# What is the tamest sexual request you've had rejected by a partner? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 16, 2006, 3:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952 "2006-08-16T15:11:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a9a28c/32.png) [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pseudotriton_ruber_ruber)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 3:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/1 "2006-08-16T15:11:50Z")
As in, “I don’t want to do that [vanilla-type sexual act]–that’s gross!” When I was in college, I started to go down on a young lady who pushed my head away from her nether-regions, saying “I don’t like that.” You don’t like oral sex? "Everybody doesn’t like something, but NOBODY doesn’t like getting head. " I sometimes wonder if that girl ever acquired a taste for oral sex, or if she’s persisted in rejecting offers to go down on her all these years. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 3:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/2 "2006-08-16T15:49:30Z")
In grade 11, Susan B. wouldn’t let me feel her up even though we were lying on her bed at the time. ☹😃 ---
**Author:** ![ASAKMOTSD](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/919ad9/32.png) [@ASAKMOTSD](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ASAKMOTSD)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/3 "2006-08-16T16:44:02Z")
> [@QuickSilver](#): > > In grade 11, Susan B. wouldn’t let me feel her up even though we were lying on her bed at the time. > > ☹😃 You went to school with Susan B. Anthony? :eek: ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/4 "2006-08-16T17:06:00Z")
> [@ASAKMOTSD](#): > > You went to school with Susan B. Anthony? :eek: **B** raunstein. She had like DD’s back then. ---
**Author:** ![Mouse\_Maven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac91a4/32.png) [@Mouse\_Maven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mouse_Maven)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/5 "2006-08-16T17:07:11Z")
Please wash your hands. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/6 "2006-08-16T17:48:43Z")
> [@pseudotriton ruber ruber](#): > > As in, “I don’t want to do that [vanilla-type sexual act]–that’s gross!” > > When I was in college, I started to go down on a young lady who pushed my head away from her nether-regions, saying “I don’t like that.” > > You don’t like oral sex? "Everybody doesn’t like something, but NOBODY doesn’t like getting head. " ::raises hand:: I don’t like getting head. Mouths…yicch! ---
**Author:** ![kimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f0a364/32.png) [@kimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kimera)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/7 "2006-08-16T18:17:49Z")
I wanted to try some light bondage like tying her up with silk scarves or something. She refused at first and didn’t let me try it until much later when we were friends with benefits instead of romantic interests. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/8 "2006-08-16T18:24:53Z")
I had a bf once who definitely preferred having the lights off during sex. I thought men were supposed to be so visual? ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/9 "2006-08-16T18:40:39Z")
I once asked my wife if she’d consider watching a porn movie on PPV with me and ‘acting out some of the scenes’. Nothing painful, no ‘off-limits’ inputs…just doing the same positions the actors were doing. I was told no, because I might be watching the actress more than / instead of her. 😕 :smack: ---
**Author:** ![The\_Why\_Bird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e9bcb4/32.png) [@The\_Why\_Bird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Why_Bird)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/10 "2006-08-16T18:41:23Z")
> [@pseudotriton ruber ruber](#): > > You don’t like oral sex? "Everybody doesn’t like something, but NOBODY doesn’t like getting head. " another vote for ‘I don’t like this’. And yes I’ve tried it. And yes I’ve had it done right. I wouldn’t call it gross, but I don’t want it either ---
**Author:** ![Amaranta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Amaranta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amaranta)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/11 "2006-08-16T18:43:04Z")
> [@twickster](#): > > I had a bf once who definitely preferred having the lights off during sex. I thought men were supposed to be so visual? Yah, I dated a guy like this. The first time we had sex, he went to turn off the light. I’m like, “No, that’s not necessary _wink_”, thinking it was for my benefit. Him: “Yah, it is”. Hmmm… and everytime it was lights off. I mean, we showered together and stuff, it’s not like he had some hideous deformity he was trying to hide, or didn’t want to see me naked or anything. And he rejected every sexual request I had. That relationship didn’t last long. ---
**Author:** ![susan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/susan/32/17537_2.png) [@susan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/susan)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/12 "2006-08-16T19:24:11Z")
Well, the tamest sexual request I’ve had rejected is, “Are you interested?” ---
**Author:** ![Oy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bc8723/32.png) [@Oy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oy)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 7:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/13 "2006-08-16T19:52:30Z")
Another vote for no interest in being on the receiving end, here. Fifty years old, don’t think it’s gonna change. ---
**Author:** ![Carnac\_the\_Magnificent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Carnac\_the\_Magnificent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Carnac_the_Magnificent)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/14 "2006-08-16T19:56:43Z")
> [@twickster](#): > > I had a bf once who definitely preferred having the lights off during sex. I thought men were supposed to be so visual? Forgive me, but the contrast setting on my new GameBoy wasn’t working. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/15 "2006-08-16T19:59:02Z")
I would have to say the tamest requests I’ve had rejected would be oral, both giving and receiving. ---
**Author:** ![AskNott](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asknott/32/5790_2.png) [@AskNott](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AskNott)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/16 "2006-08-16T20:16:24Z")
My high school gf would take anal, but would not give head. ---
**Author:** ![simster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/simster/32/1047_2.png) [@simster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/simster)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 8:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/17 "2006-08-16T20:20:09Z")
> [@AskNott](#): > > My high school gf would take anal, but would not give head. Well, depending on the order of events, one could understand why! ---
**Author:** ![pbbth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f9ae1b/32.png) [@pbbth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pbbth)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/18 "2006-08-16T20:22:32Z")
I once had a bf try to lick my feet during sex and I was not up for that. I also once asked a bf to have sex with me in a parking lot in the back seat of his van and he freaked out and said no because he didn’t want to be caught. You will never hear me complain about being on the recieving end of oral sex though. In my experience oral sex is always good, whether you are giving or recieving. ---
**Author:** ![bouv](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bc8723/32.png) [@bouv](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bouv)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2006, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/19 "2006-08-16T23:40:32Z")
Yeah, I had a girlfriend who didn’t like getting oral. She also didn’t like giving it, nor did two other of my past girlfriends. ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2006, 12:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/20 "2006-08-17T00:54:11Z")
> [@Shoshana](#): > > Well, the tamest sexual request I’ve had rejected is, “Are you interested?” Really, I would have assumed at some point or another every one of us has had just the plain simple proposition of sex itself be rejected, never mind proceeding to actual selection of specific routines. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952.md?page=2)