# What were you THINKING? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [October 13, 2023, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532 "2023-10-13T19:36:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 230
**Author:** ![bobot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bobot/32/21622_2.png) [@bobot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bobot)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 2:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4880 "2025-04-26T02:10:07Z")
Weren’t they the band with the flowerpots? ---
**Author:** ![CairoCarol](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cairocarol/32/3825_2.png) [@CairoCarol](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CairoCarol)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4881 "2025-04-26T02:25:34Z")
One of my faves! “We are DARVO, we are DARVO.” After opinionatizing lavishly on the subject of WCYUAAWSIO (When Can You Use An Acronym Without Spelling It Out?), I have stopped. The only thing we’ll ever all agree on is that everyone has different standards for when you need to spell an acronym. My own standard is simple and clear: if I already know the acronym, it’s perfectly fine to use it without explanation. If I _don’t_ recognize an acronym that someone else used without spelling out, they were wrong. That’s really pretty simple, isn’t it? I don’t know why all you Dopers can’t seem to get that. ---
**Author:** ![ParallelLines](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/parallellines/32/3575_2.png) [@ParallelLines](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ParallelLines)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 2:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4882 "2025-04-26T02:35:26Z")
Before everyone digs in their heels on this, a reminder, Beck has their own thread in the Pit. I say this as a poster, not a mod, but if you guys insist on the back and forth, I suspect the rest of us would like to be left out. ---
**Author:** ![bobot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bobot/32/21622_2.png) [@bobot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bobot)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4883 "2025-04-26T02:44:52Z")
[![](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/xFvAmY3kkO0/hqdefault.jpg "JERKIN BACK AND FORTH DEVO") ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFvAmY3kkO0) ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4884 "2025-04-26T02:50:03Z")
Oh come on. Why can’t I post here? It’s not my fault I’m THINKING stuff and might have an opinion on it. It perturbs some people, I get that. But they are the type to get perturbed by everything I say. They are the problem. I will not sit here and take continued abuse because of a slight they percieved. I may or may not even remember. This is the Pit. Anything goes, I’m told. Except what I post. Thread ban them. ---
**Author:** ![ParallelLines](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/parallellines/32/3575_2.png) [@ParallelLines](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ParallelLines)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 2:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4885 "2025-04-26T02:56:33Z")
I was asking only as a poster and the OP, not as a mod. Ya’ll do what you’re gonna do. ---
**Author:** ![WOOKINPANUBv.2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wookinpanubv.2/32/3260_2.png) [@WOOKINPANUBv.2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WOOKINPANUBv.2)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 2:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4886 "2025-04-26T02:56:53Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > But, not _mean_ ever. I concur. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 3:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4887 "2025-04-26T03:16:41Z")
Ok. Im gonna make this easy on everyone. I’ll be the bigger person and bow out. Again. Jeez louise. 🫤 ---
**Author:** ![BippityBoppityBoo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bippityboppityboo/32/5745_2.png) [@BippityBoppityBoo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BippityBoppityBoo)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 3:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4888 "2025-04-26T03:18:47Z")
I concur with the both of you. ---
**Author:** ![wolfpup](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wolfpup/32/10618_2.png) [@wolfpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wolfpup)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4889 "2025-04-26T03:37:07Z")
> [@WOOKINPANUBv.2](#): > > > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > > > But, not _mean_ ever. > > I concur. I also concur. I think it’s now been proposed, seconded, thirded, and fourthed that **Beck** hasn’t been mean to anyone on this board. Maybe a little feisty sometimes, but never mean. > [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](#): > > > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > > > Being mean is not my normal 😊) > > The fuck it isn’t. Your normal is being mean, and then denying that you’re being mean, and then DARVOing the shit out of it when other people call you on it. If I may offer my humble opinion, you are (a) one of the more valued posters on this board, and also (b) can be an arrogant, judgmental ass sometimes. It would be nice to see more of what makes you “a” and less of what makes you “b”. ---
**Author:** ![Disinfectus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/disinfectus/32/11085_2.png) [@Disinfectus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Disinfectus)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 4:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4890 "2025-04-26T04:22:45Z")
We must have different definitions of “mean.” At least once, possibly more times, she’s been warned for telling other posters (on a discussion board, no less) to shut up when she didn’t like what they were saying. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 4:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4891 "2025-04-26T04:42:34Z")
Twice. I said it twice. That’s all. (Not warned) Once was misunderstood. I meant to say some akin to “I can’t believe that” The other one I straight up told someone to “Shut up”. Not my proudest post. They were insulting me personally. In the pit, I think. I may be wrong on that. But it was offensive anyway. When saying shut up gets you beat up there’s a problem here. Many many worse things have been said to people on these boards. Not a peep. Just resignation that the offenders can get away with it, repeatedly. It’s a sad way to have to be. To look over your shoulder at every post. So you don’t offend, irritate or bother the sensitive ones. The ones that could skip over your post. The ones who pit every person for wildly inflated butt-hurt. I could flag everytime I see it happen. But then there’s that “don’t flag too often” non-rule that will catch you up. ---
**Author:** ![WOOKINPANUBv.2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wookinpanubv.2/32/3260_2.png) [@WOOKINPANUBv.2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WOOKINPANUBv.2)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 5:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4892 "2025-04-26T05:17:09Z")
> [@Disinfectus](#): > > We must have different definitions of “mean.” At least once, possibly more times, she’s been warned for telling other posters (on a discussion board, no less) to shut up when she didn’t like what they were saying. Looks like Beck addressed the offensive “shut up”. How that equals “mean” to you, I don’t know. Has she been mean in other ways? Not trying to grill you, it’s just that the Beck in my head is the exact opposite of mean (yes, I have mental files on all of you 🙂). I can name at least five posters who should be called out every day but aren’t. Does this all originate with a particular thread / post? ---
**Author:** ![Great\_Antibob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47c2d/32.png) [@Great\_Antibob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Great_Antibob)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 5:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4893 "2025-04-26T05:37:40Z")
Ah yes, that faux Southern “niceness” and feigned injury in the same vein as “Bless Your Heart”. Sealion adjacent, at the very least. ---
**Author:** ![Chisquirrel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/6bbea6/32.png) [@Chisquirrel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chisquirrel)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 5:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4894 "2025-04-26T05:40:09Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > I’ll be the bigger person and bow out. Again. So that was a fucking lie. Again. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 6:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4895 "2025-04-26T06:10:58Z")
Yeah. So I changed my mind. Is that a crime or just against your special sensitivities? I think we’ve all made plans and changed our minds. It’s not unheard of. I bet you’ve done it. Why is it you hate me so much? I don’t think we’ve ever run into each other on the Dope. It’s just a series of you hatin’ and making nasty remarks. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 6:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4896 "2025-04-26T06:17:22Z")
I ain’t no “faux” southerner, ya’ll! 😄 ---
**Author:** ![crowmanyclouds](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crowmanyclouds/32/19884_2.png) [@crowmanyclouds](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/crowmanyclouds)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 6:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4897 "2025-04-26T06:17:32Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > and making nasty remarks. I’d suggest you report those. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 6:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4898 "2025-04-26T06:17:49Z")
Noooooooooooo! ---
**Author:** ![Disinfectus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/disinfectus/32/11085_2.png) [@Disinfectus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Disinfectus)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 5:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4899 "2025-04-26T17:21:11Z")
> [@WOOKINPANUBv.2](#): > > Looks like Beck addressed the offensive “shut up”. How that equals “mean” to you, I don’t know. Has she been mean in other ways? Not trying to grill you, it’s just that the Beck in my head is the exact opposite of mean For someone who’s “never been mean”, she sure apologize a lot for it. I came into this thread with the sole purpose of calling out Czarcasm because he claimed that Johanna had “attacked” a homeless person by offering them food. The irony is that Beck even posted that Czarcasm had gone too far. Then, a few posts later, she gave him a pass and said that he had never attacked anyone. I stated my reasons why I disagreed with giving him a pass and showed where he HAD attacked someone. She responded with, “oh well, who really cares” and said I was just trying to start crap with her. I wasn’t. I was simply pointing out that I didn’t agree with her. I was ready to drop the whole thing until she claimed that she is never mean. right after calling me an asshole. I disagree with that as well. Here are a few posts from this thread. You can decide for yourself as to whether Beck is ever mean. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > I agree. Not a good moment or two for me. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > I was a bit snarky, in the thread. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > I’ve been cranky. Sorry if I hurt anyone’s feelings. Not usually my MO. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > I don’t shame people. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > As I said I have no dog in the fight, but shame on you > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > You’re a creep. Skeevy nasty wish you had some, can’t get it, woman hating creep. > > Try and cut and paste that. > Flag me again. Weakling. > > I man shame you. You’re awful. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > I’m ashamed of this board for the name calling. It’s reprehensible that we have to be so juvenile and not have words to describe people with out insulting names. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > I’m not contentious by nature. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > I do not whine. I offer a better way. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > I will not call you a filthy name for having your opinion. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > You just want attention, after all. You get none anywhere else. That must be it, you rural fuckin’ old lady. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > I do apologize for calling him a creep > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > I’ve apologized and apologized for my bad behavior. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > ETA: I’m still toxic at times. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > Apparently I don’t know how not to thread shit. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > Hush. You do not matter to me anymore. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > I said I was sorry I used the word _bitch_ referring to her. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > It’s about an asshole who just can’t drop it. > Just gotta get that last word. Everytime. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > My god, can you just shut-up. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > Huh? Can you post sober? > > (I have to admit that was assholish) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532.md?page=229) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532.md?page=231)