# What repulses you about your partner? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 26, 2012, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937 "2012-09-26T22:39:02Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 19\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Gleena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b3f665/32.png) [@Gleena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gleena)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2012, 2:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937/41 "2012-09-28T02:49:15Z")
Nothing repulses me about him, why would I be married to him if so? We both have annoying, exasperating habits. I’m so very lucky he puts up with mine! ---
**Author:** ![qualityleashdog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/9f8e36/32.png) [@qualityleashdog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/qualityleashdog)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2012, 4:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937/42 "2012-09-28T04:33:47Z")
Wanting to know who I’m talking to when I’m posting on the Straight Dope Forums. Not that it concerns him (well maybe this one time, but never before and probably never again). Am I not allowed a little interaction? He’s only vaguely interested in what is discussed here. ---
**Author:** ![Sahirrnee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sahirrnee/32/13937_2.png) [@Sahirrnee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sahirrnee)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2012, 3:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937/43 "2012-09-28T15:02:56Z")
> [@Foxy40](#): > > He never gets to the point. > > Typical conversation, no, not conversation, typical monologue. > > “You’re not going to believe what happened today. Do you know Mr Jones, the guy I used to work with that has the mother in law that had a brain tumor? You remember, he had that dog named Mitzy who had fleas that his wife used to pick off one by one. The dog was white and went to the same vet your mother used to use for sparky. The guy down on main street with the green awning and the gold lettering with the pictures of the rabbits painted on the windows. Next door to that restaurant that has changed owners three times in the past six months. I don’t know what they just don’t try another sort of business. Do you know what we need down there? A dog groomer. It would be perfect to have one right next door to the vet. They’d get a lot of business. Anyway, Mr Jones moved to Georgia and got a job with Rob’s BBQ. I hear they sell their sauces on the internet now. I googled them and they were like 25 bucks a bottle…” > > By this time, I have walked away. This is not an exaggeration. I wish it were. Your husband must be related to my mother! ---
**Author:** ![Sahirrnee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sahirrnee/32/13937_2.png) [@Sahirrnee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sahirrnee)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2012, 3:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937/44 "2012-09-28T15:18:34Z")
> [@lavenderviolet](#): > > I think you’d be totally justified in dumping this guy. If my fiance sassed off to me over asking innocuous questions like if he has enough onions on his sandwich, I would flip out on him and I would dump him if it kept happening. You don’t deserve that sort of disrespect and rudeness when you were asking a question that shows concern for him. I used to get very offended and get my feelings hurt, I’d say something nasty back and we’d be off and running. One day his nephew sat me down and said try not to get too offended by Unk, that’s just who he is and he doesn’t mean anything by it. It is rude and disrespectful, but I try to not take it personally. I’m just amazed he has so many friends and a job. ---
**Author:** ![Zsofia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/7bcc69/32.png) [@Zsofia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zsofia)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2012, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937/45 "2012-09-28T15:21:11Z")
> [@sahirrnee](#): > > Your husband must be related to my mother! Or he might be me. Sorry about that. I really don’t mean to. And it drives me insane when my mother does it. ---
**Author:** ![pravnik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/8edcca/32.png) [@pravnik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pravnik)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2012, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937/46 "2012-09-28T15:39:06Z")
All of her protons push against her other protons, and her electrons push against her other electrons. I find that repulsive. However, she does have some mass, and since I have a little mass myself, I find that very atttactive. ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2012, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937/47 "2012-09-28T15:40:35Z")
> [@Zsofia](#): > > I know, it’s cracking me up. “Oh, the old sit-on-my-hand trick again!” First thing I learned in French class: S’il vous plaît ne me lève pas, vous êtes assis sur ma main ---
**Author:** ![Foxy40](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a9a28c/32.png) [@Foxy40](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Foxy40)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2012, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937/48 "2012-09-28T18:18:51Z")
> [@Zsofia](#): > > Or he might be me. Sorry about that. I really don’t mean to. And it drives me insane when my mother does it. Well, cut it out already! 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![handsomeharry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9c0ed/32.png) [@handsomeharry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handsomeharry)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2012, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937/49 "2012-09-28T19:09:33Z")
> [@sahirrnee](#): > > Nothing repulses me. > > That he gets an attitude over the simplest question has pushed me to the edge of dumping his sorry ass… again. > > Sah: how are you? > Ass: what the hell do you mean how am I? I’m at work that’s how I am > Sah: I didn’t ask where are you I asked how are you > Ass: I’m at work, how the hell do you think I am > Sah: where you working today > Ass: why do you want to know > Sah: no reason just making conversation \* > Ass: why are you questioning me > Sah: it’s just a simple question not the inquisition > Ass: when a woman asks a man a question it’s an inquisition > We meet for lunch today > Sah: did they put enough onions on your sub this time > Ass: how do I know did you see me open the sandwich and check out the onions > Sah: well no but I thought you would be able to tell by the taste > Ass: Why do you ask so many questions > > It used to hurt my feelings, now I just look at him and think he might be an ass but he’s my ass. > Sometimes when we disagree he will say ‘opinions are like assholes and everybody has one’. > I always pat his arm and say ‘and some of us are lucky enough to have two’. > > - depending on my mood I may answer > > 1. because the hit man I hired is having a hard time finding you > or > 2. The Federation of Alien Invasion is looking for you because the chip they planted in your brain has malfunctioned. Sounds to me like he has a bizarre sense of humor, not being a jerk. Could be wrong, tho. ---
**Author:** ![Sahirrnee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sahirrnee/32/13937_2.png) [@Sahirrnee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sahirrnee)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2012, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937/50 "2012-09-28T19:51:20Z")
> [@handsomeharry](#): > > Sounds to me like he has a bizarre sense of humor, not being a jerk. Could be wrong, tho. I never thought about it that way. But no he is being a jerk, he absolutely hates to be questioned, even when the question is nothing more than ‘how are you?’. Then again he works too much and is under a lot of stress, so he’s just grouchy in general. ---
**Author:** ![Infovore](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/infovore/32/420_2.png) [@Infovore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Infovore)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2012, 8:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937/51 "2012-09-28T20:04:52Z")
Nothing repulses me about him. A few annoying habits (judgmentalism, a few philosophical differences) and the fact that he can be passive-aggressive and kinda vindictive sometimes drive me up a wall occasionally, but I know I’ve got a few traits that annoy the hell out of him just as much so we’re even! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2012, 9:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937/52 "2012-09-28T21:15:23Z")
> [@overlyverbose](#): > > Not really repulsive but extremely annoying, especially when I’m exhausted: > > His habit of putting his hand out, palm up, on every surface I sit on so I’ll sit on his hand and he can grab my ass. He does this in bed, on the couch, on chairs - if I’m sitting down, my spot will probably have his hand there unless the kids are around. > > And the thing is, it’s not like he doesn’t grab my ass and my boobs when I’m standing up, too (again, as long as the kids aren’t around). So I’m not sure why me sitting on his hand is so alluring. Mr. Shoe does this. Funny when I’m in a good mood, annoying as all shit if I’m not. Concur that it’s not really repulsive, per se. Nothing about Shoe repulses me, but I wanted to chime in because I think it’s hilarious that someone else’s husband does this. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2012, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937/53 "2012-09-28T21:39:36Z")
> [@sahirrnee](#): > > I never thought about it that way. > > But no he is being a jerk, he absolutely hates to be questioned, even when the question is nothing more than ‘how are you?’. > Then again he works too much and is under a lot of stress, so he’s just grouchy in general. My husband works too much and is under a lot of stress, but he’s not a dick to me. Just sayin’. I can’t really think of a single thing I find repulsive about him. Plenty of things that annoy me, but repulsive? I think one of the things that _bothers_ me is that he’s not really into animals. I’m not one of those people with a zillion pets but I get pretty excited about animals, and he just doesn’t. And I find that somewhat unsettling. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Devil_s_Grandmother)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2012, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937/54 "2012-09-28T22:00:50Z")
> [@Hari\_Seldon](#): > > Nothing, absolutely nothing repulses me about her. The most annoying habit she has is to put newly washed dishes into a drainer full of dry dishes, so that when I wash up after dinner I have to dry a drainer-full of dishes, most of which had dried, before starting. > > Even as I read this, I realize how silly it sounds, but I guess that’s among the reasons (there are others) we are still together after more than 48 years). I think I’m married to your wife’s long lost twin brother. It’s the little things that drive me crazy. ---
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937/55 "2012-09-29T22:17:36Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > Mr. Shoe does this. Funny when I’m in a good mood, annoying as all shit if I’m not. Concur that it’s not really repulsive, per se. Nothing about Shoe repulses me, but I wanted to chime in because I think it’s hilarious that someone else’s husband does this. 😃 I’m so glad I’m not alone! 😛 _sigh_ He just walked by, grabbed both my boobs and said hello to them. I remember thinking after I was done nursing that at last my boobs would no longer be anyone else’s property. I was wrong. ---
**Author:** ![you\_with\_the\_face](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/ecccb3/32.png) [@you\_with\_the\_face](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/you_with_the_face)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937/56 "2012-09-29T23:16:40Z")
> [@overlyverbose](#): > > I’m so glad I’m not alone! 😛 > > _sigh_ He just walked by, grabbed both my boobs and said hello to them. I remember thinking after I was done nursing that at last my boobs would no longer be anyone else’s property. I was wrong. This would drive me insane; I don’t know how you cope with it, to be honest. I used to have a boyfriend who would grab my hips and waist every time I passed by him. After me screaming at him a few times, it finally dawned on him that this behavior was intolerable to me and he stopped. But the fact that it had to even get to that point of exasperation caused me to forever see him as a stupid, grabby baboon-man, and my attraction to him went out the window. It was like I was being conditioned to avoid being near him, because being near to him = enduring several seconds of unwanted, intrusive contact. And the fact that he would persist in it when I clearly was not enjoying it also creeped me out. Does he know how much this bothers you, or is this something you silently put up with to keep the peace? If it’s truly an issue for you, I wouldn’t hide this fact. Your body is not his property, it is yours. ---
**Author:** ![BTEzra04](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/9f8e36/32.png) [@BTEzra04](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BTEzra04)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2012, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937/57 "2012-09-30T00:22:01Z")
Nothing about him repulses me. Annoys me with certain habits? Yup. I know I’ve got some of my own, particularly when under stress, which, when he is under stress, that those habits of his begin to annoy me. His farts smell? Yeah, but he apologizes for them (I tend to make a face as a reflex), which is pretty sweet of him, and I’m trying to convince him that he really doesn’t have to 😛 One of the things I love about us together is how open we can be/are trying to be with that sort of thing. ---
**Author:** ![Zsofia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/7bcc69/32.png) [@Zsofia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zsofia)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2012, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937/58 "2012-09-30T01:46:53Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > Mr. Shoe does this. Funny when I’m in a good mood, annoying as all shit if I’m not. Concur that it’s not really repulsive, per se. Nothing about Shoe repulses me, but I wanted to chime in because I think it’s hilarious that someone else’s husband does this. 😃 I laugh hysterically at you “oops, hand on the ass again!” people, but my fiance does have this slightly annoying nibbling habit. I wouldn’t mind if sometimes he didn’t bite too hard, but I don’t mind enough to say “Hey, it really bothers me when you do that”, because it doesn’t, so I yell “No bitey!” which is kind of jokey and a bit encourages him, but like I said it’s something I can live with. But I get the eyeroll at it. ---
**Author:** ![zhoen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c4cdca/32.png) [@zhoen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zhoen)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2012, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937/59 "2012-09-30T23:37:27Z")
He thinks I’m very funny when I’m exhausted and silly. Oh, wait, I am. Um… he… well, actually, no. After 22 years together, I’m just amazed he hasn’t gotten annoyed with me, nonetheless repulsed. And I still think the lines from Charade fit, Reggie Lampert: Do you know what’s wrong with you? Peter Joshua: No, what? Reggie Lampert: Nothing! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-repulses-you-about-your-partner/635937.md?page=2)