# What is your longest/shortest sex session **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 29, 2016, 1:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185 "2016-07-29T13:04:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2016, 7:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/41 "2016-08-02T07:32:01Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > What context? Do you really think gay sex is all about erections? There are many things we do than don’t require either of us to have one. Ok, tell me then. What sex do you have that doesn’t involve an erection. I’m not being snarky ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2016, 8:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/42 "2016-08-02T08:24:17Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Ok, tell me then. What sex do you have that doesn’t involve an erection. I’m not being snarky A better way to phrase it is, what sex do you have that doesn’t at least _cause_ an erection (regardless of whether or not it is actually involved in that sex)? ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2016, 8:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/43 "2016-08-02T20:38:40Z")
[Mood Music](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AT7ZEtpr16c). (SFW) ---
**Author:** ![spamforbrains](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e274bd/32.png) [@spamforbrains](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/spamforbrains)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2016, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/44 "2016-08-02T20:42:49Z")
> [@](#): > > Ok, tell me then. What sex do you have that doesn’t involve an erection. I’m not being snarky I’m a woman so I never get erections but have had sex. A lot. Have you never heard of vibrators, dildos, fingers, tongues, etc.? The male erection part of sex is often the least interesting part of it. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2016, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/45 "2016-08-03T00:02:22Z")
> [@spamforbrains](#): > > I’m a woman so I never get erections but have had sex. A lot. Have you never heard of vibrators, dildos, fingers, tongues, etc.? The male erection part of sex is often the least interesting part of it. I don’t understand how this applies to the question I asked. For an experience to be sex between two men and fingers or tongues are involved, it would involve an erect penis as well. ---
**Author:** ![aruvqan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aruvqan/32/2891_2.png) [@aruvqan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aruvqan)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2016, 3:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/46 "2016-08-03T03:14:03Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Ok, tell me then. What sex do you have that doesn’t involve an erection. I’m not being snarky When my husband is in bed [or wherever] with me and stimulating me with whichever body part he is using [it can be fingers, tongue, penis and various combinations of the above, or a sex toy. He does not need to be doing penis in vagina for it to be considered sex.] Longest, 3 hours [with one or the other climaxing, alternately. Not everybody screws to completion simultaneously, you can take turns getting off and if it is all one playtime in bed, it can be several hours of playtime.] Shortest - I once got a guy off [it was a bet between us] in about 2 minutes, and the fastest someone has gotten me off [again, a bet between us - he did not get off, that wasn’t part of the bet] in about 7 minutes. The fastest that a partner and I managed to both get off was around 11 minutes. [He got me off first then followed shortly after] ---
**Author:** ![Casey1505](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dc4da7/32.png) [@Casey1505](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Casey1505)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2016, 3:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/47 "2016-08-03T03:30:26Z")
Longest: [Disc played through twice.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jqhLWQqdLqg) Shortest: considerably less time. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2016, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/48 "2016-08-03T03:53:05Z")
> [@aruvqan](#): > > When my husband is in bed [or wherever] with me and stimulating me with whichever body part he is using [it can be fingers, tongue, penis and various combinations of the above, or a sex toy. He does not need to be doing penis in vagina for it to be considered sex.] Again, not what I’m asking. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2016, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/49 "2016-08-03T03:59:14Z")
> [@aruvqan](#): > > When my husband is in bed [or wherever] with me and stimulating me with whichever body part he is using [it can be fingers, tongue, penis and various combinations of the above, or a sex toy. He does not need to be doing penis in vagina for it to be considered sex. If, you were a man (as is **panache 45** ), your husband would be using his tongue and/or fingers on your **erect penis**. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2016, 10:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/50 "2016-08-03T10:36:00Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > If, you were a man (as is **panache 45** ), your husband would be using his tongue and/or fingers on your **erect penis**. So you’re saying that you are your own grandpa? ---
**Author:** ![aruvqan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aruvqan/32/2891_2.png) [@aruvqan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aruvqan)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2016, 2:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/51 "2016-08-03T14:49:02Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > If, you were a man (as is **panache 45** ), your husband would be using his tongue and/or fingers on your **erect penis**. There are way more erogenous zones on a human body than a penis, the human body is a veritable playground of places to stimulate. you can start by gentle kisses on the face, work your way down the neck [the notch in the collarbone is a favorite] to the torso [men have nipples too you know] and tease by playing all around the groin area without even touching the penis … or you could get a bottle of massage oil and give a wonderful erotic whole body massage without once touching the penis and have the man just quivering and begging for release … 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2016, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/52 "2016-08-03T18:08:43Z")
> [@aruvqan](#): > > There are way more erogenous zones on a human body than a penis, the human body is a veritable playground of places to stimulate. you can start by gentle kisses on the face, work your way down the neck [the notch in the collarbone is a favorite] to the torso [men have nipples too you know] and tease by playing all around the groin area without even touching the penis … or you could get a bottle of massage oil and give a wonderful erotic whole body massage without once touching the penis and have the man just quivering and begging for release … 😃 Uh huh. But if a man is sexually aroused, he will have an erection, regardless of whether or not said erection is passive or active. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2016, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/53 "2016-08-03T19:11:23Z")
Longest session-Pleasuring(and being pleasured by) between 2 and 7 partners at any given time over a 7 hour period. Shortest session-Quickie in the back of the bus, 4 minutes. ---
**Author:** ![spamforbrains](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e274bd/32.png) [@spamforbrains](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/spamforbrains)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2016, 2:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/54 "2016-08-04T02:27:15Z")
> [@](#): > > But if a man is sexually aroused, he will have an erection, regardless of whether or not said erection is passive or active. Not always true. It’s also apparently quite possible for a man to orgasm without an erection. Or even a penis. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2016, 3:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/55 "2016-08-04T03:13:05Z")
> [@spamforbrains](#): > > Not always true. It’s also apparently quite possible for a man to orgasm without an erection. Or even a penis. Ok but I’m not talking about every-single-time-ever. There are always outliers and exceptions. ---
**Author:** ![Leo\_Bloom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leo_bloom/32/10377_2.png) [@Leo\_Bloom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leo_Bloom)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2016, 3:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/56 "2016-08-04T15:14:42Z")
> [@MeanJoe](#): > > Many years ago, when I was still my 20’s, I visited a g/f who was working out in San Diego for the summer. We got high-high-HIGH one night and had sex for what seemed like 4-5 hours. > > So… probably only about 10 minutes in non-stoned time. Interesting you mention this record: mine is the opposite, for shortest, or probably should be counted in some parallel time dimension: I was so high either I came instantly or just missed noticing it, because all I remember remembering was falling into her lips and arms and looking down at a mess and she was evidently finished with me. I can’t remember if she looked satisfied or not, which would have given me a clue for how long I was out. ETA: I don’t think premature ejaculation should count in this thread, if it is a real and continuing issue. I’ve never experience it, except, as I say, perhaps for the one time above. ---
**Author:** ![Leo\_Bloom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leo_bloom/32/10377_2.png) [@Leo\_Bloom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leo_Bloom)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2016, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/57 "2016-08-04T15:25:24Z")
Well, hell, since I mentioned a) drugs and b) premature ejaculation and my experience thereof and c) didn’t get to the other side of OP (and d) I know readers here would be sad if I didn’t tell them all), my _longest_ time(s)–OP has “sex session” only–were those leading to the mindblowingly spectacular release of my wife whispering into my ear: “are there any more magazines around here?” I take massive amounts of antidepressants and other psych lovelies. Anorgasmia is no fun, almost worse than no libido, or hard-on proof of it, at all. It’s not like, as some people may say, “oh, that’s great, she must love it that you can go so long. You usually have to buy a spray for your dick for that.” Sex doesn’t work just like that. Luckily. ---
**Author:** ![OffByOne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/45deac/32.png) [@OffByOne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OffByOne)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2016, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/58 "2016-08-04T20:15:16Z")
4+ hours with a video tape Maybe 5 minutes or less when I was in a hurry Both times, completely alone. ---
**Author:** ![actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e79b87/32.png) [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/actualliberalnotoneofthose)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2016, 6:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/59 "2016-08-06T06:05:13Z")
The first time was about 3 hours. A year later with the same partner it was about 3 seconds. For many years with my wife I think my body had programmed itself to just get it over with as soon as possible, so it was consistently a minute or 2. ---
**Author:** ![actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e79b87/32.png) [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/actualliberalnotoneofthose)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2016, 6:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185/60 "2016-08-06T06:09:07Z")
> [@Leo\_Bloom](#): > > I take massive amounts of antidepressants and other psych lovelies. Anorgasmia is no fun, almost worse than no libido, or hard-on proof of it, at all. I guess I blocked this time period out of my mind. I had a GF who insisted I get on anti-depressants. When I did she was constantly pissed at me as well as personally offended by my inability to finish. Then she called me gay. She was a mental health professional, too. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-your-longest-shortest-sex-session/761185.md?page=4)