# What were you THINKING? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [October 13, 2023, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532 "2023-10-13T19:36:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 190
**Author:** ![crowmanyclouds](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crowmanyclouds/32/19884_2.png) [@crowmanyclouds](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/crowmanyclouds)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2025, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4077 "2025-03-03T15:31:04Z")
> [@gnoitall](#): > > TMI. The thread would have been quality content without the absolutely needless salacious details. That’s my take too. You can have a serious discussion about the OP’s OP or you can have the salacious discussion but you can’t have both in the same thread. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2025, 5:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4078 "2025-03-03T17:13:29Z")
Yeah. I stayed out of that thread because it, at best, smacked of teenaged locker room talk/braggadocio. I’m a guy who is about to turn 50. I’m not sure why a comment was made upthread about this devolving into a “war of the sexes.” I don’t think the sex or gender of those raising an eyebrow at that thread enters into it at all. But we all do stupid shit sometimes. Chalk it up and move on, as I don’t know the OP to otherwise be problematic. ---
**Author:** ![wolfpup](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wolfpup/32/10618_2.png) [@wolfpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wolfpup)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2025, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4079 "2025-03-03T22:03:50Z")
> [@Moriarty](#): > > I bust my ass in the gym five days a fucking week, and I don’t eat shit like 99% of the people in this fucking country. And as a result I look real fucking good doing it > > If I am seeking somebody out who not only has those values, but is successful in implementing them, I’m not doing so for superficial reasons . Are you kiddibg? Your whole damn _schtick_ is superficial. For reference, see the line “I look real fucking good”. > [@Moriarty](#): > > But I am also not going to shy away from my mammalian drive either. A man’s attraction to the female form doesn’t make him a jerk. Finding women stunning or gorgeous or beautiful or luscious doesn’t make him shallow, either. Keep digging! ---
**Author:** ![gnoitall](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bb73d2/32.png) [@gnoitall](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gnoitall)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2025, 11:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4080 "2025-03-03T23:12:13Z")
If being too shallow is a problem, digging is the answer. I guess? ---
**Author:** ![Thing.Fish](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thing.fish/32/9168_2.png) [@Thing.Fish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thing.Fish)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2025, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4081 "2025-03-04T01:29:01Z")
The last 60-some posts have been about Moriarty’s dating life. Maybe it’s time for that to get its own Pit thread which I can not read because I don’t care? ---
**Author:** ![Great\_Antibob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47c2d/32.png) [@Great\_Antibob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Great_Antibob)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2025, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4082 "2025-03-04T01:39:45Z")
I had not been keeping up with the drama as the thread title in question was enough of a shitshow to predict how the thread would actually go but from what I gather, it’s really more about Moriarty’s self-absorption and workout routine than anything resembling ‘dating’ ---
**Author:** ![TroutMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troutman/32/6721_2.png) [@TroutMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroutMan)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2025, 1:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4083 "2025-03-04T01:59:09Z")
Or you could just not bump a topic that had already died out. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2025, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4084 "2025-03-04T02:36:57Z")
> [@gnoitall](#): > > If being too shallow is a problem, digging is the answer. I guess? This is a good line. I may steal it. ---
**Author:** ![CairoCarol](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cairocarol/32/3825_2.png) [@CairoCarol](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CairoCarol)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2025, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4085 "2025-03-04T03:50:26Z")
> [@puzzlegal](#): > > This is a good line. I may steal it. Hold on tight, because I am also stealing it. ---
**Author:** ![Max\_S](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/46a35a/32.png) [@Max\_S](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Max_S)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2025, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4086 "2025-03-04T18:22:18Z")
> [@iiandyiiii](#): > > If Moriarty is in his 20s, then okay, he’s a typical sex-focused young man with little self awareness, and hopefully he’ll grow out of it (and be embarrassed that his attitude has been preserved forever in the internet). Speaking as a young man in his 20s, while (sadly) ‘locker-room’ talk still exists… why on earth would you want to go there on the SDMB? That’s like bringing a kiss and tell to grandma. Dunno what **Moriarty** was thinking. Even the most salacious _Straight Dope_ columns were printed in a newspaper. It was never “Dear Penthouse, I never thought this would happen to me but… I’m dating a porn star”. ~Max ---
**Author:** ![DocCathode](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doccathode/32/18773_2.png) [@DocCathode](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DocCathode)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2025, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4087 "2025-03-04T18:58:36Z")
I remind you that before the rules were updated, posts could get rather salacious. The SDMB is restrained now. But this was not always the case. It seems my favorite thread has been forgotten. ---
**Author:** ![EinsteinsHund](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/einsteinshund/32/8400_2.png) [@EinsteinsHund](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EinsteinsHund)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2025, 7:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4088 "2025-03-04T19:48:28Z")
> [@DocCathode](#): > > I remind you that before the rules were updated, posts could get rather salacious. I can’t remember that there was a rule change about sexual posts per se, just that you can’t post _discriminative_ sexual things anymore. And that’s a good thing. I’m not a prude by far, but I can live very well without the objectifying of women, for example, which used to be common here. ---
**Author:** ![DocCathode](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doccathode/32/18773_2.png) [@DocCathode](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DocCathode)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2025, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4089 "2025-03-04T19:58:15Z")
> [@EinsteinsHund](#): > > I can’t remember that there was a rule change about sexual posts per se, just that you can’t post _discriminative_ sexual things anymore I would need to doublecheck but I am pretty sure the ‘no letters to Penthouse’ rule is new. We previously had threads on Pan fried semen Is it safe to feed my semen to my goldfish Most unusual ways you have masturbated That is just OTTOMH. The ‘no linking to pornography’ rule is definitely new. It used to be just the two click rule. ---
**Author:** ![Max\_S](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/46a35a/32.png) [@Max\_S](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Max_S)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2025, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4090 "2025-03-04T20:02:50Z")
> [@DocCathode](#): > > I would need to doublecheck but I am pretty sure the ‘no letters to Penthouse’ rule is new. A quick search and it is referenced as part of the vBulletin rules FAQ (now inaccessible) as early as 2006. > [@Board Rules question concerning adult topics](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/board-rules-question-concerning-adult-topics/360386/2): > > Sex: The medical approach is OK, the Penthouse approach is not. If you are not sure, err on the side of caution and/or contact a staff member before you post. Actually, it’s not in the current rules. ~Max ---
**Author:** ![EinsteinsHund](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/einsteinshund/32/8400_2.png) [@EinsteinsHund](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EinsteinsHund)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2025, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4091 "2025-03-04T20:02:51Z")
> [@DocCathode](#): > > I would need to doublecheck but I am pretty sure the ‘no letters to Penthouse’ rule is new. I’m here since 2009, and I feel like that rule always existed. > [@DocCathode](#): > > The ‘no linking to pornography’ rule is definitely new. It used to be just the two click rule. Now this rule is news to me. ---
**Author:** ![DocCathode](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doccathode/32/18773_2.png) [@DocCathode](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DocCathode)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2025, 8:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4092 "2025-03-04T20:14:18Z")
I remembered slightly incorrectly > [@The Rules](#): > > **Pornography and potentially offensive material.** Do not post links to pornography – we will be the judge of what constitutes pornography. Links to nudity or other potentially shocking or offensive material are permissible only in the context of a mature discussion – gratuitous posting of such links is grounds for revocation of your posting privileges. When posting a link to potentially shocking or offensive material, observe the “two click” rule – don’t link directly to the item, but rather to an intermediate page that in turns links to the item. Alternatively, you may use the “spoiler” function – highlight the link, click on the Tool (gear) icon in the posting menu, and click on Blur Spoiler. Then provide an adequate, accurate description of what the blurred link points to. If you’re not sure whether a link is appropriate, contact a moderator or administrator before posting it. Any user who feels a posted message is objectionable should flag it or contact the moderators of the affected forum by private message. Note “Links to nudity or other potentially shocking or offensive material are permissible only in the context of a mature discussion” which would have forbidden a few threads at least, including my favorite. ETA From here- I honestly forget if the rules have been significantly updated since this > [@SDMB rules 9/12/2023](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-rules-9-12-2023/990013): > > SDMB rules have been further reorganized. A draft restatement is provided below for comment. Please note: We have attempted to eliminate redundancy and consolidate all rules on one topic in the same place. Rules are organized alphabetically by topic. Cross references are provided where appropriate. The message board software does not support intra-post hyperlinks, but lookup is reasonably easy using search. We have put a few informal rules in writing – see for example “artificial intelligence… ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2025, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4093 "2025-03-04T20:17:13Z")
Well, Doc. You’ve mentioned it twice. Which is your favorite thread, any whoo? ---
**Author:** ![Max\_S](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/46a35a/32.png) [@Max\_S](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Max_S)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2025, 8:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4094 "2025-03-04T20:24:08Z")
Current rules at [https://boards.straightdope.com/tos](https://boards.straightdope.com/tos) ~Max ---
**Author:** ![DocCathode](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doccathode/32/18773_2.png) [@DocCathode](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DocCathode)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2025, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4095 "2025-03-04T20:25:01Z")
See? It has been forgotten. [Doper NSFW Picture Thread](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/doper-nsfw-picture-thread/462488) Note- the links are broken with an extra space. I doubt most of the sites still exist. My link in the OP now goes to a page telling you that you must sign in to Flickr to view the photos. Bah. AIUI I cannot post even a broken link to the site I use for my gallery now. If anybody is interested, PM me, Your message will remain private. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2025, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4096 "2025-03-04T20:35:06Z")
Very interesting thread. I did not know that existed. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532.md?page=189) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532.md?page=191)