# What were you THINKING? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [October 13, 2023, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532 "2023-10-13T19:36:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 231
**Author:** ![wolfpup](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wolfpup/32/10618_2.png) [@wolfpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wolfpup)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4900 "2025-04-26T17:28:38Z")
I don’t know WTF you’re trying to prove here. I have no dog in this fight. I’ve had disagreements with **Beck**. But **Beck** values this community and it’s important to her, and as I said before, she can sometimes be feisty, and the fact that she apologizes for it and tries to get along isn’t evidence that she deserves to be dumped on. Frankly, the effort you went through to gather all those quotes says a lot more about you than about **Beck** , and what it says isn’t admirable. ---
**Author:** ![chela](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chela/32/21582_2.png) [@chela](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chela)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4901 "2025-04-26T17:47:44Z")
JFC, your widdle fweewings got hurt? Pitiful. I suggest you Disinfect your brain from this beck derangement syndrome. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4902 "2025-04-26T17:55:56Z")
Wow. That took some serious effort to pick out-of-context posts of mine. Makes me looks just awful. Oh wait! That’s your plan. I see. Yeah. I commend you on your commitment to your cause. Do I know you? ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4903 "2025-04-26T19:16:26Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > Do I know you? Do you/can you ever _really know_ anyone??? 🤔 ---
**Author:** ![Disinfectus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/disinfectus/32/11085_2.png) [@Disinfectus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Disinfectus)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4904 "2025-04-26T19:17:36Z")
It took me all of 10 minutes. Had I actually tried, you’d still be scrolling. And nothing was taken out of context. ---
**Author:** ![Disinfectus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/disinfectus/32/11085_2.png) [@Disinfectus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Disinfectus)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4905 "2025-04-26T19:19:48Z")
> [@wolfpup](#): > > I don’t know WTF you’re trying to prove here. What I DID prove is that she is full of shit with her “I’ve never been mean” bullshit. She said that right after she indirectly called me an asshole. And no, that took no effort at all, which should tell you something. But by all means, keep defending her passive-aggresiveness. ---
**Author:** ![Disinfectus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/disinfectus/32/11085_2.png) [@Disinfectus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Disinfectus)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4906 "2025-04-26T19:24:10Z")
Nope, my feelings weren’t hurt at all. I would have to care about her for that to happen. But I will point out when someone is being passive-aggressive and hypocritical. Note that I haven’t called anyone any names. Again, I started out by simply telling her she was incorrect about something. She doesn’t like that and decided to escalate, which I’m fine with. ---
**Author:** ![SuntanLotion](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suntanlotion/32/16165_2.png) [@SuntanLotion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuntanLotion)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4907 "2025-04-26T19:33:13Z")
> [@Disinfectus](#): > > . Again, I started out by simply telling her she was incorrect about something. There was your mistake. She is never incorrect. Maybe the other mistake was giving her attention. ---
**Author:** ![John\_DiFool](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_difool/32/19543_2.png) [@John\_DiFool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_DiFool)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4908 "2025-04-26T19:40:58Z")
> [@Roderick\_Femm](#): > > Pot, meet kettle. _Okay, okay, why certainly, I’m shuttin’ up. Why should I continue to keep yappin’ when I’m told to shut up. I’m not the kind of dope that don’t know when to stop; some people never know when to stop. When I’m told to shut up, I shut up…_ ---
**Author:** ![CairoCarol](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cairocarol/32/3825_2.png) [@CairoCarol](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CairoCarol)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 7:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4909 "2025-04-26T19:49:16Z")
@Disinfectus: This quote you offered: > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > You just want attention, after all. You get none anywhere else. That must be it, you rural fuckin’ old lady. is REALLY out of context. It’s Beck characterizing how she feels people are talking to her - not how she is talking to them. ---
**Author:** ![Disinfectus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/disinfectus/32/11085_2.png) [@Disinfectus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Disinfectus)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4910 "2025-04-26T19:59:00Z")
Agreed. ---
**Author:** ![Disinfectus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/disinfectus/32/11085_2.png) [@Disinfectus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Disinfectus)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4911 "2025-04-26T20:02:35Z")
If that’s the case, I’m happy to apologize for taking it out of context. That’s not the way it read to me, and even absent that quote, I think there are plenty of valid examples of her being mean, then apologizing, then being mean. Rinse and repeat. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 8:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4912 "2025-04-26T20:08:42Z")
Aren’t you getting a load of attention now? How does it feel? Nice? Every person on this board wants their posts read. Is this not why we post in the first place? Aren’t we all asking for attention? It’s ok. It’s human nature. I’m sorry I bother you so much. Perhaps you could ignore me. Then you won’t be bothered, any more. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4913 "2025-04-26T20:41:26Z")
Could i request that posts like this, that will generate a ton of replies, be posted to Beck’s thread in the future? (Request made as a poster, not as a mod. Just to be clear.) ---
**Author:** ![Aspenglow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aspenglow/32/76_2.png) [@Aspenglow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aspenglow)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4914 "2025-04-26T20:52:40Z")
This request was made by the OP of the thread just 18 hours ago: > [@What were you THINKING?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4882): > > Before everyone digs in their heels on this, a reminder, Beck has their own thread in the Pit. I say this as a poster, not a mod, but if you guys insist on the back and forth, I suspect the rest of us would like to be left out. To no avail. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4915 "2025-04-26T21:18:58Z")
All because I dared say I give Czarcasm a pass because he _likely_ made a mistake. We all have. Me included. ---
**Author:** ![wolfpup](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wolfpup/32/10618_2.png) [@wolfpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wolfpup)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4916 "2025-04-26T21:45:00Z")
Sorry for my part in this. I was only intending to make one post and then move on, but it turned into several. I’m done. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 10:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4917 "2025-04-26T22:24:07Z")
I’m sorry you were dragged into it because I consider you a friend and don’t want you bothered. Hell, I’m sorry I was dragged into it. Oh, I could ignore the snippy remarks. I do ignore a substantial amount of them. I’ve just decided I don’t deserve this and I have my piece to say, some days. Then I’m fine. I move on. I try very hard to forgive and forget. We all have bad days and moods. So I try to think that’s usually what it is. But we get repeaters. The ones who, by god, gotta shut beck up. It gets personal. Researching a poster and taking their posts out of context and snipped to bits to achieve a hate post is just sad. And one step nearer to stalking behavior. (I mentioned no names to protect the innocent) ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 10:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4918 "2025-04-26T22:24:58Z")
Or, just let it go. Seems that those who complain the loudest about the old lady trying to make everything about her spend an awful lot of time and effort to see that she gets it that way. Let it go. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2025, 10:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/4919 "2025-04-26T22:25:30Z")
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