# What were you THINKING? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [October 13, 2023, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532 "2023-10-13T19:36:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 347
**Author:** ![TroutMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troutman/32/6721_2.png) [@TroutMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroutMan)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2026, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7311 "2026-06-12T23:43:32Z")
Y’all are focusing on the name part, but saying it’s possible a woman is intersex because she didn’t have kids is _way_ more insulting and idiotic. I’m baffled by someone who would find out a woman doesn’t have children and think, “hmm, maybe she’s not actually a woman.” I am horrified by someone who would share that thought with others. ---
**Author:** ![Thing.Fish](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thing.fish/32/9168_2.png) [@Thing.Fish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thing.Fish)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2026, 11:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7312 "2026-06-12T23:46:42Z")
Have y’all not met nearwildheaven before? This is totally on brand for him. ---
**Author:** ![Chronos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chronos/32/134_2.png) [@Chronos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chronos)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2026, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7313 "2026-06-13T00:01:34Z")
> [@TroutMan](#): > > Y’all are focusing on the name part, but saying it’s possible a woman is intersex because she didn’t have kids is _way_ more insulting and idiotic. Insulting and idiotic, yes, but there’s at least a causal relationship, there. The name thing doesn’t even have that. ---
**Author:** ![TroutMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troutman/32/6721_2.png) [@TroutMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroutMan)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2026, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7314 "2026-06-13T00:02:45Z")
The name thing was just plain idiocy. I have a higher tolerance for idiots than bigots. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2026, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7315 "2026-06-13T00:50:48Z")
Agree. Insulting. ---
**Author:** ![CairoCarol](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cairocarol/32/3825_2.png) [@CairoCarol](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CairoCarol)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2026, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7316 "2026-06-13T02:00:50Z")
> [@nearwildheaven](#): > > Being intersex is a lot different from being transgender. Mmmkay? You didn’t specify “intersex” in your original post. That only came up here after you were called out, and to be clear, it doesn’t make a lick of difference to how offensive your post is. Mmmkay? It’s incredibly distasteful, bigoted, and stupid to think that the possibility a person might be either trans or intersex is worthy of being a “favorite” celebrity rumor. FAVORITE RUMOR? Dear god. Please don’t tell us your runner-up favorite. Also, thanks to @TroutMan for pointing out how offensive it is to speculate that she might be intersex because she doesn’t have children. There’s nothing wrong with being intersex or trans, of course. It’s just odious to indulge in ignorant speculation about a topic that’s so deeply personal. ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2026, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7317 "2026-06-13T02:07:28Z")
Childless women are not rare at any age. > **[While Share of Younger Women Without Children Increased, More Women Had...](https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2025/09/older-mothers.html)** > > From 2014 to 2024, the share of older mothers rose as fewer teens and women in their 20s and 30s had children. Absent personal knowledge of personal circumstances, any conclusion about an individual childless woman isn’t based in fact. So it must be based in something less real. And far less honorable. ---
**Author:** ![DSeid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dseid/32/20194_2.png) [@DSeid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DSeid)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2026, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7318 "2026-06-13T02:43:39Z")
FWIW nearwild didn’t _create_ any of that. Those exact idiocies as the basis of baseless speculations have been around for decades I think? I’ve heard them before. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2026, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7319 "2026-06-13T02:44:31Z")
It is close to calling her mannish because she has short hair. Come on. Just nasty. ---
**Author:** ![DSeid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dseid/32/20194_2.png) [@DSeid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DSeid)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2026, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7320 "2026-06-13T03:06:49Z")
Of course it was nasty; but it was nastiness that originated decades ago, not an original creation, it was repeating an old rumor, and I am sure that her specific brand of beauty contributed to the nastiness. ---
**Author:** ![thorny\_locust](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thorny_locust/32/431_2.png) [@thorny\_locust](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thorny_locust)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2026, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7321 "2026-06-13T03:22:00Z")
> [@DSeid](#): > > Of course it was nasty; but it was nastiness that originated decades ago, not an original creation, Are you claiming that’s an excuse for continuing it? ---
**Author:** ![ASL\_v2.0](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asl_v2.0/32/3525_2.png) [@ASL\_v2.0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ASL_v2.0)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2026, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7322 "2026-06-13T03:24:33Z")
**nearwildheaven** doesn’t belong in this thread. There’s another for their ilk. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2026, 3:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7323 "2026-06-13T03:27:29Z")
> [@DSeid](#): > > FWIW nearwild didn’t _create_ any of that. Those exact idiocies as the basis of baseless speculations have been around for decades I think? She not only brought it up, she spread the rumor with her stamp of approval. ---
**Author:** ![DSeid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dseid/32/20194_2.png) [@DSeid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DSeid)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2026, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7324 "2026-06-13T03:33:56Z")
No? Not defending; observing. And the phrasing of “may have some truth to it” is really dumb. Without that though it would be completely fair to include as in keeping with a thread that gave a rumor of a baby sacrifice as part of a rock concert as its example rumor that is hard to believe has legs. Still it is an example of a crazy rumor that has been around a long time that has quite a few idiots repeating as truth (citing the same reasons they believe it). Which was the thread subject? ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2026, 3:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7325 "2026-06-13T03:36:25Z")
> [@Thing.Fish](#): > > Have y’all not met nearwildheaven before? This is totally on brand for him.  Her, not him. She’s like a Gladys Kravitz who spends all day breathlessly spreading rumors on every website she can find. Even her “breaking news” threads are her trying to be the FIRST with bad news, regardless of its importance - often with “warning, trigger alert!” ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2026, 3:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7326 "2026-06-13T03:38:56Z")
> [@nearwildheaven](#): > > Did you see the rest of my post? If this is true, she’ll let us know when and if she wants us to. I do think it may be possible.  Not only was it redundant to my point, but it actually made what you wrote _worse_. ---
**Author:** ![Atamasama](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/atamasama/32/12961_2.png) [@Atamasama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atamasama)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2026, 3:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7327 "2026-06-13T03:39:15Z")
> [@needscoffee](#): > > Her, not him. I think that was intentional (what’s good for the gander is good for the “gander”). ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2026, 3:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7328 "2026-06-13T03:45:55Z")
> [@Atamasama](#): > > I think that was intentional (what’s good for the gander is good for the “gander”) Ooh, I completely missed it. Thanks. Very good, @Thing.Fish! ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2026, 12:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7329 "2026-06-13T12:29:15Z")
Wasn’t it Jeebus who said something like The credulous you will always have with you. And boy are they a pain in everyone’s ass. My take: Grow a filter or go home. Although, ref @DSeid, I’m slightly mollified to learn that the JLC rumor is long-standing misongyist / nonbinary-phobic garbage, not something **nwh** whipped up on their own just yesterday. ---
**Author:** ![thorny\_locust](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thorny_locust/32/431_2.png) [@thorny\_locust](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thorny_locust)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2026, 12:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/7330 "2026-06-13T12:38:44Z")
> [@DSeid](#): > > Still it is an example of a crazy rumor that has been around a long time that has quite a few idiots repeating as truth (citing the same reasons they believe it). Which was the thread subject? Except she gave those idiotic reasons as being actual sensible reasons, which she said meant the rumor might be true. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532.md?page=346) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532.md?page=348)