# What movie couple's relationship is your ideal? **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [January 13, 2003, 5:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256 "2003-01-13T05:49:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Monstre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e274bd/32.png) [@Monstre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monstre)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 5:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/1 "2003-01-13T05:49:57Z")
What “couple” in the movies (or TV) has a relationship that you would like to have (either with existing SO or imaginary but potential future SO)? We’re talking about your ideal, not your current reality (although feel free to share the latter as well, if you like). For me, I’ve always liked the relationship between Gomez and Morticia in the 1991 **Addams Family** movie. Okay, so they are a bit cheesy, and a little morbid… BUT, after many years of being together, they are still incredibly IN to each other. It’s exemplified by this exchange (one of my favorites in the movie). They are showing Fester the ballroom, where they will hold a party… **Gomez** : Tish… How long has it been since we waltzed? **Morticia** : Oh, Gomez… _breathlessly_ hours… So, what movie or TV couple has your ideal relationship? ---
**Author:** ![Fnoonf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/f6c823/32.png) [@Fnoonf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fnoonf)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 6:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/2 "2003-01-13T06:46:45Z")
Something about the chemistry that Donnie’s parents have really intrigues me. I get the impression they were two off-beat people who kind of just found each other, and are still very much in love even after a whole bunch of years of marriage. And, ya know, are laid-back enough to be able to have a giggle when their kids say “fuckass” at the table. I’d like to have something like that. And I’m only 23. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Mith](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e36b37/32.png) [@Mith](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mith)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 12:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/3 "2003-01-13T12:46:32Z")
“Whan a Man Loves a Woman” Even though the story is about the pressures of the couple, while the wife was going through rehab for alcoholism… I just loved how she could let herself been seen AT ROCK BOTTOM. I tend to distance myself from everyone when I am at my lowest. I’m afraid they will leave me once they see how weak I am, so I beat em to the punch. Fnoof, I can’t remember a thing about the parent’s in that movie. All I remember is the scary RABBIT thing and the smurf conversation. ---
**Author:** ![RealityChuck](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/realitychuck/32/195_2.png) [@RealityChuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RealityChuck)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 1:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/4 "2003-01-13T13:34:14Z")
Nick and Nora Charles. ---
**Author:** ![MovieMogul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f08c70/32.png) [@MovieMogul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MovieMogul)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/5 "2003-01-13T13:58:52Z")
Damn, RealityChuck beat me to it. Without a doubt, Nick & Nora. ---
**Author:** ![Labdad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/439d5e/32.png) [@Labdad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Labdad)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 3:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/6 "2003-01-13T15:14:53Z")
And a third vote for Nick and Nora. They have have a lot of money (Nora’s father left her “a lot of things,” including a railroad) and spend their time traveling with their dog, seeing old friends, making new ones, and drinking pretty much all day long. Oh, and every now and then they solve a murder! What’s not to love? ---
**Author:** ![psychotropic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/57b2e6/32.png) [@psychotropic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/psychotropic)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/7 "2003-01-13T15:36:19Z")
OK, I’m gonna be the token “chick” & the one who makes you all wanna vomit: my vote goes to Dawson & Joey (he simply CAN’T live without her … sob), 2nd place: Jerry & Dorothy in Jerry Macguire (he can’t live without her either … more tears) and lastly, little known film: Secret Admirer with Lori Loughlin & C. Thomas Howell (80’s flick) … he EVENTUALLY comes to his senses & dumps the gorgeous yet vacuously vain Kelly Preston for the “plain” yet sweet, lovely, down to earth Lori. Ahhhh. (Here I would insert a “smiley” with a tear rolling down its cheek). ---
**Author:** ![drm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a88e57/32.png) [@drm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drm)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/8 "2003-01-13T17:51:28Z")
Dr Mike and Nancy Burton on Ed. I think Dr Mike is just the coolest guy and his wife is just the total package as well. There characters also seem happy together. ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/9 "2003-01-13T17:55:40Z")
Legolas and Gimli. ---
**Author:** ![Avalonian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ee7513/32.png) [@Avalonian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Avalonian)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/10 "2003-01-13T18:40:48Z")
_laughs at **Qadgop** ’s answer_ Good call! 🙂 For my wife and I, it’s a toss-up. Our _ideal_ might be the short time Richard and Elise spent together in _Somewhere in Time_. In just a few days, they were completely in love, and I really admire how they just enjoy each other’s company. In a sort of bizarre coincidence, my name is also Richard and we were married on June 29 (the date on which Elise and Richard finally get together). For a more realistic ideal, I think I would choose Katie and Ben’s marriage in _The Story of Us_, just because they stick it out through tough times, and enjoy the good times. Fortunately, my wife and I have never been anywhere near that close to splitting up, but I appreciate how it was shown in the movie. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/11 "2003-01-13T18:58:26Z")
Tim and Jill Taylor, Home Improvement. Plus, I’d get to sleep with Patricia Richardson. Rowr. ---
**Author:** ![erislover](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/71e660/32.png) [@erislover](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/erislover)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 7:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/12 "2003-01-13T19:42:57Z")
Clarence and Alabama, True Romance. ---
**Author:** ![CrankyAsAnOldMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crankyasanoldman/32/11670_2.png) [@CrankyAsAnOldMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrankyAsAnOldMan)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 8:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/13 "2003-01-13T20:05:45Z")
I’d have to say Annie and Ray in **Field of Dreams**. She’s funny, down-to-earth, and supportive, even when her husband has some odd ideas. She seems to know how to make the best of things. In fact, this might sound weird, but thinking about her character after I saw that movie really helped reshape my outlook towards relationships at a time when I needed a change. I was getting a little too much into the “long suffering martyr” mode in all my relationships, and I didn’t like that. I saw it with my ex-boyfriend, and he mentioned her as one of the reasons he liked the movie, and it got me thinking. ---
**Author:** ![beckwall](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b487fb/32.png) [@beckwall](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/beckwall)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/14 "2003-01-13T20:12:07Z")
Ummmm…Fred and Wilma Flinstone? ---
**Author:** ![Sejal\_Traurig](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Sejal\_Traurig](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sejal_Traurig)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 8:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/15 "2003-01-13T20:20:33Z")
Gonna have to agree with Ethilrist as far as ideals go… Reality was something more akin to War of the Roses ---
**Author:** ![auntie\_em](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5e9695/32.png) [@auntie\_em](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/auntie_em)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/16 "2003-01-13T20:22:20Z")
Heh. Thelma Husband and Mr. Sprock in _Where the Heart Is_: “And we ask forgiveness, Lord, for the fornication that Mr. Sprock and me commited this morning on this very table.” 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/17 "2003-01-13T20:25:03Z")
There’s also Rob & Laura Petrie, but those separate beds would have to go. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 9:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/18 "2003-01-13T21:02:14Z")
The problem with Nick and Nora is that they’re a couple of drunks. Witty banter, yes, but have you actually watched one of these flicks recently? I think I’m gonna have to go with **Monstre** on Morticia and Gomez. Either that or the Harts of _Hart to Hart_ – rich, gorgeous, into each other, living la vida loca… ---
**Author:** ![Lizard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@Lizard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lizard)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/19 "2003-01-13T21:31:12Z")
Milly and Al Stephenson in “the Best Years of Our Lives.” Or maybe I’d just Myrna Loy, IRL. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Nymysys](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/f6c823/32.png) [@Nymysys](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nymysys)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/20 "2003-01-13T21:39:59Z")
For reality, I have to go with Marge and Norm Gunderson in Fargo. Talk about supportive and loving. No fireworks, no bi-polar ups and downs. Just, “I’ll make you some eggs”. If I wanted to go whack-job, I’d probably run with Sid and Nancy. 😃 [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256.md?page=2)