# What would be a cool way to ask a girl to prom? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 7, 2012, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007 "2012-03-07T03:46:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![SecretaryofEvil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e95f7d/32.png) [@SecretaryofEvil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SecretaryofEvil)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2012, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/42 "2012-03-09T16:25:29Z")
Oh and I can’t stress this enough, if you’re not already dating, do NOT go with the roses idea or presents or other grand romantic gestures. It will look desperate, and girls hate that. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2012, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/43 "2012-03-09T16:44:43Z")
> [@SecretaryofEvil](#): > > Ok so here’s some actual advice. > > 1. Ask her in private. She doesn’t need to be put on the spot in front of people and you really don’t need witnesses if she says no. > > 2. If you’re not already dating this girl, be cool and casual. Grand romantic gestures are for anniversaries, not girls you hardly know. > > 3. You can use a feeler question. Something like “You goin to the prom with anyone?” > > 4. If she says no, you say “We should go together.” I know this seems inconsequential, but use the word “should.” For some reason that works better than “Do you want.” Maybe it plants a positive impression in her head, maybe it makes you seem more confident, but it definitely increases your chances of success. > > 5. Don’t fear rejection. There are billions of other females out there if this one doesn’t work out. The worst thing this girl can do is not go to prom with you and not have sex with you. Which unless I’m missing something, she’s already not doing those things. > > How well do you know this girl? If you hardly know her at all you might want to ask her to hang out or something first before you ask her to prom. Prom is a big commitment for a getting to know you date. This is largely great advice, but I diagree with the “should” part. When guys did that with me it sounded smarmy at best, and always got a raised eyebrow and a “Oh we _should_ huh?” from me. This is not the time for sales tactics. Don’t be manipulative, just ask. And don’t be silly and just sit around thinking about it. Plenty of girls sit home on prom night wishing somebody had asked them. Often the prettiest girls, because none of the boys ahd the cohones to just ask them. ---
**Author:** ![SecretaryofEvil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e95f7d/32.png) [@SecretaryofEvil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SecretaryofEvil)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2012, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/44 "2012-03-09T17:27:24Z")
> [@TruCelt](#): > > This is largely great advice, but I diagree with the “should” part. When guys did that with me it sounded smarmy at best, and always got a raised eyebrow and a “Oh we _should_ huh?” from me. Which then gives me a chance to reply with a charming, witty and ever so slightly cocky response about how you definitely should. A lot of women, especially younger women, respond well to a bit of cockiness. I will warn the other guys out there that it is really easy to go overboard on this. You’re aiming for confident, self assured, and not afraid to show off your positive attributes, not boasting, jerkish buffoon. ---
**Author:** ![Lukeinva](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lukeinva/32/17872_2.png) [@Lukeinva](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lukeinva)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2012, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007/45 "2012-03-09T17:30:57Z")
> [@Escantell](#): > > okay… > > completely unrelated to this, what do you have to be to not be a guest? First you have to get rid of that _"One time I went to a fight and a hockey game broke out… "_ thing. It’s lame, and old as dirt. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-be-a-cool-way-to-ask-a-girl-to-prom/615007.md?page=2)