What platitudes do you wish people would stop using?

Pretty much ANY Religious (and here in the US, 95% of the time, it’s Christian) Platitudes -

Examples taken from here

A few that make my blood boil, and haven’t already been touched on.

  1. When God closes a door, He opens a window
  2. I’ll pray about it/If I feel led/If it’s God’s will
  3. Love the sinner, hate the sin
  4. God won’t give you more than you can handle -

Number 1 & 4 being different versions of the same thing to my mind, and # 3 makes me especially batty - I have no obligation to love a sinner, because the sort of people that are guilty of atrocious sins are almost always horrible people. And plenty of religious folks sure seem to hate the sinner FOR the so-called sin, especially if it’s the sin of being gay, of a different religion, or getting an abortion. And don’t get me started about # 2, it’s always an excuse for NOT taking action, or doing what you wanted to do all along.

-calms self-

Just typing them out makes me irritable, much less when someone says one of these in my presence.

And don’t forget about China’s East-West Divide. There may be plenty of stuff for people in China’s eastern provinces, but very little of that trickles to the western provinces.

Some, but the vast majority of the population–and you cannot discount familial pressure on this issue–want to enter into a heterosexual marriage.

Both of those are counterexamples to the “someone for everyone” platitude.

Unless we modify the platitude to something like “statistically speaking, there’s at least one realistically available potential partner for everyone who desires one who is willing and able to put in the necessary effort”, etc. At which point the statement isn’t really a simple platitude anymore, also it’s still wrong.

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

Everything happens for a reason.

You just have to take a leap of faith.

“Do what you love and the money will follow.”

Ha, ha, ha. No.

What’s wrong with that? You can teach a skill you can’t do yourself.

It carries the very strong implication that teaching is somehow lesser than doing; that it’s what people do when they’ve otherwise failed in life. I don’t think I’ve seen it used any other way, really.

It doesn’t have to carry that connotation–it’s true, after all, that when John the Bridgebuilder is too old to haul stones around all day, he can nevertheless contribute to society by teaching. But it’s a short distance between that and the more negative implications.

Yeah, it’s clearly disparaging to teachers / trainers. I’ve never heard it said about a trainer people like.

It’s “thoughts and prayers” for me. I can understand the frustration of something happening and you can’t do anything about it or even to ameliorate it, but T&P is a sop for you, not the victim.

“everything happens for a reason”

Well yeah, but that reason is the natural laws that govern the universe (physics, chemistry, math).

Things don’t ‘happen’ for the purposes of the spiritual growth or psychological fulfillment of a subspecies of primates with larger brains. The universe doesn’t give a damn about sentient life.

The East-West divide I referred to above is the Heihe-Tongcheng Line.

And then there’s “God bless you.”

And “He’s gone to a better place.”

I don’t have any to nominate that haven’t already been named, but I would like “if ifs and buts were candy and nuts, we’d all have a merry Christmas” to make a comeback.

Blood is thicker than water.

I hate this bc it implies that if you have a family member that is toxic, you should remain loyal to them anyway bc you happen to be related.

Such bullshit, and far too many people agree with the sentiment.

“Sending healing thoughts your way.” Are you God now?

Perhaps, but then it may be missing the third leg of that stool: “…and those who can’t teach, manage”.

Those who can’t teach, teach gym. (Woody Allen)

I too have only ever heard this in a neutral manner. It’s equivalent to: “When it’s all said and done.” or “It all boils down to…”

I think you are taking this one too literally. I take it to mean that, whatever your quirks or drawbacks, there is someone out that that will embrace - or at least, tolerate - them.

I don’t think it’s intended as a math exercise.

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