# What Is The Most Bizarre Sexual Request You've Received From A Partner? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 15, 2006, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766 "2006-08-15T03:24:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![ShelliBean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f9ae1b/32.png) [@ShelliBean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShelliBean)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/81 "2006-08-16T18:22:00Z")
[QUOTE=DrDeth] Here’s what I suggest- … [/QUOTE] I appreciate the suggestions. My past partners were either really uncomfortable with it (I suspect for the same reasons as you stated in a previous post). Now my husband just isn’t that into it. He’ll try, but a half-hearted effort really isn’t worth it to me. I don’t have anything that’s ever raised my eyebrows, but a friend did have a guy ask repeatedly to urinate in her when he was done, and another that requested to watch while she shit in a bucket. Apparently her excretory system holds a mystical lure to multiple men. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/82 "2006-08-16T18:46:16Z")
[QUOTE=DrDeth] One of my personal faves. 😉 **cmkeller** : good one. 😃 **pbbth** - Hi there, babe. 😉 I am a bit weirded out about requests to be Choked. BDSM- as in “spank me Daddy!” is OK by me, but nothing _too_ painful or dangerous. I met a girl once and she hinted strongly she was into Rape fantasies and that’s what she wanted as a “First Date”. Too scary for me. 20 years in Prison becuase no one believed that I thought that “she was _asking_ for it, really!” is too much of a risk. Now, later on in the relationship, maybe. [/QUOTE] You simply must tape such an encounter, from start (defined as the request) to finish (pillow talk afterwards) if you want to avoid jail time. ---
**Author:** ![934spe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/9/90db22/32.png) [@934spe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/934spe)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/83 "2006-08-16T18:51:05Z")
[QUOTE=Skald the Rhymer] You simply must tape such an encounter, from start (defined as the request) to finish (pillow talk afterwards) if you want to avoid jail time. [/QUOTE] Or you can at least sell the video online to help pay for your legal defense fees. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/84 "2006-08-16T19:13:07Z")
[QUOTE=melondeca] Wow, that was probably the grossest thing I have read on here in a long time. :eek: [/QUOTE] Considering some of the stuff I’ve read on these boards, that’s saying something. 🙂 This is something I’ll just never understand about some women- here’s this girl who gets off on some fairly disgusting things, but one comment from me about wanting to cum on her face is what almost broke us up. She was totally freaked out about just the idea of it, and asked me just who I thought she was to allow me to do something like that, etc. \ ---
**Author:** ![CookingWithGas](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cookingwithgas/32/485_2.png) [@CookingWithGas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CookingWithGas)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 7:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/85 "2006-08-16T19:14:01Z")
[QUOTE=DrDeth] Giving someone bruises on the neck when that’ll cause problems at work is a BAD thing. [/QUOTE] [Death](http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/08/09/AR2006080901486.html) is also undesirable. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![CookingWithGas](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cookingwithgas/32/485_2.png) [@CookingWithGas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CookingWithGas)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/86 "2006-08-16T19:16:30Z")
[QUOTE=McNew] This is something I’ll just never understand about some women- here’s this girl who gets off on some fairly disgusting things, but one comment from me about wanting to cum on her face is what almost broke us up. She was totally freaked out about just the idea of it, and asked me just who I thought she was to allow me to do something like that, etc. \ [/QUOTE] OK, on cross-examination, what were the digusting things she liked? Just so we are comparing apples to apples here. ---
**Author:** ![Thalion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f475e1/32.png) [@Thalion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thalion)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 7:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/87 "2006-08-16T19:25:53Z")
[QUOTE=CookingWithGas] OK, on cross-examination, what were the digusting things she liked? Just so we are comparing apples to apples here. [/QUOTE] Read post #69 (how appropriate!) above. I think you’ll see **McNew** ’s point. ---
**Author:** ![ShelliBean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f9ae1b/32.png) [@ShelliBean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShelliBean)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/88 "2006-08-16T19:31:14Z")
[QUOTE=CookingWithGas] [Death](http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/08/09/AR2006080901486.html) is also undesirable. :eek: [/QUOTE] I’ve never requested it from anyone I didn’t fully trust, and I chose a safe word that is understandable through gasps. and no, I’m not going to tell it because discussing fetishes online is somehow OK, and giving out my safe word is somehow too intimate. I have no idea why my mind works the way it does. ---
**Author:** ![Beadalin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3be4f8/32.png) [@Beadalin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beadalin)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/89 "2006-08-16T19:35:39Z")
> [@Apricot](#): > > While we were having sex, he wanted to hear all about the guy I last had sex with - how I seduced him, what the exact physical sensations were, what he looked like during, etc. Me too! And I gotta say that I wasn’t comfortable with it. I’ll go to town on all sorts of physical stuff, but somehow that felt like an invasion of my privacy AND the privacy of the other guy. ---
**Author:** ![Licentious\_Ectomorph](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/5e9695/32.png) [@Licentious\_Ectomorph](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Licentious_Ectomorph)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 7:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/90 "2006-08-16T19:38:08Z")
[QUOTE=McNew] This is something I’ll just never understand about some women- here’s this girl who gets off on some fairly disgusting things, but one comment from me about wanting to cum on her face is what almost broke us up. She was totally freaked out about just the idea of it, and asked me just who I thought she was to allow me to do something like that, etc. \ [/QUOTE] Well, it does burn if it gets in the eyes. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/91 "2006-08-16T19:44:51Z")
[QUOTE=CookingWithGas] OK, on cross-examination, what were the digusting things she liked? Just so we are comparing apples to apples here. [/QUOTE] As **Thalion** said, my two posts upthread were mainly what I was referring to. The only other thing that made her objection (from post #84) so surprising was that she loved- LOVED- giving me head. Told me she could do it all day. As I would leak pre-cum, she would say “oops! can’t let that go to waste!” and lick it up as it dripped down the shaft. Always told me how much she loved the taste of it, and one night she came over to cook me dinner and jerked me off onto the food on her plate before we sat down to eat. So, that kind of thing. ---
**Author:** ![Dragwyr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dragwyr/32/2855_2.png) [@Dragwyr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dragwyr)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/92 "2006-08-16T20:10:04Z")
[QUOTE=McNew] As **Thalion** said, my two posts upthread were mainly what I was referring to. The only other thing that made her objection (from post #84) so surprising was that she loved- LOVED- giving me head. Told me she could do it all day. As I would leak pre-cum, she would say “oops! can’t let that go to waste!” and lick it up as it dripped down the shaft. Always told me how much she loved the taste of it, and one night she came over to cook me dinner and jerked me off onto the food on her plate before we sat down to eat. So, that kind of thing. [/QUOTE] And I think we have a winner here. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/93 "2006-08-16T20:26:14Z")
[QUOTE=Antinor01] I’ve done a lot of bizarre sexual things, but the one that freaked me out was when a female wanted sex with me. I’m a gay male so I consider that a bizarre sexual request that totally wierds me out. 😃 [/QUOTE] Hey, expand your horizons, dude! I’m a straight male, and I didn’t think it was **bizarre** to be hit on by another man on the two or three times it’s happened. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/94 "2006-08-16T20:28:18Z")
[QUOTE=Skald the Rhymer] Hey, expand your horizons, dude! I’m a straight male, and I didn’t think it was **bizarre** to be hit on by another man on the two or three times it’s happened. [/QUOTE] By the way, I don’t mean that you need to start sleeping with women when I say to expand your horizons. I just mean that.. hmm, I’m not sure what I mean. Just what I DON’T mean. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/95 "2006-08-16T20:42:41Z")
[QUOTE=Skald the Rhymer] Hey, expand your horizons, dude! I’m a straight male, and I didn’t think it was **bizarre** to be hit on by another man on the two or three times it’s happened. [/QUOTE] The part that was the most bizarre was that she knew I was gay, I told her several times, and it wasn’t even like an “I want to convert a gay guy” thing…it was more like that’s why she wanted to. The whole thing was just really wierd the way it played out. ---
**Author:** ![Dorjan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dorjan/32/12440_2.png) [@Dorjan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dorjan)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/96 "2006-08-16T20:46:17Z")
[QUOTE=McNew] As **Thalion** said, my two posts upthread were mainly what I was referring to. The only other thing that made her objection (from post #84) so surprising was that she loved- LOVED- giving me head. Told me she could do it all day. As I would leak pre-cum, she would say “oops! can’t let that go to waste!” and lick it up as it dripped down the shaft. Always told me how much she loved the taste of it, and one night she came over to cook me dinner and jerked me off onto the food on her plate before we sat down to eat. So, that kind of thing. [/QUOTE] Did she ever pan fry it? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![AskNott](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asknott/32/5790_2.png) [@AskNott](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AskNott)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/97 "2006-08-16T20:54:06Z")
I met a girl at a party who said she’d do me if I beat her first. So, I got out the Trivial Pursuit game. I won, of course, and she kept her promise. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 9:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/98 "2006-08-16T21:37:09Z")
[QUOTE=Dorjän] Did she ever pan fry it? 😃 [/QUOTE] mmmmmmm, nope. She probably would have found that disgusting. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 10:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/99 "2006-08-16T22:24:28Z")
[QUOTE=Antinor01] The part that was the most bizarre was that she knew I was gay, I told her several times, and it wasn’t even like an “I want to convert a gay guy” thing…it was more like that’s why she wanted to. The whole thing was just really wierd the way it played out. [/QUOTE] Hmm. In that case, a better analogy from my own life would be white women who’ve wanted to sleep with me because I’m black, and miscegenation, in ther minds, is wrong; that is, the desire had little to do with me as a person and more to do with their own weird mores. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766/100 "2006-08-16T22:27:12Z")
[QUOTE=Antinor01] The part that was the most bizarre was that she knew I was gay, I told her several times, and it wasn’t even like an “I want to convert a gay guy” thing…it was more like that’s why she wanted to. The whole thing was just really wierd the way it played out. [/QUOTE] Hmm. In that case, a better analogy from my own life would be white women who’ve wanted to sleep with me because I’m black, and miscegenation, in their minds, is wrong; that is, the desire had little to do with me as a person and more to do with their own weird mores. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-most-bizarre-sexual-request-youve-received-from-a-partner/368766.md?page=6)