# What should I do about my wife? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 21, 2011, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691 "2011-11-21T21:54:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2011, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/61 "2011-11-22T19:19:37Z")
Even if she’s not cheating on you, she’s completely indifferent to your feelings. And that would be enough for me to cut my losses. ---
**Author:** ![Bearflag70](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Bearflag70](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bearflag70)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2011, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/62 "2011-11-22T19:30:36Z")
Thinking about leases some more, if both roommates are parties to a lease with the landlord, then you may need to get consent of both the landlord AND the roommate to get your name off the lease. ---
**Author:** ![perfectparanoia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a5b964/32.png) [@perfectparanoia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/perfectparanoia)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2011, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/63 "2011-11-22T22:28:25Z")
I am a girl with predominantly male friends. I can totally see some subset of them who would send me a pic of their junk to squick me out (and we are in our thirties). I am pretty sure my husband would enact a ‘squick them out more’ revenge scenario with me but he would really not give a crap. That said, my husband knows all of these guys almost as well as I do and we all hang out together. I think he knows their personalities well enough (and mine) to get the joke. So, even while I would think it was kinda normal to send me pics like this, I don’t think it’s a good idea to send them to a recently married woman whose husband you don’t know very well. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2011, 10:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/64 "2011-11-22T22:50:31Z")
It’s cute how you guys think the OP is coming back. ---
**Author:** ![raindog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2bfe46/32.png) [@raindog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raindog)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2011, 10:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/65 "2011-11-22T22:55:06Z")
When there’s smoke billowing from every window, there’s likely a fire. We’re just faceless, semi-nameless people on the internet. But many of us have walked in those shoes. You’re being told things that your rational mind already knows. However, our vision isn’t being blinded by love. (although for many of us, it was in our circumstances) She’s cheating on you, dude. And it’s not going to get better. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2011, 10:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/66 "2011-11-22T22:55:59Z")
> [@ProbablyProcrastinating](#): > > There are great women out there who’d love to be with you. They are waiting! Dude, I’m pretty sure those are just spam emails you’re getting. Great wimmins are much harder to find. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2011, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/67 "2011-11-23T00:39:16Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > It’s cute how you guys think the OP is coming back. He could be fapping to their earnestness. So in some sense, he never left. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2011, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/68 "2011-11-23T02:13:17Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > It’s cute how you guys think the OP is coming back. Yeah, the OP is looking like a drive-by. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2011, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/69 "2011-11-23T02:14:56Z")
Does drive-by mean he doesn’t return to this thread or to the board in general? Because not too long after getting some responses to this thread he opened another about sex ads on Craigslist. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2011, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/70 "2011-11-23T02:20:30Z")
Oh, I see he has started another thread; I guess he’s not just a one-post drive-by poster. It would be nice if he’d come back and interact in the thread he started, though. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2011, 2:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/71 "2011-11-23T02:28:26Z")
Remember that one poster who suspected his live-in girlfriend was getting too attached to a dude from her hometown that she was talking to online? And we all warned him that his fears were justified (well, _some_ among us told him he was just being paranoid)? And he actually updated the thread when she eventually left him? I liked that guy. OP, you should be more like that guy. We told you your wife is a ho. The least you can do is feed our voyeurism. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2011, 2:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/72 "2011-11-23T02:31:00Z")
Yeah! We need updates! ---
**Author:** ![Cap10](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/d26b3c/32.png) [@Cap10](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cap10)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2011, 4:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/73 "2011-11-23T04:57:12Z")
Chill out, I’m still here. Ive been busy working on getting some things lined up. And had a few brews with some buddies. Anywho, I figured as much as what yall said. I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t crazy. Every time she quits talking to him for a little bit, she constantly tells me how unhappy she is when she isn’t talking to him because they supposedly been such good friends for a few years. we have both known her about the same length of time. Never cared for the guy and she knew it. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2011, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/74 "2011-11-23T05:03:59Z")
So wait, you’re \*not \*fapping to our earnestness? What, you don’t think our earnestness is sexy? ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2011, 5:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/75 "2011-11-23T05:05:50Z")
“Let me tell you something. And this is important because one day one of your friends is going to get divorced. It’s gonna happen and they’re going to tell you. Don’t go “Awww I’m so sorry!” It’s a stupid thing to say. It really is! First of all, you’re making him feel bad for being really happy, which isn’t fair. And second of all, let me tell you, divorce is always good news. I know that sounds weird! But it’s true because no good marriage has ever ended in divorce. It’s really that simple. It’s never happened. That WOULD be sad! If two people were married and they were really happy and they just had a great thing going and then they got divorced! That would be really sad! But that has happened zero times. Literally zero. Ray Charles has killed more Jews than happy marriages have ended in divorce. So if you have a friend who got divorced it means that things were bad and now they’re, well they’re better, it’s not good- life is shit wall to wall- but it’s better, so they should be happy.” Louis C.K. ---
**Author:** ![Cap10](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/d26b3c/32.png) [@Cap10](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cap10)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2011, 5:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/76 "2011-11-23T05:07:48Z")
At least you didn’t tell me you’re sexy and you know it. It should be crime to air those lyrics more than one a day. ---
**Author:** ![Askance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/askance/32/8281_2.png) [@Askance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askance)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2011, 5:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/77 "2011-11-23T05:09:38Z")
Given everything in this thread (which I substantially agree with and thought to myself as I was reading the OP) why did she marry the OP, do we think? “Friend” was already married and this was the closest she could get? Or what? ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2011, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/78 "2011-11-23T05:10:10Z")
If you’re sexy and you know it clap your hands? ---
**Author:** ![Cap10](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/d26b3c/32.png) [@Cap10](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cap10)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2011, 5:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/79 "2011-11-23T05:16:58Z")
Clap clap. No, he isn’t married. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2011, 5:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-do-about-my-wife/603691/80 "2011-11-23T05:18:38Z")
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