# What non-physical traits do you find attractive?

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [August 3, 2006, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-non-physical-traits-do-you-find-attractive/367253 "2006-08-03T21:54:02Z")
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### Author: ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)
#### Post date: [August 28, 2006, 3:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-non-physical-traits-do-you-find-attractive/367253/61 "2006-08-28T03:15:02Z")

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> [@BrainGlutton](#):
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> Well, suppose his ambitions are in politics and to advance his career he has to stay in his home state where he has friends and connections; but your ambitions are in the film industry, and to make you’re going to have to relocate to LA sooner or later.
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> Or both of you have political ambitions, but your political views and goals are diametrically opposed, and, unlike James Carville and Mary Matalin, you both take them too seriously to just agree to disagree and have a little friendly competition – each of you sincerely regards the other as the **enemy** in a very real and fundamental sense.

In the second case (that’s easier, so I can answer it first), the relationship would end, sooner or later. I can get along fine with someone who can agree to disagree with me, respectfully, but in a situation like you describe, there’d be no way it could work for me. In fact, there would be a definite limit to how far it would even go in the first place.

In the first case, it would take a lot of discussion and planning to see what we could work with. It would vary more with my potential lover’s personality more than mine–how flexible he/she could be about it, if flexibility was possible on his or her part. As for myself, I would be committed to doing what I could to make it work, up until it would be a huge hassle and more trouble than it was worth for both of us.

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