# What should I have done? (This thread has boobs folks!) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 2, 2011, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-have-done-this-thread-has-boobs-folks/587587 "2011-07-02T01:08:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Ura-Maru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/51bf81/32.png) [@Ura-Maru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ura-Maru)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2011, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-have-done-this-thread-has-boobs-folks/587587/41 "2011-07-03T21:25:21Z")
Don’t worry about it. You benefited from a sitcom-esque misunderstanding. The proper response to unintended nudity is to enjoy it politely while not drawing undue attention to it. If the provider of said nudity is unaware, then of course you should let them know if practical, but it’s not always practical. You probably should have let her know you were there, but did not out of embarrassment, not creepyness. I don’t think there’s anyway to avoid awkwardness after the fact, so just let it go. They were breasts of opportunity. If it happens again, I’d go with the ‘make some noise, then go out’ plan is probably the best. She’ll know you’re there, and can react if she wants too. A topless sunbather is unlikely to care that much if someone gets an accidental view, but that doesn’t mean it worn’t creep her out if she thinks you’re trying to peep. – I’m not sure which joke to go with here. Either the ‘Hey, howsit goinOMYGODBOOS!!" Or the ‘Tit’s a nice day, I mean, breast friends like–’ Neither is very good, really. ‘5 foot steps don’t provoke breasts of opportunity?’ Man, I’m dyin’ here. ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2011, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-have-done-this-thread-has-boobs-folks/587587/42 "2011-07-03T21:33:56Z")
If every porn movie I’ve ever seen is an indicator, then she totally _wanted_ you to see her tits and if you had gone outside and struck up a conversation, you would have both been completely naked within ~30 seconds. ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2011, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-have-done-this-thread-has-boobs-folks/587587/43 "2011-07-04T00:02:45Z")
Depends. If I really wanted to swim, I’d go for a swim and leave it as a lesson for her that MY back yard is not necessarily private for HER. Of course, while I’m enough of an asshole to go swimming anyway, I’m enough of a gentleman to leave her alone, not look in her direction again (after the first good eyeful) and just ignore the nudity. Now if they were having sex out there… I’d walk away the first time or two. About the third time it happened, I’d go make some popcorn, come back out and sit a discrete distance away, and if they stopped because of me… (cheerfully) “oh no, don’t stop on my account! I have popcorn!” (point to bag). 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Ibanez](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/a4c791/32.png) [@Ibanez](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ibanez)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2011, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-have-done-this-thread-has-boobs-folks/587587/44 "2011-07-04T00:56:30Z")
> [@Little\_Nemo](#): > > Enjoy the view you got and pretend it never happened. Yeah. I’d go this route. ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2011, 2:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-have-done-this-thread-has-boobs-folks/587587/45 "2011-07-04T02:49:52Z")
As my old college buddy would say, you gotta slip her the sausage. Eeeehhh!! ---
**Author:** ![enomaj](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/59ef9b/32.png) [@enomaj](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enomaj)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2011, 1:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-have-done-this-thread-has-boobs-folks/587587/46 "2011-07-04T13:19:06Z")
You’ll need a guitarist with a wah-wah pedal on stand-by. Or a saxophonist. ---
**Author:** ![EvilTOJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee59a6/32.png) [@EvilTOJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EvilTOJ)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2011, 11:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-have-done-this-thread-has-boobs-folks/587587/47 "2011-07-04T23:51:37Z")
What, she can’t sunbathe in her own backyard? Why would she need to be topless next to the pool when she’s not technically using it? > [@Rigamarole](#): > > Surveillance camera. I mean this. ---
**Author:** ![Poysyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Poysyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poysyn)\ **Post date:** [July 5, 2011, 12:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-have-done-this-thread-has-boobs-folks/587587/48 "2011-07-05T00:30:50Z")
I agree with the whole “pretend it didn’t happen this time”, but make sure they know your schedule is irregular. After that, if she’s caught again, you have warned her, then she gets an “Hey, maybe I wasn’t clear but your son mowing the lawn is payment enough…” ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [July 5, 2011, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-have-done-this-thread-has-boobs-folks/587587/49 "2011-07-05T01:12:52Z")
> [@lilbug](#): > > This strikes me as someone who has gotten a little too comfortable with the arrangement and is taking liberties. If she wants to go topless, she should do it in her own yard. In this situation, you were put into a uncomfortable position and were unable to use your own pool because, IMO, she assumed something about the arrangement she should not have. > > Also, you didn’t say whether you have kids, and I haven’t been here long enough to know if you do or not…is there a chance your kid, her kid or someone else’s could have seen her? > > I think I would try to come up with some reasoning to stop the use of the pool when you are not home. This will eliminate any situations from like this from happening again. This seems a little overboard to me. If the kids chance upon it, why not use it as an opportunity to teach the kids that naked tits shouldn’t be a big deal? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-should-i-have-done-this-thread-has-boobs-folks/587587.md?page=2)