# What would be a cool way to ask a girl to prom? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 7, 2012, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007 "2012-03-07T03:46:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2012, 12:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/21 "2012-03-07T12:30:19Z")
Don’t know about asking, but if she accepts take her there in style (as much as you can afford). A horse drawn carriage or something. ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2012, 1:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/22 "2012-03-07T13:21:48Z")
Fortune cookie. ---
**Author:** ![nikonikosuru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/5f8ce5/32.png) [@nikonikosuru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nikonikosuru)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2012, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/24 "2012-03-07T20:18:42Z")
Dunno if you have hours or block scheduling at your school, but the guy who asked my sister knew her schedule already so at the beginning of every class he had the teacher present her with a rose from him with a word on paper attached. Rose 1: Will Rose 2: you Rose 3: go Rose 4: to Rose 5: prom Rose 6: with and at the end of that class (end of the day) he stood outside the classroom door with a big bouquet of roses with the final word “me?” attached. It was a pretty big hit. ---
**Author:** ![Barkis\_is\_Willin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a183cd/32.png) [@Barkis\_is\_Willin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Barkis_is_Willin)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2012, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/25 "2012-03-07T21:45:37Z")
I would hire a pilot who specializes in skywriting. Have him write “Surrender Dorothy…and go to prom with me.” This only works if her name is Dorothy. Also, do you have a friend named PSXer? ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2012, 10:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/26 "2012-03-07T22:16:12Z")
> [@SeaDragonTattoo](#): > > … I’m betting you’re on to bigger and better things far after that. Of course he is. He’s already hanging with the cool kids. 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2012, 10:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/27 "2012-03-07T22:40:29Z")
> [@nikonikosuru](#): > > Dunno if you have hours or block scheduling at your school, but the guy who asked my sister knew her schedule already so at the beginning of every class he had the teacher present her with a rose from him with a word on paper attached. > > Rose 1: Will > Rose 2: you > Rose 3: go > Rose 4: to > Rose 5: prom > Rose 6: with > > and at the end of that class (end of the day) he stood outside the classroom door with a big bouquet of roses with the final word “me?” attached. It was a pretty big hit. As a teacher, I’d refuse to get involved with something like that. ---
**Author:** ![appleciders](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85f322/32.png) [@appleciders](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/appleciders)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2012, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/28 "2012-03-08T03:50:33Z")
> [@Rhiannon8404](#): > > Well, if she’s your girlfriend, you don’t really have to ask, I mean, it’s generally assumed the two of you will go to the prom together. Ha. My junior year, I asked my girlfriend _if_ we were going to the prom. She answered, “Well, I am.” ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2012, 4:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/29 "2012-03-08T04:14:13Z")
I’ll go with, “Just ask her (privately)” as well. Any scheme you come up with is bound to look silly (the rose thing sounds stupid to me, too - sorry) and like you’re trying too hard. Good luck! Keep us updated! ---
**Author:** ![Drain\_Bead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e47774/32.png) [@Drain\_Bead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drain_Bead)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2012, 2:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/30 "2012-03-08T14:03:41Z")
“Who has two thumbs and is going to prom with you? THIS GUY.” ---
**Author:** ![StuffLikeThatThere](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bc8723/32.png) [@StuffLikeThatThere](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StuffLikeThatThere)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2012, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/31 "2012-03-08T14:38:03Z")
> [@nikonikosuru](#): > > Dunno if you have hours or block scheduling at your school, but the guy who asked my sister knew her schedule already so at the beginning of every class he had the teacher present her with a rose from him with a word on paper attached. > > Rose 1: Will > Rose 2: you > Rose 3: go > Rose 4: to > Rose 5: prom > Rose 6: with > > and at the end of that class (end of the day) he stood outside the classroom door with a big bouquet of roses with the final word “me?” attached. It was a pretty big hit. The guy I went to senior prom with did something very similar. It was cute, and I liked it, but you want to make sure the girl will think it’s fun and cute, not tragically embarrassing. As a reference point, he did not score, even though his “ask” was cute and sweet. I know. Harsh. ---
**Author:** ![Dendarii\_Dame](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bbce88/32.png) [@Dendarii\_Dame](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dendarii_Dame)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2012, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/32 "2012-03-08T14:45:55Z")
I read about a guy who wrote “Will you go to the prom with me?” on a car. His best friend, a girl, called him and shrieked, “Yes, of course!” His response? “That was _your_ car? I was asking Jennifer!” So, like almost everyone else, I recommend just asking her in person. ---
**Author:** ![nikonikosuru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/5f8ce5/32.png) [@nikonikosuru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nikonikosuru)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2012, 3:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/33 "2012-03-08T15:11:07Z")
> [@Scumpup](#): > > As a teacher, I’d refuse to get involved with something like that. Yeah, well, the teachers at that school are awesome like that. _shrug_ ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2012, 3:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/34 "2012-03-08T15:19:37Z")
> [@nikonikosuru](#): > > Yeah, well, the teachers at that school are awesome like that. _shrug_ If we narrowly define awesome to mean, in this context, “poor enough in judgement to involve themselves in a personal matter between two students that could easily have backfired resulting in both of the students feeling publicly humiliated and the instigator of the scheme feeling emotionally rejected.” Our students are at school to learn, we are there to teach them. We should be friendly to them, but not their friends. There is such a thing as professionalism and they did not display it. ---
**Author:** ![Cartooniverse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cartooniverse/32/3084_2.png) [@Cartooniverse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cartooniverse)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2012, 3:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/35 "2012-03-08T15:28:46Z")
> [@appleciders](#): > > Ha. My junior year, I asked my girlfriend _if_ we were going to the prom. She answered, “Well, I am.” Ouch, snap. ---
**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2012, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/36 "2012-03-08T15:50:57Z")
> [@Escantell](#): > > well, i’m kind of hoping to score afterwards, so i think i need them… Don’t bring this up while you’re asking. ---
**Author:** ![nikonikosuru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/5f8ce5/32.png) [@nikonikosuru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nikonikosuru)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2012, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/37 "2012-03-08T15:54:53Z")
> [@Scumpup](#): > > If we narrowly define awesome to mean, in this context, “poor enough in judgement to involve themselves in a personal matter between two students that could easily have backfired resulting in both of the students feeling publicly humiliated and the instigator of the scheme feeling emotionally rejected.” Our students are at school to learn, we are there to teach them. We should be friendly to them, but not their friends. There is such a thing as professionalism and they did not display it. Oh, get over it, killjoy. Everything worked out and they had a great time. I’m glad the teachers weren’t as pessimistic and distant as you were and apparently had good enough rapport with this young man. Some teachers like to do things like that, go a little bit further for their students rather than sit behid the desk like some automated, boring machine. The girl said yes, everyone got a positive experience, and many people got a story to share to others. The pure horror! I should call the board of administration to tell them the sheer unprofessionalism displayed by these childish teachers! :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2012, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/38 "2012-03-08T16:38:45Z")
> [@nikonikosuru](#): > > Oh, get over it, killjoy. Everything worked out and they had a great time. I’m glad the teachers weren’t as pessimistic and distant as you were and apparently had good enough rapport with this young man. Some teachers like to do things like that, go a little bit further for their students rather than sit behid the desk like some automated, boring machine. > The girl said yes, everyone got a positive experience, and many people got a story to share to others. The pure horror! I should call the board of administration to tell them the sheer unprofessionalism displayed by these childish teachers! :rolleyes: Unless I miss my guess, I’ve been a teacher longer than you’ve been alive, most likely. I’ve spent a lot of that time as a building union representative. Part of my duties in that context is to provide union representation in any situation where a teacher’s actions are questioned by administration or by parents. I’ve gone in to defend coworkers who did or said some entirely innocent thing that got misinterpreted and then blown out of proportion. If I’m pessimistic, it’s for good reason. Kids are kids. They are emotionally immature and they will not always react the way you think they should. One minute they will act like adults, the next minute you will swear they are still 11 years old. Especially in the last decade, we also have to deal with the helicopter parents who come storming in determined to get _somebody_ fired because their special little snowflake came home upset. They generally aren’t real interested in excuses from school personnel like “It sounded so cute and romantic!” Teens, their dating scene, and social interactions are a volatile environment. No teacher has any business becoming a part of it. ---
**Author:** ![cmyk](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmyk/32/3353_2.png) [@cmyk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmyk)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2012, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/39 "2012-03-08T16:59:57Z")
**u n me together for porn?** \< \> **uhh… o\_O** **PROM! dammit autocorrect!** \< ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2012, 5:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/40 "2012-03-08T17:42:16Z")
Last year there was a sign outside the local high school one morning that said: > [@](#): > > Kelly, Prom? > …Andy \*Names may or may not be the actual ones on the sign. Driving home I saw a girl with a spray paint can decorated with ribbons and stuff painting “Yes!” at the end of the sign. I’m guessing he presented her with the can at some point during the day - it was decorated enough to look like a bouquet. Sadly, while I found the whole scene utterly heartwarming, I also wondered how much trouble they might have gotten in if they’d been discovered at school with a can of spray paint. Seriously, if you have reason to expect that she wants to go with you, then a dramatic gesture will be a great story for life. If you are not currently dating this girl then I would strongly advise you to keep it quiet and personal. If she has a friend who knows her locker combo and would be willing to help, maybe just surprise her in the morning with a bouquet of flowers and a note? ---
**Author:** ![SecretaryofEvil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e95f7d/32.png) [@SecretaryofEvil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SecretaryofEvil)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2012, 4:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/41 "2012-03-09T16:23:12Z")
Ok so here’s some actual advice. 1. Ask her in private. She doesn’t need to be put on the spot in front of people and you really don’t need witnesses if she says no. 2. If you’re not already dating this girl, be cool and casual. Grand romantic gestures are for anniversaries, not girls you hardly know. 3. You can use a feeler question. Something like “You goin to the prom with anyone?” 4. If she says no, you say “We should go together.” I know this seems inconsequential, but use the word “should.” For some reason that works better than “Do you want.” Maybe it plants a positive impression in her head, maybe it makes you seem more confident, but it definitely increases your chances of success. 5. Don’t fear rejection. There are billions of other females out there if this one doesn’t work out. The worst thing this girl can do is not go to prom with you and not have sex with you. Which unless I’m missing something, she’s already not doing those things. How well do you know this girl? If you hardly know her at all you might want to ask her to hang out or something first before you ask her to prom. Prom is a big commitment for a getting to know you date. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007.md?page=3)