# What is the tamest sexual request you've had rejected by a partner? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 16, 2006, 3:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952 "2006-08-16T15:11:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2006, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/61 "2006-08-21T16:12:13Z")
[QUOTE=gigi] When I was briefly sexually active lo these many years ago, my one ongoing partner and I were both in our very early 20s. Even when he wasn’t worn out from sleeping with other people, he would refuse what I felt was a very reasonable request for a young couple: sex every day. Is it too much to ask?? [/QUOTE] Isn’t it usually the woman who’s supposed to balk at the idea of daily sex? 🙂 And, if I may ask, why only “briefly,” and “many years ago?” ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2006, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/62 "2006-08-21T16:20:15Z")
[QUOTE=OneCentStamp] Isn’t it usually the woman who’s supposed to balk at the idea of daily sex? 🙂 And, if I may ask, why only “briefly,” and “many years ago?” [/QUOTE] I got inspiration from God to return to the straight and narrow. ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2006, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/63 "2006-08-21T16:25:03Z")
[QUOTE=gigi] I got inspiration from God to return to the straight and narrow. [/QUOTE] Provided I’m not whooshed, does this mean you are now celibate for religious reasons and have been for many years? Are you mayhap even a nun (of an order that allows net-connected computers, of course)? If either, I’d be interested in an “Ask the [celibate/nun]” thread. ---
**Author:** ![appleciders](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85f322/32.png) [@appleciders](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/appleciders)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2006, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/64 "2006-08-21T17:47:56Z")
[QUOTE=Jophiel] I once dated a girl who wouldn’t let my mouth anywhere near her breasts. Kissing, licking, whatever – she’d immediately push my head away and say “No”. She had no issues with receiving oral though, just the breast thing. [/QUOTE] I’ve been there. She described it as “Oedipal”, which does make sense in a way, I suppose. Funny thing was, we’d been doing that for months when she made this decision, then changed her mind again a few weeks later. ---
**Author:** ![Draelin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ce73a5/32.png) [@Draelin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Draelin)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2006, 6:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/65 "2006-08-21T18:06:54Z")
[QUOTE=OneCentStamp] Isn’t it usually the woman who’s supposed to balk at the idea of daily sex? 🙂 [/QUOTE] I had an eighteen-year-old boyfriend who wouldn’t do it more than once a week. _Maybe_ twice, if I really begged. Gave me a bit of a complex, it did. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2006, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/66 "2006-08-21T19:59:38Z")
[QUOTE=Priceguy] Provided I’m not whooshed, does this mean you are now celibate for religious reasons and have been for many years? Are you mayhap even a nun (of an order that allows net-connected computers, of course)? If either, I’d be interested in an “Ask the [celibate/nun]” thread. [/QUOTE] I am celibate for religious reasons, and have at times felt a calling to become a nun. Not there yet, but perhaps partway there, as an option. You could ask me here, I guess, I can’t imagine how much interest there would be in no action. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2006, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/67 "2006-08-21T20:00:46Z")
[QUOTE=Draelin] I had an eighteen-year-old boyfriend who wouldn’t do it more than once a week. _Maybe_ twice, if I really begged. Gave me a bit of a complex, it did. :rolleyes: [/QUOTE] Sorry, I didn’t see this. Exactly! Shouldn’t he be ready to go too?? ---
**Author:** ![BiblioCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ed8c4c/32.png) [@BiblioCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BiblioCat)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2006, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/68 "2006-08-21T20:02:52Z")
[QUOTE=Draelin] I had an eighteen-year-old boyfriend who wouldn’t do it more than once a week. _Maybe_ twice, if I really begged. [/QUOTE] I think I was married to him! My first husband woudn’t (couldn’t?) do it more than once a week. He was 24 when we got married. I understand the complex… ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2006, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/69 "2006-08-21T20:23:41Z")
A college girlfriend didn’t like to give or receive oral, but she was constantly horny and we’d have missionary or cowgirl sex as often as we could get some alone time- which usually only happened a few times a week. On my birthday she treated me to oral and let me do her in return, but only because we were pretty liquored up and we slathered each other in whipped cream. So it was more like a sexual dessert for her, b/c she couldn’t face the idea of actually _putting that thing in her mouth_. The horror! ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2006, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/70 "2006-08-21T20:53:26Z")
[QUOTE=gigi] I am celibate for religious reasons, and have at times felt a calling to become a nun. Not there yet, but perhaps partway there, as an option. You could ask me here, I guess, I can’t imagine how much interest there would be in no action. 🙂 [/QUOTE] Nah, I think “Ask the woman who’s thinking of becoming a nun” would get a lot of action. So to speak. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Mudd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f14d63/32.png) [@Larry\_Mudd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Mudd)\ **Post date:** [August 22, 2006, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/71 "2006-08-22T00:10:03Z")
[QUOTE=appleciders] I’ve been there. She described it as “Oedipal”, which does make sense in a way, I suppose. [/QUOTE] Something in that. > [@James Joyce](#): > > …if I only could remember the I half of the things and write a book out of it the works of Master Poldy yes and its so much smoother the skin much an hour he was at them I’m sure by the clock like some kind of a big infant I had at me they want everything in their mouth all the pleasure those men get out of a woman I can feel his mouth O Lord I must stretch myself I wished he was here or somebody to let myself go with and come again like that I feel all fire inside me… 😃 ---
**Author:** ![raz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/9f8e36/32.png) [@raz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raz)\ **Post date:** [August 22, 2006, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/72 "2006-08-22T01:36:47Z")
The boyfriend says that he doesn’t get off on oral sex, so I usually don’t give it to him. Which is kind of sad because I don’t mind doing it. I will as part of foreplay or whatever, and he says I’m really good at it (he best not be lying!) but I just think it’s kind of weird. But we have regular sex quite a bit when we see each other so it’s not really like anything is lacking. Sometimes a girl just wants a dick in her mouth, ya know? KIDDING. I’m kidding. That was crass. ---
**Author:** ![Malienation](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4af34b/32.png) [@Malienation](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malienation)\ **Post date:** [August 22, 2006, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/73 "2006-08-22T03:05:23Z")
[QUOTE=AskNott] My high school gf would take anal, but would not give head. [/QUOTE] I hear you. Oddly, I had the same thing going on in high school in the 70’s, gf would absolutely not blow me (but I ate her out) but was damn enthusiastic about taking it in the ass, hard. Odd tradeoff, never got what was going on in her head about not giving head… ---
**Author:** ![China\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/779978/32.png) [@China\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/China_Guy)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2006, 12:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952/74 "2006-08-23T00:41:50Z")
Had a few girlfriends that didn’t like to kiss me after I gave oral. Even after wiping my face off on the sheets. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-the-tamest-sexual-request-youve-had-rejected-by-a-partner/368952.md?page=3)