# What movie couple's relationship is your ideal? **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [January 13, 2003, 5:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256 "2003-01-13T05:49:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![moodtobestewed](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3ab097/32.png) [@moodtobestewed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moodtobestewed)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/21 "2003-01-13T21:50:04Z")
Harold and Maude. ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/22 "2003-01-13T21:52:57Z")
Damn. Nick and Nora have already been mentioned. Guess I’ll have to go with Mickey and Mallory from Natural Born Killers. ---
**Author:** ![Ukulele\_Ike](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/df788c/32.png) [@Ukulele\_Ike](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ukulele_Ike)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 10:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/23 "2003-01-13T22:48:34Z")
Adam and Amanda Bonner in **Adam’s Rib** (1949). Two good-looking, happily-employed lawyers (equals loads o’ cash), with no kids, in a huge Manhattan apartment way back before the Starbucks, Barnes & Noble, and The Gap invasion. Beats Nick n’ Nora hollow, if you ask me. ---
**Author:** ![Slainte](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a698b9/32.png) [@Slainte](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slainte)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/24 "2003-01-13T22:53:23Z")
**Bridget Jones** & **Mark Darcy** in _Bridget Jones’ Diary_ I love how he helps her cook (to rescue her from the dreadful dinner she had prepared) and how he fights Daniel for her. I also love how she chases him in her undies. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![ianzin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/ed655f/32.png) [@ianzin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ianzin)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 11:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/25 "2003-01-13T23:24:23Z")
I think _Local Hero_ is a wonderful movie. Director Bill Forsyth has said that his script called for ‘Gordon Urquhart’ (played by Denis Lawson) and his wife (Jennifer Black) to be the ideal couple enjoying the ideal marriage, and they certainly come across that way. Something like that would suit me fine. ---
**Author:** ![SkipMagic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skipmagic/32/20706_2.png) [@SkipMagic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SkipMagic)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/26 "2003-01-13T23:48:25Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by auntie em \* > \*\*Heh. Thelma Husband and Mr. Sprock in _Where the Heart Is_: “And we ask forgiveness, Lord, for the fornication that Mr. Sprock and me commited this morning on this very table.” > > 😃 \*\* Heh. Of course, _that_ ideal ain’t so hard to come by. 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![SkipMagic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skipmagic/32/20706_2.png) [@SkipMagic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SkipMagic)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 11:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/27 "2003-01-13T23:51:50Z")
And then there’s Burns and Allen… ---
**Author:** ![Badtz\_Maru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e36b37/32.png) [@Badtz\_Maru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Badtz_Maru)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2003, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/28 "2003-01-14T00:02:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Labdad \* > \*\*And a third vote for Nick and Nora. They have have a lot of money (Nora’s father left her “a lot of things,” including a railroad) and spend their time traveling with their dog, seeing old friends, making new ones, and drinking pretty much all day long. Oh, and every now and then they solve a murder! What’s not to love? \*\* Are you Roger Ebert? ---
**Author:** ![Rubystreak](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e5b9ba/32.png) [@Rubystreak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rubystreak)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2003, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/29 "2003-01-14T00:02:36Z")
Harry & Sally in When Harry Met Sally (coconut cake with chocolate sauce on the side) Loretta & Ronnie in Moonstruck (“Do you love him, Loretta?” “Ma, I love him awful!”) Roy & Pris in Bladerunner (the post-mortem kiss was oddly touching) Hank & Leticia in Monster’s Ball (against all the odds) ---
**Author:** ![Melandry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8797f3/32.png) [@Melandry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Melandry)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2003, 1:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/30 "2003-01-14T01:03:44Z")
Mabel (Minnie Driver) and Arthur (Rupert Everett) in _An Ideal Husband_. I would love to have a relationship based on incredibly witty flirtation. Too bad my life isn’t scripted by Oscar Wilde. ---
**Author:** ![Fnoonf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/f6c823/32.png) [@Fnoonf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fnoonf)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2003, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/31 "2003-01-14T01:17:06Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Nymysys \* > \*\*For reality, I have to go with Marge and Norm Gunderson in Fargo. > > Talk about supportive and loving. No fireworks, no bi-polar ups and downs. Just, “I’ll make you some eggs”.\*\* Crap! Can I take back my earlier one? I wanna do a “me, too” on this one. Actually, believe it or not, this was my ideal for many years after seeing that film. I don’t know why, but I guess I’d sorta forgotten about it. “Gotta eatcher breakfast, Margie.” Ahh, the fuzziness of it all. ---
**Author:** ![Omorka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/50afbb/32.png) [@Omorka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omorka)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2003, 2:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/32 "2003-01-14T02:56:07Z")
Frodo Baggins, Samwise Gamgee, and Rosie Cotton. (ducking and running) ---
**Author:** ![shy\_guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a6a055/32.png) [@shy\_guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shy_guy)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2003, 4:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/33 "2003-01-14T04:15:01Z")
Homer and Marge in _good_ episodes of the Simpsons. ---
**Author:** ![Already\_in\_Use](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a9adbd/32.png) [@Already\_in\_Use](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Already_in_Use)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2003, 6:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/34 "2003-01-14T06:00:15Z")
Buster Bloodvessel and Aunt Jessie in the Beatles’ _Magical Mystery Tour_. Best love scene ever committed to film. ---
**Author:** ![cadolphin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c37758/32.png) [@cadolphin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cadolphin)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2003, 6:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/35 "2003-01-14T06:07:09Z")
Claire and Cliff Huxtable ---
**Author:** ![foxfiregrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3da27b/32.png) [@foxfiregrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/foxfiregrrl)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2003, 6:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/36 "2003-01-14T06:48:17Z")
Diane and Lloyd in _Say Anything_ ---
**Author:** ![Reuel\_Miller](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b5e925/32.png) [@Reuel\_Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Reuel_Miller)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2003, 7:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/37 "2003-01-14T07:06:50Z")
Paul and Jamie Bachman from “Mad About You”. They are definately each others “Soulmate”. I refer to my soulmate as “my Jamie Bachman”… whoever she is… Reuel ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2003, 8:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/38 "2003-01-14T08:32:37Z")
Ray Winstone and Amanda Redman in _Sexy Beast_. It gets me when he tells the psychotic gangster “I lover her with all my heart!” Charlie and Yvonne from _It could happen to you_. Two nice people who are happy that they have found each other, even as their worlds collapse around them. Plus, I’m in love with Bridgit Fonda! ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2003, 8:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/39 "2003-01-14T08:33:40Z")
“I love HER with all my heart” dammit! I suck. ---
**Author:** ![SolGrundy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bbce88/32.png) [@SolGrundy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SolGrundy)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2003, 8:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256/40 "2003-01-14T08:43:01Z")
Hey, Reuel\_Miller said it first so I don’t have to. “Mad About You.” (And I’m pretty sure it was “Buchman,” by the way). It’s incredibly cheesy, and I think the show deserved a lot of the mocking it got. But I have to say that there was a lot to like about the way they portrayed that marriage. They were just _comfortable_ with each other, and still in love. You never really see that on TV or in the movies, because it’s harder to make two people who just love each other seem interesting. You’ve got to show them trying to win the other one, or trying to win them back, or cheating, or fighting with each other, or making insulting wisecracks, or taking care of the precocious kids. If we could go without that theme song, I’d be all set. One of the episodes I remember entirely consisted of their having locked themselves in the bathroom and having to think of ways to kill time until the locksmith came. At one point, Paul suggests sex, she agrees, the scene fades out, then fades back in and Jamie says, “Okay, what now?” Something about that struck me as funnier because it was so realistic; it wasn’t the tired old Peg Bundy “done in 15 seconds again!” schtick. And since I’ve already used up my “guy” points, I can agree with **Rubystreak** about Harry Burns and Sally Allbright. Something about that movie… each one of the stars, writer, and director individually makes my skin crawl, but put them all together in a romantic comedy and it just _works_. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-movie-couples-relationship-is-your-ideal/148256.md?page=3)