his partner? What is it?? Thanks. ---
**Author:** ![Revtim](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/revtim/32/1042_2.png) [@Revtim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Revtim)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2004, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-gay-equivalent-for-the-expression-p-ssy-whipped/245116/2 "2004-05-14T15:00:11Z")
I think I’ve heard “dick whipped” used to refer to women controlled by men, and although I guess that could apply to a gay couple, probably the gay community has some more clever and less derivative. ---
**Author:** ![Wasabee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f05b48/32.png) [@Wasabee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wasabee)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2004, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-gay-equivalent-for-the-expression-p-ssy-whipped/245116/3 "2004-05-14T15:57:36Z")
I’ve heard: “Cock-oled” ---
**Author:** ![Horatio\_Hellpop](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e5b9ba/32.png) [@Horatio\_Hellpop](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Horatio_Hellpop)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2004, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-gay-equivalent-for-the-expression-p-ssy-whipped/245116/4 "2004-05-14T17:58:19Z")
“Bottom,” or “submissive.” Those might be specific to the sexual aspect of the relationship, though. ---
**Author:** ![Excalibre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/898d66/32.png) [@Excalibre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Excalibre)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2004, 11:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-gay-equivalent-for-the-expression-p-ssy-whipped/245116/5 "2004-05-14T23:56:03Z")
> [@Krokodil](#): > > “Bottom,” or “submissive.” Those might be specific to the sexual aspect of the relationship, though. Yeah, that’s a sexual term that some who are interested in D/S (dominance and submission) use - note that this term has counterparts in the straight D/S scene. Nothing related to the OP, really. If there _is_ any gay equivalent to “pussy-whipped”, I’ve never heard it. ---
**Author:** ![moriah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b2d939/32.png) [@moriah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moriah)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2004, 8:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-gay-equivalent-for-the-expression-p-ssy-whipped/245116/6 "2004-05-18T08:00:01Z")
Trust me, gay men would have no qualms about embracing a female engendered term without translation (e.g., ‘queen’). Thus, it’s ‘pussy whipped’ for gay men, too. Peace. ---
**Author:** ![Bangiadore](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b5a626/32.png) [@Bangiadore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bangiadore)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2004, 11:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-gay-equivalent-for-the-expression-p-ssy-whipped/245116/7 "2004-05-18T11:35:32Z")
Codependent? ---
**Author:** ![KidCharlemagne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ed8c4c/32.png) [@KidCharlemagne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KidCharlemagne)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2004, 12:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-gay-equivalent-for-the-expression-p-ssy-whipped/245116/8 "2004-05-18T12:36:32Z")
Cock-slapped. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2004, 12:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-gay-equivalent-for-the-expression-p-ssy-whipped/245116/9 "2004-05-18T12:57:23Z")
What about the gender neutral “whipped,” which (from my experience at least), is much more often used than “pussy-whipped.” ---
**Author:** ![moriah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b2d939/32.png) [@moriah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moriah)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2004, 2:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-gay-equivalent-for-the-expression-p-ssy-whipped/245116/10 "2004-05-18T14:55:27Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > What about the gender neutral “whipped,” which (from my experience at least), is much more often used than “pussy-whipped.” You must be spending a lot of time in Christian, mixed, and genteel company. The ‘pussy’ is often dropped because it’s a not-so-pleasant moniker of the female genitalia. In locker room parlance and on premium channel cable TV, it is not dropped. Peace. ---
**Author:** ![stpauler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9d8465/32.png) [@stpauler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stpauler)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2004, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-gay-equivalent-for-the-expression-p-ssy-whipped/245116/11 "2004-05-18T14:57:08Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > What about the gender neutral “whipped,” which (from my experience at least), is much more often used than “pussy-whipped.” I’ve heard whipped/dickwhipped/cockwhipped before. Whipped being the more common of 'em. ---
**Author:** ![Cyberpope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c57346/32.png) [@Cyberpope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyberpope)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2022, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-gay-equivalent-for-the-expression-p-ssy-whipped/245116/12 "2022-11-18T16:22:04Z")
The one used to refer to women is, apparently, C\*ck-slapped; Maybe the gay community uses it, too? Or I’d expect their version to have developed among the BDSM set, & to be more violpent in nature. ---
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No, we don’t talk to each other like that. ---
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