# What were you THINKING? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [October 13, 2023, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532 "2023-10-13T19:36:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 50
**Author:** ![MrDibble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mrdibble/32/114_2.png) [@MrDibble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrDibble)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 9:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/981 "2024-02-20T09:28:35Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > I don’t shame people. We were talking about a much removed person, who none of us knows, in a hypothetical opinion thread. It’s _still_ slut-shaming when you do it in your living room nosy-old-biddy style, without the courage to do it to anyone’s face. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > I said my opinion. Which was a slut-shame-y one. I’m sorry your man wouldn’t fuck you any more after he discovered Pornhub, or wanted to try anal after he found that Hustler in the woods while shootin’ b’ar, or whatever porn-related trauma happened to you. Clearly _something_ personal did. Maybe if that Hustler had mentioned lube alongside the piledriver shots, you wouldn’t still be butthurt over it. Still doesn’t give you the least bit of leave to slut-shame people making consensual porn, or dribble the misandrist crap you’ve been leaking alongside it. That shit’s nasty, maybe visit a clinic, I hear they have shots for that now. Now _that_, is me being cranky. Lying self-serving bullshit like “I don’t slut-shame - to their face” does make me a _little_ cranky. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 9:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/982 "2024-02-20T09:32:12Z")
You’re a creep. Skeevy nasty wish you had some, can’t get it, woman hating creep. Try and cut and paste that. Flag me again. Weakling. I man shame you. You’re awful. ---
**Author:** ![MrDibble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mrdibble/32/114_2.png) [@MrDibble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrDibble)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 9:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/983 "2024-02-20T09:46:20Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > You’re a creep. Skeevy nasty wish you had some, can’t get it, woman hating creep. I’ll pass your best wishes on to my lovely wife. Probably when we’re cuddling in bed, you dried-up old harridan. Meanwhile, you will remain a nosy, slut-shaming misandrist crone in the shell of a lady. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > Flag me again Why on earth would I need to? Your own nasty posts in the teacher thread are doing a splendid job of showing your judgy uptight ass to _everyone_. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > Weakling. I don’t come from your 17th C-bound backwoods honour culture, lady. Try harder. But clearly I hit a nerve. A bit more than just “cranky” now, aren’t ya, Becky? > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > I man shame you. “My Honour!” [![](https://64.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m4gjz0vsMR1rn95k2o1_500.gif) ](https://64.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m4gjz0vsMR1rn95k2o1_500.gif) > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > You’re awful. And you’re a bore. ---
**Author:** ![ASL\_v2.0](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asl_v2.0/32/3525_2.png) [@ASL\_v2.0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ASL_v2.0)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 1:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/984 "2024-02-20T13:38:41Z")
> [@Riemann](#): > > some far more tedious version of the Colin Robinson energy vampire Biting, but funny. ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 1:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/985 "2024-02-20T13:45:14Z")
Wow–I thought of posting about her here, but couldn’t be bothered. Y’all don’t hold back, do you? Anyway, it’s kind of a relief to see that others find her combination of condescension, false modesty, bigotry, and dimwittery as tiresome as I do. No doubt she’ll chalk this up to me being another man and therefore that makes this mansplaining; it’ll be easier for her to do that than to realize that some of the people who find her views so problematic are women, and that the problem is her ideas, not her gender. ---
**Author:** ![Babale](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/babale/32/15666_2.png) [@Babale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Babale)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 1:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/986 "2024-02-20T13:48:08Z")
> [@MrDibble](#): > > I’m sorry your man wouldn’t fuck you any more after he discovered Pornhub, or wanted to try anal after he found that Hustler in the woods while shootin’ b’ar, or whatever porn-related trauma happened to you Ouch! That was savage. I would feel bad for you Beck, but you keep doing this shit: > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > Skeevy nasty wish you had some, can’t get it, woman hating creep. You’ve been told a number of times how insulting it is that you keep insisiting that the only reason for men to disagree with you is that they’re horny and lonely creeps concerned with keeping the flow of porn going. And yet, you keep making that argument anyways. So instead of feeling bad for you, I feel that turnaround is fair play. ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 1:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/987 "2024-02-20T13:59:49Z")
Crotchety old rural lady with lotsa heath problems on lotsa meds getting older and crochetier by the day. The bitterness and occasional hate wasn’t in evidence in the beginning, but then slowly emerged and is gaining speed. We each potentially have a sell-by date here, when we get too comfortable and let our full freak flag fly. Beck might be circling that drain. She hasn’t fully crossed that line for me, but I skip a lot more of her threads than I used to. Then again, for anyone out in rural Arkansas to have _not_ turned into a raging trumper like all their neighbors is a sign of some decent character under the narrow worldview bluster. So I give partial credit for that. ---
**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 2:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/988 "2024-02-20T14:06:00Z")
I do think it is shitty how she’s attention whoring in multiple Pit threads now. _Has she no shame?_ But I always found her countrified _Word, Word, Word_ schtick mostly unreadable. This thread in theory has a purpose and it shouldn’t be for Beck to do her best _Liberal_ impression. He also played the illness card after insulting people and hijacking threads and the countrified bullshit mannerisms and attention whoring. Her “Bless your Heart” drop the other day sealed it for me. Beck would be on ignore for me if I wasn’t a Mod. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 2:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/989 "2024-02-20T14:12:56Z")
I am a much nicer person when i don’t hurt. I had a really bad back ache for a couple of weeks, and during the worst of it i could barely walk and life was just painful. It made me a worse person. Beck’s got a lot of serious medical conditions. I try to remember that. Also, i got the joke about the bears. Maybe because I’ve told the exact same joke about foxes. But I could do without the slut shaming. And yes, Beck, you definitely went beyond “i don’t think it’s a good idea to post porn” and well into slut shaming. But ya know, if someone annoys you, the best bet is to stop responding to them. Beck is right that we are all here for attention. We aren’t writing diary entries to ourselves, we hope that someone else will read our posts, think about them, maybe learn something, maybe get a laugh, maybe just think about them. But we are here to interact with each other. If another poster annoys you, stop giving them that attention. Just skip over their posts, unless you need to read them for continuity. Or use the ignore function. It makes the board a nicer place. ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/990 "2024-02-20T14:30:38Z")
Very well said. I have the good luck to not have physical pain (yet), but when I’m mentally / emotionally hurting I’m a lot less nice around here. Physical pain really does an number on most folks’ agreeability. As we all get older and most of us are now aging into the chronic discomfort stage, that’ll be something for all of us in the audience to bear in mind about everyone else. And yeah, about the time you (any you) find yourself ranting about another poster, the fix is the [ignore] button, not more ranting. I don’t have nearly the vitriol for **beck** that some folks recently upthread do. But I could imagine getting to the [ignore] point, rather than the “I’ll just skip that OP” method that I mostly use now. ---
**Author:** ![Mikkel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mikkel/32/13151_2.png) [@Mikkel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mikkel)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/991 "2024-02-20T14:39:39Z")
I must admit that I enjoy the “bad, bad, bad” threads. I like Beck’s humor and the glimpses of a life much different from mine. I have been saddened by her views in the teacher porn thread. I hope that more disagreeable Beck will get better soon. ---
**Author:** ![Moriarty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/moriarty/32/49_2.png) [@Moriarty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moriarty)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/992 "2024-02-20T14:57:49Z")
What the hell is going on?! Some pent up rage is flowing like a torrent! (For what it’s worth, I like all y’all. Even when I don’t) ---
**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/993 "2024-02-20T16:12:22Z")
> [@puzzlegal](#): > > Just skip over their posts, unless you need to read them for continuity. I did this for years, but now she keeps popping up in threads in FQ and adding empty posts. If she had stayed in her lane in MPSIMS, I would have continued to not be bothered by her. But Attention Whoring in the Pit and empty posts in FQ moves her into the major annoyance category for me. ---
**Author:** ![thorny\_locust](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thorny_locust/32/431_2.png) [@thorny\_locust](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thorny_locust)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 4:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/994 "2024-02-20T16:13:44Z")
> [@LSLGuy](#): > > lotsa heath problems on lotsa meds I don’t want to Internet-diagnose. But I suspect that’s a lot of it. > [@puzzlegal](#): > > I am a much nicer person when i don’t hurt. Me too. Mentally and/or physically, and Beck’s got genuine good reason for both. I try to keep it under control, when that happens; but that takes spoons, and Beck may be running out of them. ---
**Author:** ![Riemann](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/riemann/32/3133_2.png) [@Riemann](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Riemann)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/995 "2024-02-20T16:14:00Z")
> [@ASL\_v2.0](#): > > Biting, but funny. The only drawback with the allusion is the warmth I feel toward Colin Robinson since he came out as a Swiftie. Completely out of left field, Season 5 episode 8 at 16’30" - “I would very much like to be excluded from this narrative”. Apropos of which, our Taylor has had plenty to say on point. > And women like hunting witches too > Doing your dirtiest work for you ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/996 "2024-02-20T16:14:41Z")
I don’t understand the hate either. I’m sad to think y’all think I’m such a pitiful old lady. I’m neither. I have health issues but I get by. I do live rurally, by choice. I’ve done many things to help in this small world I live in. Mainly raising productive, interesting and smart children. They have flaws but do not cause harm to others. I feel I have been an asset to my community and family. In many ways. I’ve done nothing but be nice to people and try and have fun here. I have an opinion, big deal. I think pornography is bad. I’m not the only person with this opinion. It’s historically terrible for women. You all know why. I don’t believe teachers should be posting it online. It’s not hard to understand why this _could_ be bad for children. I do not hate or want to shame any one. I don’t know this person. I dislike her decision making. It’s so very obvious it didn’t work out good for her. NOT because I somehow shamed her. Because she made bad choices. I’m sure she doesn’t care what I think or the REST of you, for that matter. Again, my opinion will not affect her in any way. Or the world at large. Don’t tell me it does. I don’t define, all by myself, what the world is. As much as I like to think I’m important that way, I’m really not. I am not a prude or religious or pious about sex. I know it well. People on this board do not need to know my personal intimate life. The name calling and disgusting things said to people are childish pitiful outbursts of their own short comings and discontent. It’s shameful. Self control is needed. I include myself. Folks laughing and prodding it on are just as guilty. We really know nothing of each others lives than what has been disclosed on this board. I’m sorry, but I don’t think I can remember all you guys personal problems. I try to respond with respect if you have an immediate remark. With kindness I hope. I chose to join this board. I actually paid for my membership.Twice. I told Tuba to take my extra payment apply to someone deserving. I’ve tried to learn the rules and board culture. I’ve tried to tell my silly stories, my daily trials. I’ve done nothing, I can determine that requires the vehement protests that was AGAINST the rules. If I have no mod has suggested I stop to more than a slight slip up now and then. I’ve then changed my behavior. And tried not to do it again. I don’t think I’ve hurt anyone, on purpose. I’ve made some friends and apparently some enemies. And @Cecil_Adams spoke to me, personally. So there! (That’s a silly remark) Again it saddens me to think you all think so little of me. (The Bear thing was meant to be a joke, I said it, I don’t know why. It was just a thing…again I feel like Lennon trying to explain the Beatles becoming more popular than Jesus… I said it, I’m sorry I said it, but there you go) ---
**Author:** ![MrDibble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mrdibble/32/114_2.png) [@MrDibble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrDibble)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/997 "2024-02-20T16:20:41Z")
> [@What\_Exit](#): > > But Attention Whoring in the Pit and empty posts in FQ moves her into the major annoyance category for me. [The Cafe, too](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/iconic-self-identifications/997446/4). ETA: I see we’re at the auto-Cross-nailing stage of the psychodrama. ---
**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/998 "2024-02-20T16:22:48Z")
At least #Cafe Society is pretty MPSIMSy in the end. I don’t mind that as much. But her off-topic joke was slightly annoying to me also and it show more of her attention whoring. ---
**Author:** ![MrDibble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mrdibble/32/114_2.png) [@MrDibble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrDibble)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 4:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/999 "2024-02-20T16:23:41Z")
> [@What\_Exit](#): > > At least #Cafe Society is pretty MPSIMSy in the end. You take that back! ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2024, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532/1000 "2024-02-20T16:24:25Z")
Why was that so bad, in the Cafe? It was a joke. My lord. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532.md?page=49) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-were-you-thinking/991532.md?page=51)