# What thing about people your own age and sex do you most consistently envy? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 21, 2008, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312 "2008-04-21T21:32:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/21 "2008-04-22T02:17:30Z")
I envy the girls in long-term relationships. For some reason that’s never quite worked out for me. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Cymbeline](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_cymbeline/32/9244_2.png) [@Green\_Cymbeline](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Cymbeline)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/22 "2008-04-22T02:22:43Z")
[QUOTE=NightRabbit] I third the career thing. I’ve worked my ass off at a number of jobs that never panned out, for whatever reason, and now I’m looking for another one. At 26, I know I’m not that old, but in comparison to the idea that new grads keep erupting into the market with their shiny, new degrees and getting better jobs with no experience than I can manage with three years of work under my belt, well, it’s frustrating. The one part of adulthood that still eludes me is a working life with a modicum of stablity or permanence. [/QUOTE] Me too - although I am 32!! I’ve worked so hard for almost 10 years since college now and keep getting screwed by rotten bosses and companies. Same thing with my personal life - everyone my age is married or getting married, has kids or are having kids. Me? I just got out of a failed 3-year relationship, and before that, it was a failed 9-year relationship. Those two aforementioned things make my life feel completely unstable. I’m 32 and starting over at square one on both the personal and professional fronts, and it’s quite scary ☹ ---
**Author:** ![dangermom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e274bd/32.png) [@dangermom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dangermom)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 2:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/23 "2008-04-22T02:28:17Z")
Weight. I’m not hugely fat, but I’m pudgy and big-boned, and find it very difficult to lose weight. Most of my friends are slimmer, even if they don’t exercise like I do! But in everything else I’m very happy. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/24 "2008-04-22T02:54:31Z")
Same as **HazelNutCoffee**. I’ve got an education, a house, a car, my own successful business, fantastic credit, a great financial future… And absolutely no one to share it with. I don’t want kids, I could even live without being married. But I’d at least like to have someone to share my life with! I’m getting to the point where the “pool” is getting smaller because so many of the other girls my age have married all the guys my age. Or the boys who are “left” are still trying to decide what they want to do when they grow up. Ah well. At least I’ve got my money. ---
**Author:** ![lobstermobster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobstermobster/32/10033_2.png) [@lobstermobster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lobstermobster)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/25 "2008-04-22T03:06:07Z")
hugeass engagement rings ---
**Author:** ![Amygdala](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e79b87/32.png) [@Amygdala](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amygdala)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/26 "2008-04-22T03:06:33Z")
I envy traditional college students–living in the dorms, going to class at normal hours, partying on the weekends. College looks like FUN for a normal student! But I tried it and it wasn’t for me, so I am having to choose a different path to an education. ---
**Author:** ![Soapbox\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Soapbox\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soapbox_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 3:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/27 "2008-04-22T03:19:35Z")
Sex lives. I envy that. Social skills, which are pretty necessary in obtaining a sex life. I observe people in my classes, and I rarely if ever see people randomly starting up conversation with the strangers around them. So where ever it is that people are going to get paired off, it’s somewhere I’m not. Oh, and guys my age and younger who look their age. I’ll be graduating in less than two months, and there are incoming freshman who look 4 years older than me. That would go along way towards getting female attention. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/28 "2008-04-22T03:29:00Z")
[QUOTE=nyctea scandiaca] Me too - although I am 32!! I’ve worked so hard for almost 10 years since college now and keep getting screwed by rotten bosses and companies. [/QUOTE] I suppose I feel the same way. It would be nice not to have to change jobs every few years. OTOH I’ve never been at a job that I was sorry to leave. Quite frankly, I don’t envy anything about people my age (35). I see my peers mostly either in boring corporate jobs leading dull married lives and slowly getting fatter or bitter and lonely because they aren’t married. I’m more envious of the early 20-somethings at work. I kind of miss being excited about my first job (at least for the first 6 months), not having any responsibilities more important than where to go for happy hour on Fri. But then I look at my paycheck. ---
**Author:** ![Mrs\_Johnson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7cd45c/32.png) [@Mrs\_Johnson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mrs_Johnson)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/29 "2008-04-22T03:37:35Z")
Friends. 😕 I’m 22 and I don’t have any friends (excluding Mr J and three online/out of town friends). Zero. I’m an introverted loner. I hate it. ---
**Author:** ![Pullet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@Pullet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pullet)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 4:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/30 "2008-04-22T04:10:14Z")
Their tiny, tiny bodies. And the fact that they can find so much free time to go to the gym. ---
**Author:** ![freekalette](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/50afbb/32.png) [@freekalette](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/freekalette)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 12:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/31 "2008-04-22T12:34:24Z")
Pretty boobs. I have NEVER had nice ones! When I was younger, I had nothing, not even an A-cup. When they decided to grow, it was because I was pregnant. This means that gravity has taken over. Completely. I’m 27 and have the breasts of a sixty-year-old. _eeeew_ Apologies to any eldery ladies I may have offended. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 12:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/32 "2008-04-22T12:52:53Z")
Nothing. I am exactly who I need to be at this moment, and where I need to be. It wouldn’t occur to me to look at another guy my age and say “I need to be more like him.” ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 1:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/33 "2008-04-22T13:54:36Z")
[QUOTE=freekalette] Pretty boobs. I have NEVER had nice ones! When I was younger, I had nothing, not even an A-cup. When they decided to grow, it was because I was pregnant. This means that gravity has taken over. Completely. [/QUOTE] Cite? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![freekalette](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/50afbb/32.png) [@freekalette](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/freekalette)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/34 "2008-04-22T13:58:01Z")
[QUOTE=Quartz] Cite? 😃 [/QUOTE] Heh, I shoulda seen that one coming. Trust me, you want to take my word for it. ---
**Author:** ![scareyfaerie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scareyfaerie/32/3135_2.png) [@scareyfaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scareyfaerie)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 2:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/35 "2008-04-22T14:17:18Z")
Social skills, sex life, proper relationship, a decent home, the works. Somehow the plan I had when I was a kid for how my life was going to be, well it just didn’t end up looking like this. ---
**Author:** ![pbbth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f9ae1b/32.png) [@pbbth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pbbth)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 2:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/36 "2008-04-22T14:50:35Z")
I am most jealous of the people my age who followed their passions. They are working as stage hands, actors, treasure hunters, etc. and every day they go to work they make shit money but they love what they do. My overly logical brain and Type A personality make it impossible for me to do what I love without a security net so I am working in a boring, pencil pushing environment trying to live out my passions in my spare time. Which I have none of because between work and the time I spend commuting I have about 1 hour a day in which to do anything. Stupid paranoia about living in the gutter stopping me from leading a fulfilling life! 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/37 "2008-04-22T15:08:58Z")
I’m another who envies people my age with established careers. I’m going to be thirty this year and I still have no idea what I want to do. I have a degree and I am working in that field, but I don’t feel like I’m going anywhere. I also envy those with good solid romantic relationships. I can’t even find someone I want a second date with. Ah, well, at least I have good hair. ---
**Author:** ![SaharaTea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@SaharaTea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SaharaTea)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 3:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/38 "2008-04-22T15:17:43Z")
Another career envier. I’m 30 and I’d love to know what it feels like NOT to loathe your job. ---
**Author:** ![Kyla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/eada6e/32.png) [@Kyla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kyla)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/39 "2008-04-22T15:21:56Z")
On the career front: I don’t really envy people for having good careers, I envy the people who always seemed to know what they wanted and _planned_ for it. I’m not exactly a \*complete \*schlub, but when I graduated from college I ended up moving in with my parents and working in a bookstore for a year and a half because I couldn’t figure out what I really wanted to be doing. Now I do, and I’m working on it, but I’ll be 31 when I finish grad school. If I had know what I had wanted to do say, ten years ago when I was a sophomore in college, I’d be there already! I try not to dwell on this because it’s pointless. Also, I made some good friends and had some good experiences along the way. ---
**Author:** ![groo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ecd19e/32.png) [@groo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/groo)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2008, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312/40 "2008-04-22T15:35:36Z")
Mid-40’s. I don’t quite have a wife, kids or house. Also, I’ve read pamphlets about something called a “sex life,” but I’m not convinced such a thing exists. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-thing-about-people-your-own-age-and-sex-do-you-most-consistently-envy/446312.md?page=3)