# What qualifies as a bj? A knob gobbling poll. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 26, 2010, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867 "2010-05-26T20:12:16Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2010, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/21 "2010-05-26T22:12:42Z")
I agree with **Procrustus**. I very rarely come from oral (unless she’s _really_ good at it… The last girlfriend-but-three - oh my. Now I remember one of the reasons I miss her so much, even though she was a thundering bitch). So no, doesn’t have to include an orgasm for me to consider it a BJ. ---
**Author:** ![Illuminatiprimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/illuminatiprimus/32/11520_2.png) [@Illuminatiprimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Illuminatiprimus)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2010, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/22 "2010-05-26T22:29:15Z")
> [@jjimm](#): > > I agree with **Procrustus**. I very rarely come from oral (unless she’s _really_ good at it… The last girlfriend-but-three - oh my. Now I remember one of the reasons I miss her so much, even though she was a thundering bitch). So no, doesn’t have to include an orgasm for me to consider it a BJ. I’m with **jjimm** on this one - I think I’ve only cum about 3 times in my life from a blow job but have had my dick sucked by a LOT more people than that. To be honest cumming from oral isn’t my favourite anyway. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2010, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/23 "2010-05-26T22:41:21Z")
I’ve never come from standalone oral. Ever. But I’ve still gotten a bunch of blow jobs. If I had to describe a session: “Well, she blowed me a little and then I fucked her.” See that part where I mentioned getting blowed? That was the elusive blowjob that you’re having trouble defining. /thread ---
**Author:** ![Superhal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Superhal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superhal)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2010, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/24 "2010-05-27T00:37:30Z")
If there’s no orgasm, it’s just foreplay. ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2010, 1:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/25 "2010-05-27T01:03:26Z")
Girl here. I said its only a blow job if he comes. I asked my SO and said no orgasm necessary to use the term, but he wouldn’t be very happy if I just _stopped_ (wuthout moving on to other fun stuff). ---
**Author:** ![hogarth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hogarth/32/1773_2.png) [@hogarth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hogarth)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2010, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/26 "2010-05-27T01:07:37Z")
> [@OpalCat](#): > > Even if it’s part of foreplay and is followed by “real” sex? 😕 > Does my husband think most of my blow jobs are lousy because they’re part of the build-up to us having sex? Does the whole sequence of events (oral + “real” sex) end in orgasm? If so, good. If not, lousy. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2010, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/27 "2010-05-27T01:07:51Z")
Guy A: “Everyone remembers their first blowjob. Am I right?” Guy B: “I’ve never had a blowjob.” Guy A: “WHAT?!” Guy B: “I’ve had my dick sucked before, but never come.” Guy A: “You know what I meant.” I’ve never heard of anyone saying it doesn’t count if the guy doesn’t come. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2010, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/28 "2010-05-27T01:24:41Z")
I wouldn’t say _any_ oral stimulation. Two ice cream cone-style licks ain’t cutting it. But spooge is not an essential element of a blowjob. > [@Rigamarole](#): > > Orgasm achieved = blowjob > > No orgasm = prep work Remind me not to eat at _your_ restaurant. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2010, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/29 "2010-05-27T01:26:24Z")
Do I need to start another thread to ask about the parallel situation (if a woman doesn’t cum from cunnilingus, did it make a sound? If she’s never cum at all during penetration, has she never had sex?). The way people segment things – even the concept of ‘foreplay’ versus ‘real’ sex – it’s like an awful American Pie sequel. ---
**Author:** ![Rysto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ecccb3/32.png) [@Rysto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rysto)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2010, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/30 "2010-05-27T01:29:46Z")
> [@](#): > > Female; Only if **he** orgasms. You can tell that the OP is male because apparently it doesn’t matter what happens to the woman. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![bouv](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bc8723/32.png) [@bouv](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bouv)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2010, 2:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/31 "2010-05-27T02:02:55Z")
> [@Rysto](#): > > You can tell that the OP is male because apparently it doesn’t matter what happens to the woman. 😛 …it’s a thread about BJs, not oral in general. I’ve _heard_ of a few women that came from giving a BJ (one told me herself she had once or twice, and once was a friend telling me about a past GF,) but it’s such a small percentage is it really worth putting in the poll? 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Rysto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ecccb3/32.png) [@Rysto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rysto)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2010, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/32 "2010-05-27T02:08:06Z")
> [@bouv](#): > > …it’s a thread about BJs, not oral in general. I’ve _heard_ of a few women that came from giving a BJ (one told me herself she had once or twice, and once was a friend telling me about a past GF,) but it’s such a small percentage is it really worth putting in the poll? 😕 Oh, I see. I thought that the male/female thing applied to the receiver of the oral and not the responder to the poll, but now that I’m actually thinking my way makes no sense whatsoever. ---
**Author:** ![ZenBeam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/3ab097/32.png) [@ZenBeam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZenBeam)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2010, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/33 "2010-05-27T02:09:58Z")
> [@miss\_elizabeth](#): > > I mean, if I just _smooch!_ kiss the tip, no it isn’t a blowjob. But if I put a dick in my mouth, he got blown, whether he came or not (he did). Yes, you blew him, but the question was about a blowjob. To me, there’s a distinction between the two terms, although I did have to think about it for a while. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2010, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/34 "2010-05-27T02:36:01Z")
> [@ZenBeam](#): > > Yes, you blew him, but the question was about a blowjob. To me, there’s a distinction between the two terms, although I did have to think about it for a while. That sounds more like a blow-hobby. ---
**Author:** ![Projammer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/projammer/32/559_2.png) [@Projammer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Projammer)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2010, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/35 "2010-05-27T02:53:42Z")
re: Oral without orgasm. Sometimes it’s foreplay and sometimes it’s oral intercourse. It’s a matter of… umm… Well, not really sure how to describe the difference. Sort of like at what point does a pond become a lake. But IMO, oral followed by something else is oral followed by something else. Oral to completion is a blowjob. If I ask for a blowjob I’m asking for oral til orgasm. I’m glad I broke the poll out by sex though. At this point 1 in 3 men think orgasm is required as opposed to 1 in 4 women sharing that opinion. A slight, but not insignificant difference. ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2010, 2:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/36 "2010-05-27T02:55:04Z")
A blow job should be finished :D, if its just warm up, so be it… ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2010, 2:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/37 "2010-05-27T02:56:21Z")
> [@OpalCat](#): > > Even if it’s part of foreplay and is followed by “real” sex? 😕 > Does my husband think most of my blow jobs are lousy because they’re part of the build-up to us having sex? What? He cant do both? ---
**Author:** ![Chessic\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7c8e57/32.png) [@Chessic\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chessic_Sense)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2010, 3:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/38 "2010-05-27T03:23:35Z")
I’ve never come from oral. Does that mean I have to say I’ve never had a blow job? That’s ridiculous. If I get blown, it’s a blowjob. And I’ve been blown. No orgasm necessary. > [@Rysto](#): > > Oh, I see. I thought that the male/female thing applied to the receiver of the oral and not the responder to the poll Which is why people need to learn to read the OP before voting. It’s clearly stated. This has been a public service announcement. ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2010, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/39 "2010-05-27T03:32:44Z")
Apparently, according to [urbandictionary.com](http://urbandictionary.com) a “blowjob” is necessarily to orgasm. ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2010, 5:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867/40 "2010-05-27T05:45:04Z")
Though I voted “female, any oral stimulation”. (I am a woman), my understanding is (from past BFs and conversations like this one), most men only consider it a bj if it has a happy ending. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualifies-as-a-bj-a-knob-gobbling-poll/540867.md?page=3)