# What were you THINKING? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [October 13, 2023, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532 "2023-10-13T19:36:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 123
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2443 "2024-04-18T01:11:23Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > I was bullied here. So be it. You got called out for posting your shitty, cruel, and misogynistic opinions. Stop trying to act like you were the victim. ---
**Author:** ![Thing.Fish](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thing.fish/32/9168_2.png) [@Thing.Fish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thing.Fish)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2444 "2024-04-18T01:20:36Z")
As I’ve said, I don’t think most English speakers regard “fuck off and die” to be a literal wish of death. But given that I’d just been mod-noted, I should have steered clear of mortality-related insults. Overall, though, I think rudeness and name-calling are one of the two ways (ignoring them being the other) to deal with trolls. I’m not going to try to engage him in rational discussion, and I’m certainly not going to waste my time or energy coming up with some clever, amusing insult. And I feel my record here shows that I don’t put people on the “reply with profanity only” list lightly, but reserve it only for truly irredeemable shitbags. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2445 "2024-04-18T01:26:57Z")
That’s what you say. I don’t think I said anything that awful. If I did, Still did not deserve being bullied. I knew someone would say I was trying to be a victim. Well, guess what I was. Don’t blame me for being treated that way. I will not be blamed for someone taking their frustrations out, simply because they could. I took my medicine on the board. I learned some things. I made people angry. I apologized where I felt I could. I hope you’re never bullied like that. It’s bad. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2446 "2024-04-18T01:29:53Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > Don’t blame me for being treated that way. But I _do_ blame you. If you weren’t being a shitty person, you wouldn’t have gotten the treatment you got. Behavior has consequences. Most of us learn that at a young age, but some people, apparently, never figure it out. ---
**Author:** ![Babale](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/babale/32/15666_2.png) [@Babale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Babale)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 1:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2447 "2024-04-18T01:31:55Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > That’s what you say. > I don’t think I said anything that awful. He’s pretty clearly talking about @Crane, not you. I have a hard time believing you’re actually confused about that. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > I knew someone would say I was trying to be a victim. In the particular post you were responding to, _no one was even talking about you_, and yet you somehow took it personally. So, they’re not wrong. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2448 "2024-04-18T01:34:20Z")
> [@Babale](#): > > He’s pretty clearly talking about @Crane, not you. Uh, I was definitely talking about **Beck**. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2449 "2024-04-18T01:36:02Z")
Right. We’re not all perfect are we? ---
**Author:** ![Babale](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/babale/32/15666_2.png) [@Babale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Babale)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2450 "2024-04-18T01:36:08Z")
> [@Miller](#): > > Uh, I was definitely talking about **Beck** OK, so just to be clear, when Beck made a post after @Thing.Fish and did not quote your post nor address you in any way, she was nevertheless talking to _you_, not to _Thing.Fish_. Confusion alleviated. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2451 "2024-04-18T01:40:02Z")
You’re seriously victim blaming me for being cyber bullied. Okay. I understand you may not believe it’s a real thing. Well, I’m here to tell you it is. I’m not racist or any of that. Ever. In this very thread I was being baited. And you know it. It brought out things I said, things I knew I should not have said. And those ugly enough words were turned around. That seems to happen here. I’m not the only one who’s said this. Excuse me …I’m not a shitty person. You’re opinion on my personhood is in error, sir. ---
**Author:** ![SuntanLotion](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suntanlotion/32/16165_2.png) [@SuntanLotion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuntanLotion)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2452 "2024-04-18T01:40:17Z")
They can’t all be winners kid. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2453 "2024-04-18T01:51:28Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > You’re seriously victim blaming me for being cyber bullied. Okay. No, I’m mostly denying that it happened at all. You’re an asshole, and so you got treated like an asshole. Don’t like being treated like an asshole? Don’t act like one. That’s not bullying, that’s holding people to account for the fucked up shit they say. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > Excuse me …I’m not a shitty person. Well, agree to disagree. ---
**Author:** ![Thing.Fish](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thing.fish/32/9168_2.png) [@Thing.Fish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thing.Fish)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 1:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2454 "2024-04-18T01:52:23Z")
That actually fits. She said “I don’t think I said anything that awful”. I hadn’t accused her of saying anything awful, but Miller had in the post directly above mine. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 1:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2455 "2024-04-18T01:56:31Z")
Now I’m a liar? Wow. I’m not an asshole. You know, no one has ever called me that. Ever. I treat all people with respect. I’m kinda famous for being patient and kind to people. Just doesn’t fit So I’m gonna discount it as ,you don’t really know me. And leave it there. And it’s ok. You don’t have to know me or even like me. ---
**Author:** ![Babale](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/babale/32/15666_2.png) [@Babale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Babale)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 1:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2456 "2024-04-18T01:56:39Z")
> [@Thing.Fish](#): > > She said “I don’t think I said anything that awful”. I hadn’t accused her of saying anything awful, but Miller had in the post directly above mine. Yes, it all makes sense, now. At first, I had read Chronos’ post, then read a different thread, then came back and saw your post and Beck’s response. Since I didn’t scroll up again, I just assumed Beck was responding to the post directly above hers, which is generally my default assumption. It’s why I try to always quote the relevant bit when responding to a post. ---
**Author:** ![Babale](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/babale/32/15666_2.png) [@Babale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Babale)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2457 "2024-04-18T01:57:17Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > You know, no one has ever called me that. Ever. I treat all people with respect. Really? Can I be the first, asshole? Eta:I guess Chronos just called you that, so I’d be second ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2458 "2024-04-18T02:00:05Z")
No that was Miller. He was first. You’re running 3rd ---
**Author:** ![Babale](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/babale/32/15666_2.png) [@Babale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Babale)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 2:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2459 "2024-04-18T02:01:01Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > No that was Miller > . I am chastised and corrected. In my defense, those mods all look the same to me, anyways. ---
**Author:** ![SuntanLotion](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suntanlotion/32/16165_2.png) [@SuntanLotion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuntanLotion)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 2:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2460 "2024-04-18T02:01:05Z")
I was wondering why I didn’t see Chronos’s post. I may be confused. It can be a good thing. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 2:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2461 "2024-04-18T02:01:35Z")
> [@Babale](#): > > I am chastised and corrected. That’s okay. She’s lying about me being the first, too. ---
**Author:** ![SuntanLotion](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suntanlotion/32/16165_2.png) [@SuntanLotion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuntanLotion)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2024, 2:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/2462 "2024-04-18T02:01:48Z")
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