# What to do? Nothing? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 6, 2014, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670 "2014-09-06T17:47:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![handsomeharry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9c0ed/32.png) [@handsomeharry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handsomeharry)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/21 "2014-09-12T02:25:30Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > Because that’s the equivalent of an ethic slur/stereotype how? So, the word ‘Asian’ is an ethnic slur, how? You, and all others who are complaining about the poor abused girl are in sad shape. You are too locked into your paternalistic Quixotic missions. If you, for one moment, don’t think that the girl \*\*\*knows \*\*\*that she could get the manager’s ass into deep trouble for forcing her to wear an objectionable name tag that depicts a protected class, you are deluding yourselves, big time. What, do you think that the OP was the first to notice the name? I’ll bet, tho, that OP was the first to try and make an issue of it, and to try and ‘save’ her from the great Occidental Beast; that’s why she said ‘it was the manager’s idea’. She didn’t want to go into the whole process for some officious schlub’s information, while she was working. That is, of course, unless he hadn’t already terrified her and the other poor illegals he has locked in the back room, threatening them with the INS, or ICE, unless they work for substandard wages, into giving that response!!! (/sarcasm) You guys need to snap out of it. ---
**Author:** ![handsomeharry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9c0ed/32.png) [@handsomeharry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handsomeharry)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 2:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/22 "2014-09-12T02:27:51Z")
> [@Chefguy](#): > > Nice. Stay classy. Yeah, managers never have sex with employees, do they. And when they do, they don’t touch each other, do they? If nudity offends you, and people touching each other during sex, don’t procreate. ---
**Author:** ![handsomeharry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9c0ed/32.png) [@handsomeharry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handsomeharry)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/23 "2014-09-12T03:07:50Z")
> [@seal\_cleaner](#): > > The only “old white man” involved would be me. The manager was Hispanic. BTW, I am an old white man myself, so, that is why I took the liberty. ---
**Author:** ![orangeapples](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/7993a0/32.png) [@orangeapples](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/orangeapples)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 3:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/24 "2014-09-12T03:43:15Z")
> [@The\_Joker\_and\_the\_Thief](#): > > Why would she grab his penis after just getting off her knees? > > Also, vote with your dollars. And everyone knows IHOP has a better name anyways. Because she lost her balance? I don’t think we need to be offended for her, she can report the guy herself if she feels the need. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/25 "2014-09-12T03:54:29Z")
> [@handsomeharry](#): > > So, the word ‘Asian’ is an ethnic slur, how? Nooooo, but Asian Princess is pretty rude. Plus a whole lot different from wearing a pendent of national pride, which was what you were comparing it to ---
**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/26 "2014-09-12T18:54:26Z")
> [@handsomeharry](#): > > Yeah, managers never have sex with employees, do they. And when they do, they don’t touch each other, do they? If nudity offends you, and people touching each other during sex, don’t procreate. This is way off the subject and you’re being obnoxious. Please dial it back. ---
**Author:** ![GrumpyBunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bc8723/32.png) [@GrumpyBunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrumpyBunny)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/27 "2014-09-12T19:33:41Z")
> [@handsomeharry](#): > > Says you. I knew a girl who had a, hmmm…what, a golden medallion of what she called ‘the \*real \*Palestine’ on a gold chain around her neck. She was Palestinian, and proud of her heritage. Should she be denied the right to wear that, as well, because you don’t like it?? I don’t know what this woman’s medallion is or looks like, but if she’s not being forced to wear it and it’s not sexist or racist, I don’t care one way or the other. Being proud of your heritage is a little different than a grown woman being called an “Asian Princess”. You notice it didn’t say “Asian math genius” or “Asian future chemical engineer” (which are still stereotypes, but at least they aren’t demeaning ones). ---
**Author:** ![madmonk28](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madmonk28/32/20811_2.png) [@madmonk28](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madmonk28)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 7:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/28 "2014-09-12T19:54:40Z")
> [@handsomeharry](#): > > Fuck, no. She could be blowing the manager, and the two of them laugh at it…together. Together, meaning ‘without consulting you’. > Manager: “Are you my Asian Princess?” > AP, getting up off her knees: “Yes, baby. Are you my Imperialist Running Dog? haha!” (grabs his penis, and chuckles) > Manager: Hey, let’s let everybody know that you are my AP…we’ll put it on your tag! That way, all the other guys who are hot for you will know I’m your daddy! > AP: OK, hot baby! > > The fact that you think that she is ‘timid’ may just be some of your Yankee Imperialist blood gauging her as ‘inscrutable’, or you are horny and want to be overly avuncular as part of your pickup strategy. > Had you heard the yelling, what would you have said? “I don’t like this nickname, either!”??? > MYOB. Whole lot of crazy in one post. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 8:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/29 "2014-09-12T20:07:29Z")
All this penis grabbing, I’d just wanna make sure she washed her hands before handling my eggs. And I’ll take my coffee black, thank you. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 8:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/30 "2014-09-12T20:31:51Z")
> [@GrumpyBunny](#): > > It’s not appropriate for a name tag in any public-facing job. How so? How am I supposed to get my servers’ attention at a busy restuarant or thank the guy at Sears that rung up my purchase. Say, “Hey you food lady” or “Thanks guy behind the counter.”? > [@GrumpyBunny](#): > > Being proud of your heritage is a little different than a grown woman being called an “Asian Princess”. You notice it didn’t say “Asian math genius” or “Asian future chemical engineer” (which are still stereotypes, but at least they aren’t demeaning ones). I for one would much rather be an Asian Princess than an Asian future chemical engineer. ---
**Author:** ![Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/46a35a/32.png) [@Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_T-Bonham.net)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2014, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/31 "2014-09-13T01:57:52Z")
> [@Ranger\_Jeff](#): > > Ah, I used to frequent a Denny’s years ago. A black manager got fired, waved the race card, and got reinstated. Later, he was fired again for selling cocaine from the manager’s office. That probably brought more customers into the place than their cooking did. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Joker\_and\_the\_Thief](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e79b87/32.png) [@The\_Joker\_and\_the\_Thief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Joker_and_the_Thief)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2014, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/32 "2014-09-13T01:58:04Z")
> [@Drunky\_Smurf](#): > > How so? How am I supposed to get my servers’ attention at a busy restuarant or thank the guy at Sears that rung up my purchase. Say, “Hey you food lady” or “Thanks guy behind the counter.”? > > I for one would much rather be an Asian Princess than an Asian future chemical engineer. Not GrumpyBunny, but I’m 99% sure he meant the name on the nametag was inappropriate, not the idea of a nametag itself. ---
**Author:** ![GrumpyBunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bc8723/32.png) [@GrumpyBunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrumpyBunny)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2014, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/33 "2014-09-13T02:00:27Z")
> [@The\_Joker\_and\_the\_Thief](#): > > Not GrumpyBunny, but I’m 99% sure he meant the name on the nametag was inappropriate, not the idea of a nametag itself. Exactly so. And I’m a “she”, not a “he”. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![handsomeharry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9c0ed/32.png) [@handsomeharry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handsomeharry)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2014, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/34 "2014-09-13T03:50:22Z")
> [@GrumpyBunny](#): > > I don’t know what this woman’s medallion is or looks like, but if she’s not being forced to wear it and it’s not sexist or racist, I don’t care one way or the other. > > Being proud of your heritage is a little different than a grown woman being called an “Asian Princess”. You notice it didn’t say “Asian math genius” or “Asian future chemical engineer” (which are still stereotypes, but at least they aren’t demeaning ones). You can’t say they are all stereotypes-at not correctly. They are descriptions/adjectives. To say ‘he/she is a math genius because he/she is Asian’ is a stereotype. Pay attention to what you’re writing. Your words show you are in above your head. ---
**Author:** ![DSeid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dseid/32/20194_2.png) [@DSeid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DSeid)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2014, 5:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/35 "2014-09-13T05:43:00Z")
You know if she decided to wear a necklace that read “Asian Princess” it would possibly be okay. Personal jewelry choices have a wider range. Even in the personal jewelry choice there can be a limit though: an Italian American wearing something that said “wop” or a Jewish person wearing something that said “kike” would be inappropriate. But her choice or his, _on the nametag_ “Asian Princess” is inappropriate, _worse_ if it was his choice. BTW, the Penthouse fantasy that **hh** is in his bunk with, would also be inappropriate even if by apparent consent. A boss having a sexual relationship with an employee is too fraught with implied coercion. BTW number the second, you are wrong **hh** : “Asian math genius” is a stereotype. You are not in above your head but it is deep inside one of your less appealing orifices. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![handsomeharry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9c0ed/32.png) [@handsomeharry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handsomeharry)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 4:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/36 "2014-09-14T04:20:48Z")
> [@GrumpyBunny](#): > > I don’t know what this woman’s medallion is or looks like, but if she’s not being forced to wear it and it’s not sexist or racist, I don’t care one way or the other. BTW, did she confide to you that she was forced to wear it? I missed that part. Or, did she object to it? Or, did you just ‘sense’ as much? ---
**Author:** ![handsomeharry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9c0ed/32.png) [@handsomeharry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handsomeharry)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 4:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/37 "2014-09-14T04:22:54Z")
> [@DSeid](#): > > BTW number the second, you are wrong **hh** : “Asian math genius” is a stereotype. You are not in above your head but it is deep inside one of your less appealing orifices. 🙂 Sorry, you’re as wrong as the other. The whole thing to make it a stereotype would be “Asian=Math Genius” or some such. Learn grammar, and manners. ---
**Author:** ![Killing\_Time](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/76d3ee/32.png) [@Killing\_Time](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Killing_Time)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 4:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/38 "2014-09-14T04:28:22Z")
> [@GrumpyBunny](#): > > It’s not appropriate for a name tag in any public-facing job. > > Call corporate office and mention inappropriate name tags in general. Don’t mention the conversation, it’s a moot point as it’s hearsay. Well…hearsay is a legal term. It’s not admissible in a trial, but I think it would be fine in a phone call. ---
**Author:** ![handsomeharry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9c0ed/32.png) [@handsomeharry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handsomeharry)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 5:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/39 "2014-09-14T05:12:33Z")
Rather than run around all cloak and dagger, trying to get people into trouble, without knowing the facts, why not ask “Asian Princess” what she thinks of it? ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2014, 12:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670/40 "2014-09-14T12:58:05Z")
> [@handsomeharry](#): > > Rather than run around all cloak and dagger, trying to get people into trouble, without knowing the facts, why not ask “Asian Princess” what she thinks of it? Or you can call management and have them look into it, rather putting the waitress in a position of having to complain about her boss to a customer who can do very little about it. If management looks into it they can decide if it’s a problem, and may even have a past record of other poor decisions this store manger has made. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-to-do-nothing/697670.md?page=3)