When I was 12 years old, I had to perform in a piano recital I was unprepared for. I can’t memorize music and have always needed to read sheet music even when I know a piece well, and my old piano teacher never had a problem with me bringing my sheet music to my recitals. This year, however, I had a new teacher (from Lithuania, very old-school), and she forbade me from using sheet music on stage. Now, if I were smart, I would have thought to keep the sheet music at my seat, so that when I inevitably forgot my pieces on stage, I could have had a backup plan and saved myself from looking like an idiot in front of all those people. But I wasn’t smart and left my music at home and forgot each one of my pieces a few measures in and looked like an idiot in front of a hundred people and cried on stage. It was horrible and probably responsible for my social phobia. But that’s not the end of the story.
The next summer my mother thought it would be a good idea to force me to go to a music camp at our local college, even though I hadn’t played the piano at all after that debacle. I was the youngest one there, the poorest player (I was in with teenagers who played professionally in hotels and lounges), and the only one who lived in town instead of staying at the dorms with the rest of the kids. We had workshops where we had to play in front of everyone and then let them critique our performance. Before my turn, I was so nervous that I hyperventilated, which made my fingers stiff and numb. Can you see where this is going? Just…gaaaaah.
There’s a Czech word, litost (and also a poster here with that name) meaning “a state of torment created by the sight of one’s own misery.” That sums up that whole experience PERFECTLY.