What would it take to turn you gay?

In My Humble Opinion
41

Well, nothing. Maybe an insane amount of money could convince me to perform homosexual acts, but I’d still not be gay; I’m not sure what you’d call it, other than a high-priced man-whore.

But the more interesting question is, I think, would someone repeat it? Let’s say my price were $1 million USD. I do the deed, and I have my money tax free. Would you do it again for another $1 million? Barring things like owing the IRS $10 million, I wouldn’t, and you if you did, I’d tend to think that you’ve started to like it. You know, not that there’s anything wrong with it.

42

Just couldn’t do it. Even if I were in a prison I would prefer to masturbate. I have a very vivid imagination and have never needed (or used or even wanted) porn.

On the other hand, I wonder whether there would be fewer sexual problems in prison if the inmates were allowed access to porn.

43

Same here. I can understand the attraction and there are men out there who tick every other box for me but there’s no interest at all below the waist. It’s just never happening.

Which has probably saved Neil Patrick Harris from having to take out a restraining order. I mean, the dude is awesome.

44

Hear hear.

I could post a really weird question for **Qadgop the Mercotan **regarding hand lotion as contraband, but the poor fella already has too many bizarre quandaries to consider.

45

What if you’ve always been a fly fishing enthusiast and discover late in life that you actually prefer to do it wearing assless chaps instead of those big rubber boots?

What the? What do you mean exactly by “fool around”?

A life sentence in the same jail cell as Daniel Craig *might *do it for me.

46

A sex change - turn me into a woman and I’ll be gay - cane ever see me being interested in a guy

47

Snerk.

48

It’d take some serious coercion. Men smell wrong.

49

Yeah, I’d have sex with a woman for a whole lot of money. A million could easily convince me to (gag) eat pussy. And yeah, I’d do it again for another mill, up to about 10. Then I’m set for life, and my husband and I can retire and just have the kind of sex we like all the time. However, I’m not thinking that would make me gay, just a prostitute. And if that bothered me, I’d go buy myself something nice to make me feel better.

50

The issue would not be turning gay…I have been attracted to specific women before. The issue would be attracting those specific women. I mean the last one I thought I might be interested in was 12 years younger than me! (which makes her 23, don’t panic.)

51

I’m essentially 99% heterosexual, and the older I get the more hetero I am (at 16 I was thinking of myself as being on the hetero side of bi) Never had an homosexual relationship or any gay sex.

Still there are those 1% left. So, an homosexual relationship is theoretically conceivable but very highly unlikely, if only because my standards would be absurdly high for this to happen.

Not only the guy would have to be completely out of my league physically (and according to my preferences, not any “really hot” guy would do), as in I see one guy I find attractive every other month in the street as opposed to a couple bazillions of women, but also, I’d need to be emotionally into him too (and him into me). And I can count on the fingers of two hands the number of guys I’ve actually known and felt something for. And none during the 10 last years.

Note that even in this highly unlikely situation, it probably wouldn’t be fulfilling for me, and if he were 100% gay, probably very frustrating for him, because I’m not that much into gay sex, and rather into romance when it comes to guys. So, ideally, he would feel like me, and we would chase women together.

And even then, I’d rather pick two women than 1 guy + 1 woman.

When I think of it, what it would take for me to “turn gay”, as you put it, would be to fall in (reciprocated) love with a guy, which according to my experience, is now extremely unlikely to happen.

Still, I’m wondering what would have happened, and where I would be nowadays on the straight----->gay axis if my first experiences had been with boys instead of girls, as it would have been the case if not for the interferences of other people (Yes, I’m looking in particular at you, trail riding supervisor :mad: ).

52

You cant leave a cryptic comment like that without sharing the story :). Paie ton histoire.

53

I’m just not wired to be gay. I don’t see it as a choice, but rather as a natural attraction.

54

Haha I agree.
Also, I have the same sort of question about myself. When I was young I was pretty attracted to both guys and gals… when I looked at porn I started out with mostly just nudes of women, and then some hardcore stuff… then gay porn, and lesbian porn, etc… This was when I was about 13-14… but by the time I hit high school I started to just be interested only in guys. I never had a crush on a real girl, never wanted to ask a girl out, etc.

But my first experience was with a boy and it continued for years… so I wonder, would I have been “straight” if I had been with a girl at first? Am I really bisexual but just never fostered my feelings for girls so they naturally died? Interesting questions indeed.

55

This is where I see I’m old. I had to use my comic book collection as porn material. There wasnt any net in my time kiddo. Wonder how jaded teenagers are with sex before actually “stepping in”…

You agree, but you still havent answered this:

56

I’m not really sure if I can go into details here without getting modded. The FAQ I read seemed to indicate that explicit sexual details are not allowed to be discussed… but he let me do certain things with him. He passively let it happen and never reciprocated in any way, and never asked or hinted that he wanted it. It was really just persistence on my part to have some fun and indifference on his to let it happen.

57

Since we had a recent and rather detailed thread about how not to gag when deepthroating, I’m not certain that the rules are that strict regarding sexual details.
From what you wrote I took it as meaning you blew him (I understood what you wrote as meaning no anal sex). Frankly, I can not understand how he can not be at least vaguely bi if you two used to do that even semi-regularly.

Have to say though that that kind of relationship seems to be far more common than most realize.

58

FYI, the FAQ also says you can describe it if you do it clinically. And if you are worried, you can always hit the report button and ask a mod.

59

Well it really just depends on your own personal definition. Obviously, by using the operational definition of sexuality, he WOULD be at least vaguely bi, in the sense that he would have to honestly answer that he had a sexual experience with someone of the same sex at some point in his life. Does he have bisexual desires though? As far as I know, no he does not. I knew him pretty well (we grew up together from young childhood), and I think I’d know if he was even a little bi. But we were emotionally very close and yeah, so that’s all there was to it. I’m pretty confident that his innate desires are about as heterosexual as they come, but that operationally he’s open to bisexuality. In other words, if you put this guy in prison for life, he might be the kind to make someone his bitch… who knows!

60

I’m ready to bet a good part of male (but probably also female) straight Dopers (and let’s get general, most of Earth pop. Can’t be more general than that) first sexual experiences were with people of the same sex (Im not talking penetration but pre teen or teen kissing or touching one another). To have your first experiences with a childhood friend (of the same sex) is also quite common.
That’s why I think most men can function on a bi mode even though they might think otherwise.

That said, to keep doing that when you’re in your twenties would prompt me to say, okay we’re past the the Age of Discovery (also known as the Age of Exploration),you have your worldmap, and it might be a good idea to know what’s your location.