# What were you THINKING? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [October 13, 2023, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532 "2023-10-13T19:36:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2023, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/61 "2023-11-01T21:35:03Z")
…and he just sent me a long, rambling, scoldy, petulant DM in response to this thread, as if my lack of desire to communicate with him in public somehow indicates a desire to get fussed at by him in private. Big ole nope on that one. ---
**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2023, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/62 "2023-11-01T21:47:18Z")
Remember, PMs can be flagged also. No clue if a need to, just a reminder. ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2023, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/63 "2023-11-01T22:17:26Z")
No, no need to flag it, just a desire to continue a debate in private that I had said I was done with in public. But thanks. ---
**Author:** ![ParallelLines](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/parallellines/32/3575_2.png) [@ParallelLines](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ParallelLines)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2023, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/64 "2023-11-01T22:23:15Z")
For the record, N\_B too has a [well earned Pit thread](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-novelty-bobble/953914). But I don’t see his crap anymore because I have him, Sam\_Stone, and Magiver all on ignore, for reasons fully summed up by their Pit threads. But feel free to blow off steam, at least 2 of the three I think are absolutely trolls, and the last I’m almost certain of. ---
**Author:** ![TroutMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troutman/32/6721_2.png) [@TroutMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroutMan)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2023, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/65 "2023-11-05T16:06:25Z")
So which ex-boyfriend of Taylor is martyg? He certainly seems to have a bug up his ass about her. Jake Gyllenhaal is the obvious pick, with the “indie record much cooler than mine” tie in. But Jake isn’t a self-centered prick convinced of the superiority of his subjective opinions eager to show off. My money is on John Mayer. ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2023, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/66 "2023-11-05T16:18:11Z")
I don’t think it’s that. I think he’s got no accomplishments to his name, but he does have a vinyl collection and a neck beard, and that makes him a True Authority On Music. There’s not much to his identity beyond that. So when these fake geek girls come along and dare to suggest that they like some music that he doesn’t have teh wisdom on, he’s gotta guard the gates–because without his True Authority, what is he? It’s pretty sad. I mean funny. I mean sad! ---
**Author:** ![John\_DiFool](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_difool/32/19543_2.png) [@John\_DiFool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_DiFool)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2023, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/67 "2023-11-05T16:24:59Z")
> [@Chingon](#): > > People will tie themselves into knots to virtue signal how “anti-woke” they are. Add you can see, they’ll even go as far as making things up to feel persecuted about. Anti-Woke Bubble. ---
**Author:** ![TroutMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troutman/32/6721_2.png) [@TroutMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroutMan)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2023, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/68 "2023-11-05T16:26:43Z")
I’m not sure our hypotheses are mutually exclusive. I don’t know if John Mayer has a neck beard these days, but the rest of your description fits. But while my guess is a complete fabrication, yours is 100% accurate. We all remember those types from college and our 20s, when you’d nod politely and quickly walk away to find someone interesting to talk to. I don’t encounter them so much these days. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2023, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/69 "2023-11-05T17:52:21Z")
I’ve decided, without any authority or insider knowledge he’s an old roadie for some virtually unknown weird group of musicians and drank _all_ the Kool aid. ---
**Author:** ![MrDibble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mrdibble/32/114_2.png) [@MrDibble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrDibble)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2023, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/70 "2023-11-05T18:19:13Z")
He’s said he was props maker for The Residents. Or am I confusing him with some other More Indie Than Thou poser? ETA - that “poser” was meant to be “poster” but it’s so perfect I decided to leave it as-is. ---
**Author:** ![Roderick\_Femm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/roderick_femm/32/14875_2.png) [@Roderick\_Femm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roderick_Femm)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2023, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/71 "2023-11-05T22:00:44Z")
Mr.Duality is pouting because he didn’t get the answers he wanted in his thread about his father’s estate being used up in caring for … wait for it … his father. People were nasty to him. Nobody needs to be sympathetic to his father because he has lived a full life, and I guess it’s ok if he spends the end of his life in squalor (these are my words, not his). He’s been around here long enough not to have expected anything less than the brutal truth. I guess he’s too close to the problem to appreciate the feedback. I wish his father well. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2023, 1:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/72 "2023-11-06T13:00:43Z")
I wish Mr. Duality well. Losing your father, bit-by-bit is pretty horrible. I don’t wish him a healthy inheritance, though. I’m happy that taxpayers chip in so the ill elderly don’t end up freezing to death, but i don’t see any compelling reason why those elderly who can afford their care shouldn’t pay for it. (If it were a spouse using up all the savings that both depended on, I’d feel a bit differently. I think the law does, too.) ---
**Author:** ![chela](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chela/32/21582_2.png) [@chela](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chela)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2023, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/73 "2023-11-06T18:35:51Z")
How many pit threads do y’all need to gossip, bitch and moan about other members? I could sympathize with him for the reason that at the end of a life it comes down to paying upwards of 6-10 k a month to a for profit corporation for an apartment that is basically a studio with no kitchen facilities. Sure the help comes in to do try and do the light housekeeping and laundry and your meals are provided. But unless you live nearby and check on them, a lot of that housekeeping shit aint getting done. Now you’re taking squalor. It’s practically daylight robbery. Would any you pay 6k a month for a studio with a meal plan? ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2023, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/74 "2023-11-06T21:36:39Z")
> [@chela](#): > > How many pit threads do y’all need to gossip, bitch and moan about other members? I like having omnibus threads, so the Pit Home Page isn’t filled with individual threads: “Chucko’s an idiot”/“Bobbo’s a Cretin”/“Chucko Did It Again”/“Bobbo Insulted Me”/“Chucko’s a Russian Dupe”/“Chucko’s a Trocksky”/“No, Banjo’s the Russian Dupe”/“Bobbo Insulted Chucko and Banjo”/“Chucko Insulted The Mods. All Of Them, Individually!” This happens across the boards. We get someone starting a thread on something trivial instead of putting it in with the Mini-Rants. Or a thread on something Santos claimed, when there are three perfectly good threads where it’d fit. ---
**Author:** ![Stratocaster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stratocaster/32/16393_2.png) [@Stratocaster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stratocaster)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2023, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/75 "2023-11-06T21:49:11Z")
We can all agree that Chucko’s a dick, though, right? ---
**Author:** ![Borborygmi](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/borborygmi/32/217_2.png) [@Borborygmi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Borborygmi)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2023, 10:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/76 "2023-11-06T22:06:38Z")
Chucko is most certainly a dick, but society is to blame. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2023, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/77 "2023-11-06T22:12:21Z")
No…Bobbo’s worse ---
**Author:** ![crowmanyclouds](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crowmanyclouds/32/19884_2.png) [@crowmanyclouds](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/crowmanyclouds)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2023, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/78 "2023-11-06T22:17:10Z")
And? None of that justifies Mr. Duality’s desire for other people pay for those services when he is able to pay for them himself. ---
**Author:** ![chela](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chela/32/21582_2.png) [@chela](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chela)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2023, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/79 "2023-11-06T22:21:50Z")
Nah it was frustration expressed about seeing a parents life savings draining away because of exorbitant expenses to house and care for an elderly parent. ---
**Author:** ![crowmanyclouds](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crowmanyclouds/32/19884_2.png) [@crowmanyclouds](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/crowmanyclouds)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2023, 10:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/80 "2023-11-06T22:25:26Z")
You still haven’t justified Mr. Duality’s desire for other people pay for those services when he is able to pay for them himself. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532.md?page=5)