# What qualities make for the best lover? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 9, 2016, 2:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualities-make-for-the-best-lover/748405 "2016-03-09T14:26:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2016, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualities-make-for-the-best-lover/748405/41 "2016-03-10T19:59:19Z")
When people fall in love they fall in love with the way they feel about themselves when with that other person. If they fall in love with making love to you it is because they love the way they feel about themselves when you are making love. The motivation could be very different for different women or men. Feeling free to be yourself is a big one as is your partners ability to be himself. There will be a higher level of trust. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2016, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualities-make-for-the-best-lover/748405/42 "2016-03-10T20:00:01Z")
> [@Count\_Blucher](#): > > Pull that “other board” meme, which you’re trying to bring here, out of your rear while your at it. > > #MemeFail Which “other board” and “meme” are you talking about? ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2016, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualities-make-for-the-best-lover/748405/43 "2016-03-10T20:16:17Z")
> [@Count\_Blucher](#): > > Maybe you do Now. > > #MemeFail If anything I understood it better before you “explained.” ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2016, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualities-make-for-the-best-lover/748405/44 "2016-03-10T20:56:44Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > If anything I understood it better before you “explained.” Thanks for “sharing”. ---
**Author:** ![Islander\_M](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/839c29/32.png) [@Islander\_M](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Islander_M)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2016, 3:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualities-make-for-the-best-lover/748405/45 "2016-03-11T03:38:33Z")
Soft, fully yielding, like she’s paralyzed and likes it that way. I don’t like making love to a queen alien. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2016, 5:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualities-make-for-the-best-lover/748405/46 "2016-03-11T05:13:46Z")
> [@bump](#): > > I’d say that the ability to pay attention and adjust what they’re doing based on whatever feedback they’re getting is probably paramount. A million times. The ability to provide feedback in ways their partner understands is also good: some people need to get told things, some people’s ears disconnect when their blood has all moved lower. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2016, 5:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualities-make-for-the-best-lover/748405/47 "2016-03-11T05:23:44Z")
> [@Charlie\_Wayne](#): > > I once knew a guy who amazed me because he seemed to sleep with a different lady every night. If those ladies weren’t interested in repeating, he was a good catcher but a lousy lay. ---
**Author:** ![Islander\_M](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/839c29/32.png) [@Islander\_M](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Islander_M)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2016, 6:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualities-make-for-the-best-lover/748405/48 "2016-03-11T06:10:58Z")
Numbers mean nothing. It’s how a man affects a girl after sex, and only from the girl’s own recount. I’ve had the unusual luck of partnering for a time with a very active lady. She seemed to get a kick out of telling me about her latest escapade. Some of her stories were wild, all the more mind-boggling because she partnered with regular guys who didn’t seem to have anything unusual about them. I miss that girl. ---
**Author:** ![Morgenstern](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Morgenstern](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgenstern)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2016, 1:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualities-make-for-the-best-lover/748405/49 "2016-03-11T13:42:22Z")
> [@Count\_Blucher](#): > > Someone who would be There for you, even if Assholes were trying to break it up or cause you both trouble. Get it? No? Read it again. Get it NOW? > > Pull that “other board” meme, which you’re trying to bring here, out of your rear while your at it. > > Maybe you do Now. > > #MemeFail Can we buy a clue or two? Maybe a vowel? Ask the audience? Anything? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-qualities-make-for-the-best-lover/748405.md?page=2)