# What person of the sex you do NOT fancy do you find attractive? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 15, 2004, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440 "2004-03-15T15:55:37Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![PookahMacPhellimey](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pookahmacphellimey/32/3175_2.png) [@PookahMacPhellimey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PookahMacPhellimey)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/1 "2004-03-15T15:55:37Z")
_sweeping generalisation alert_ I was musing about how it appears to me that a lot of guys do seem to go for the Pamela Anderson type, but how there’s rarely a woman who wants to look like that. So I was wondering if some of the straight people care to list some of the people they would like to look like or whose looks they admire who are of the same sex as they are. Gay people can list people of the opposite sex. There are going to be lots of actors, musicians etc. listed, so maybe this belongs to Cafe Society (mods feel free to move it there if that fits better), but I’m more interested in what sort of looks are deemed attactive when the whole “sex” thing is left out of the equation (up to a point as IMO no one is 100% straight of gay) and how different the list would be from a normal list of heartthrobs than a discussion about the attractiveness of certain actors, musicians as such. I’ll start myself. I’m straight and female. Women I find beautiful are: - Juliette Binoche - Lara Flynn Boyle - Bjork - Lena Olin ---
**Author:** ![Olentzero](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/90ced4/32.png) [@Olentzero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Olentzero)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/2 "2004-03-15T16:41:39Z")
I gotta admit I find Kevin Spacey very attractive. I don’t exactly know what it is, though. Philip Seymour Hoffman, on the other hand, turns me right off. ---
**Author:** ![JerH](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/bb73d2/32.png) [@JerH](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JerH)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 5:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/3 "2004-03-15T17:11:58Z")
I think Adrian Brody is a very attractive man. If I had to have a homosexual experience, he’d be at the top of my list. ---
**Author:** ![malkavia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/malkavia/32/5621_2.png) [@malkavia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/malkavia)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/4 "2004-03-15T17:36:35Z")
I find Kate Winslet incredibly attractive. I think I’d like to be her when I grow up. Mira Sorvino is beautiful as well. Hmm… Angelina is lovely but I don’t think I’d want to look like her. Yeah, I definitely want to be Kate Winslet. Or the red head from That 70’s Show. ---
**Author:** ![Call\_me\_Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Call\_me\_Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Call_me_Frank)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/5 "2004-03-15T17:40:08Z")
Attracted to isn’t the right word, but these are the men I’d choose to look like if I had the choice - Pierce Brosnan or Harrison Ford, maybe Patrick Stewart… Straight male ---
**Author:** ![yellowval](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/919ad9/32.png) [@yellowval](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yellowval)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 5:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/6 "2004-03-15T17:46:36Z")
I’d have to say Catherine Zeta-Jones or Gwen Stefani. Completely different I know, but I think they both have that old Hollywood-style glam going on and I love it. ---
**Author:** ![Pablito](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ed655f/32.png) [@Pablito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pablito)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 5:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/7 "2004-03-15T17:56:30Z")
> [@PookahMacPhellimey](#): > > Women I find beautiful are: > > - Juliette Binoche > - Lara Flynn Boyle > - Bjork > - Lena Olin Given the first and last names on your list, I’m guessing you really enjoyed the movie “The Unbearable Lightness of Being”, which features both of those actresses nude. One of my favorite movies, by the way, and two of my favorite women. Straight male here: I’ll second Harrison Ford and Pierce Brosnan and add Sean Connery. I like their ‘rugged good looks’, though perhaps Brosnan is a little too ‘pretty’. I think it would be nice to have those features and they are admirable, if not quite attractive to me. ---
**Author:** ![Spectre\_of\_Pithecanthropus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spectre_of_pithecanthropus/32/12343_2.png) [@Spectre\_of\_Pithecanthropus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spectre_of_Pithecanthropus)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/8 "2004-03-15T18:19:15Z")
I hereby nominate Sean Connery as the Man I Hope To Resemble When I Am His Age. I guess Tom Cruise would be the one I wish I could have looked like in high school and college; it strikes me that a guy who looked like that would have to beat them off with a stick, as the saying goes. ---
**Author:** ![PookahMacPhellimey](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pookahmacphellimey/32/3175_2.png) [@PookahMacPhellimey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PookahMacPhellimey)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/9 "2004-03-15T18:20:15Z")
> [@Pablito](#): > > Given the first and last names on your list, I’m guessing you really enjoyed the movie “The Unbearable Lightness of Being”, which features both of those actresses nude. One of my favorite movies, by the way, and two of my favorite women. > > Straight male here: I’ll second Harrison Ford and Pierce Brosnan and add Sean Connery. I like their ‘rugged good looks’, though perhaps Brosnan is a little too ‘pretty’. I think it would be nice to have those features and they are admirable, if not quite attractive to me. Yes, you got me there. 🙂 But seriously. Maybe “attractive” was putting it absolutely the wrong way. I’m not really looking for the people straights have a gay fantasy crush on or vice versa. Just what you think is a good looking man/woman from an “objective” aesthetic perspective, rather than a “I want to smooch this person” kind of perspective. ---
**Author:** ![emekthian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ecae2f/32.png) [@emekthian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/emekthian)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 6:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/10 "2004-03-15T18:34:37Z")
Straight male. I think my History teacher, Mr. Smith, is physically attractive. I also think that Albert Speer is attractive :eek: ---
**Author:** ![liirogue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dbc845/32.png) [@liirogue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/liirogue)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/11 "2004-03-15T18:35:27Z")
Catherine Zeta-Jones and Salma Hayek. They both have some serious curves in a stick-thin Hollywood. I would love to look like either of them, but especially Salma. I think I indentify with her because we have somewhat similar body shapes (though she is much more curvey and attractive!). Sadly, my husband considers her “fat.” ☹ ---
**Author:** ![liirogue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dbc845/32.png) [@liirogue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/liirogue)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/12 "2004-03-15T18:36:56Z")
Sorry, forgot to add straight female. ---
**Author:** ![Call\_me\_Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Call\_me\_Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Call_me_Frank)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 6:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/13 "2004-03-15T18:39:47Z")
> [@Pablito](#): > > …and add Sean Connery. Ahh yes! How stupid of me :smack: I’ll add Sean Connery to my list as well… ---
**Author:** ![cactus\_waltz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@cactus\_waltz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cactus_waltz)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/14 "2004-03-15T18:49:10Z")
> [@Olentzero](#): > > I gotta admit I find Kevin Spacey very attractive. I don’t exactly know what it is, though. > > Philip Seymour Hoffman, on the other hand, turns me right off. I’m a bisexual male, and I have to admit that Hoffman turns me on somewhat. I’m all for personality, and I just get incredible vibes from him. ---
**Author:** ![Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ac8455/32.png) [@Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bippy_the_Beardless)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/15 "2004-03-15T19:04:26Z")
It would be cool to be like Alan Rickman; handsome, rakeish, humorous and evil 😉 ---
**Author:** ![ParentalAdvisory](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/53a042/32.png) [@ParentalAdvisory](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ParentalAdvisory)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 7:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/16 "2004-03-15T19:18:20Z")
Probably James Spader. ---
**Author:** ![Tentacle\_Monster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ba9def/32.png) [@Tentacle\_Monster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tentacle_Monster)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/17 "2004-03-15T19:20:23Z")
Pat Boone. (well, not really, but I found a really wierd picture of him exposing himself the other day) Dan Savage. ---
**Author:** ![Frank\_White](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ecd19e/32.png) [@Frank\_White](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank_White)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 7:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/18 "2004-03-15T19:38:50Z")
would have to say brad pitt, or jared leto. I mean, who wouldn’t want to look like either of them? ---
**Author:** ![burundi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3ec8ea/32.png) [@burundi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/burundi)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/19 "2004-03-15T19:45:31Z")
**malkavia** , I’ll second Kate Winslett. I also love Cate Blanchett’s looks and I think Jennifer Connolly is just too beautiful for words. ---
**Author:** ![Dante](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dante/32/9673_2.png) [@Dante](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dante)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440/20 "2004-03-15T19:46:22Z")
Straight male here. Christian Bale (right combination of body and looks). Brad Pitt (same reason). As I get older… Sean Connery (of course) Patrick Stewart John O’Hurley (J. Peterman from _Seinfeld_) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-person-of-the-sex-you-do-not-fancy-do-you-find-attractive/234440.md?page=2)