# What would you do if your daughter did porn? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 30, 2013, 12:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132 "2013-11-30T12:50:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 7:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/21 "2013-11-30T19:38:21Z")
For those curious, but not willing to click on the link, it goes to a site that seems to specialize in women getting cum on their faces. Kind of an odd choice for the OP’s “worst case” scenario. From “facial abuse,” I was expecting some kind of S&M type thing. ---
**Author:** ![Qwertol](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/e274bd/32.png) [@Qwertol](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qwertol)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/22 "2013-11-30T20:12:12Z")
> [@Miller](#): > > For those curious, but not willing to click on the link, it goes to a site that seems to specialize in women getting cum on their faces. Kind of an odd choice for the OP’s “worst case” scenario. From “facial abuse,” I was expecting some kind of S&M type thing. No, it’s not just that. I don’t want to be a judge, let me just say there are people who consider this stuff to be crossing the line of legality or even calling it borderline rape. I may post link to short compilation if you really want. Well let me just say it includes degradation of woman both mental and physical, extreme oral and anal sex to the point where female performers are crying and shaking and it’s doubtful that’s it’s an act… ---
**Author:** ![PlainJain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/5daacb/32.png) [@PlainJain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PlainJain)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/23 "2013-11-30T20:32:47Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > How could there be a study to prove that? “Unhealthy” is a subjective value judgment. You claim definitively that “no one ever does porn for anything other than extremely unhealthy reasons”, but are now back-pedaling? Now it’s a “subjective value judgment”. So just to be sure I’m understanding, you don’t like it so _ **any** _ reason for doing porn is extremely unhealthy… that about right? ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 8:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/24 "2013-11-30T20:51:01Z")
> [@PlainJain](#): > > You claim definitively that “no one ever does porn for anything other than extremely unhealthy reasons”, but are now back-pedaling? Now it’s a “subjective value judgment”. > > So just to be sure I’m understanding, you don’t like it so _ **any** _ reason for doing porn is extremely unhealthy… that about right? Nope, not back-pedaling. I think it’s always an unhealthy thing to do, and I also know that’s not the kind of thing that can be proven. And it has nothing to do with whether or not I personally like porn. I don’t, it’s just not my thing, but if I did, it wouldn’t change my opinion. I like some things that I acknowledge are unhealthy. ---
**Author:** ![Revtim](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/revtim/32/1042_2.png) [@Revtim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Revtim)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/25 "2013-11-30T21:18:28Z")
> [@Miller](#): > > For those curious, but not willing to click on the link, it goes to a site that seems to specialize in women getting cum on their faces. Kind of an odd choice for the OP’s “worst case” scenario. From “facial abuse,” I was expecting some kind of S&M type thing. Yeah, especially since that’s kinda the “default ending” of most porn. As for a worse case, imagine your daughter being one the next two girls with a cup… I imagine worst case is a snuff video. ---
**Author:** ![PlainJain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/5daacb/32.png) [@PlainJain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PlainJain)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/26 "2013-11-30T21:22:31Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > Nope, not back-pedaling. I think it’s always an unhealthy thing to do, and I also know that’s not the kind of thing that can be proven. > > And it has nothing to do with whether or not I personally like porn. I don’t, it’s just not my thing, but if I did, it wouldn’t change my opinion. I like some things that I acknowledge are unhealthy. Except that you weren’t originally claiming that porn itself was unhealthy, you were claiming that any reason for getting into it was unhealthy. Extremely unhealthy. And you were presenting it as more or less a fact. Now you are massaging it into something that can’t be proven - in fact it is only your opinion. Yes, you are backpedaling. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/27 "2013-11-30T21:26:45Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > Nope, not back-pedaling. I think it’s always an unhealthy thing to do, and I also know that’s not the kind of thing that can be proven. I’m not sure why you think it can’t be proven. We proven that lots and lots of things are unhealthy. ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/28 "2013-11-30T21:52:16Z")
> [@PlainJain](#): > > Except that you weren’t originally claiming that porn itself was unhealthy, you were claiming that any reason for getting into it was unhealthy. Extremely unhealthy. And you were presenting it as more or less a fact. Now you are massaging it into something that can’t be proven - in fact it is only your opinion. > > Yes, you are backpedaling. Nope, still saying the same thing. Of course it’s my opinion, what else would it be? Then you said about me just not liking porn (I thought that’s what you were saying anyway) and that’s why I think it’s unhealthy, so I responded to that. > [@Miller](#): > > I’m not sure why you think it can’t be proven. We proven that lots and lots of things are unhealthy. How do you prove that something is emotionally unhealthy? There’s no agreed-upon standard of emotional health. Not even close. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/29 "2013-11-30T22:00:43Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > How do you prove that something is emotionally unhealthy? There’s no agreed-upon standard of emotional health. Not even close. [Really?](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DSM-5) ---
**Author:** ![InternetLegend](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/internetlegend/32/13154_2.png) [@InternetLegend](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/InternetLegend)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 10:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/30 "2013-11-30T22:18:11Z")
I have only daughters, but I believe I’d feel the same way about a son. I wouldn’t want a child of mine to be able to deaden his or her feelings enough to have sex with strangers for money. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/31 "2013-11-30T22:20:34Z")
> [@John\_Mace](#): > > Folks: What if it was your son instead of your daughter. Does that make a difference? No. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 10:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/32 "2013-11-30T22:25:55Z")
> [@Miller](#): > > [Really?](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DSM-5) Wtf? Yes, really. Not everyone agrees that the DSM-5 is the gold standard. It’s a big world out there. ---
**Author:** ![Cheshire\_Human](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Cheshire\_Human](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheshire_Human)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 10:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/33 "2013-11-30T22:50:32Z")
> [@Emtar\_KronJonDerSohn](#): > > This. > > And whatever lowlife scumbag felt the need to disrupt my blissful ignorance would get their ass kicked. Shooting the messenger wouldn’t solve anything but I might feel a little better and they would feel a lot worse, which seems like the equal and opposite reaction you’d expect in a fair world. Unfortunately for you, there’s no such thing as “a fair world”. ‘Fair’ is an abstract human-centric concept that we get from our evolution as social animals. Just like ‘Justice’ and a few others I could think of and name, but won’t bother. Nature doesn’t _care_ about our social-monkey abstract concepts. They only exist in our own minds. Because they aided our survival as a species in the environment we evolved to fit. And are the usual ‘excuse’ given for bar-fights, and the random murder, here and there. Which is why I won’t disrupt your “blissful ignorance”. Ever. I’m sure there are plenty of husbands who never mention to their father-in-law where the grand-kid _really_ came from, because they don’t want to be castrated and/or killed by a father in denial. I know _I_ avoided telling my fiancee’s father that we were fucking. Didn’t seem like a good ‘career move’… I kinda be willing to bet that _she_ didn’t tell him, either… ---
**Author:** ![UltraVires](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ecccb3/32.png) [@UltraVires](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UltraVires)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 10:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/34 "2013-11-30T22:59:46Z")
Drink heavily. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/35 "2013-11-30T23:06:19Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > Wtf? Yes, really. Not everyone agrees that the DSM-5 is the gold standard. It’s a big world out there. Who do you mean by “not everyone?” Are significant bodies of professional psychiatrists who fundamentally disagree with the DSM V? I’m not aware of any. There is certainly disagreement over certain \*parts \*of the DSM, particularly as relates to emergent issues in the field, but that’s a far cry from rejecting the DSM as a whole, and certainly does nothing to demonstrate your odd idea that it’s impossible to diagnosis emotional health. Is there, for example, significant disagreement over the diagnostic criteria for depression? Or by “not everyone,” did you mean it in the same way that “not everyone” agrees with vaccines? ---
**Author:** ![Cheshire\_Human](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Cheshire\_Human](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheshire_Human)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 11:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/36 "2013-11-30T23:08:50Z")
Oh, yeah, and I didn’t notice, until the edit window closed, but the post I was responding to _ **wasn’t even bloody equal** _. I’m safe from this one, but I’d be really pissed to be your daughter… Or your wife… Or your sister… Or the prostitute you picked up on the street… You should _really look_ at what the people you are ‘speaking for’ really think. You’ll probably be rather shocked. All the ‘girls’ _I_ know, from 5 to 75+ would’ve been pissed at that. So am I. ---
**Author:** ![Nzinga\_Seated](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5ac83/32.png) [@Nzinga\_Seated](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nzinga_Seated)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/37 "2013-11-30T23:21:23Z")
I know this is hard for some to grasp, but, there really exist people who intentions and motivations you do not know. People who for STRICTLY PHILOSOPHICAL reasons may choose a career in porn. Have you all ever watched any documentaries or those HBO specials where some women break down their reasons? They really do seem like well considered reasons! Some people don’t find sex dirty. Some people don’t find sex particularly _special._ Yes. That’s really true. Believe it or not. ---
**Author:** ![Cheshire\_Human](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Cheshire\_Human](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheshire_Human)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 11:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/38 "2013-11-30T23:26:13Z")
> [@jtgain](#): > > Drink heavily. Is there a smiley anywhere for for that? I looked up ‘kowtow’ but there isn’t one. Oh, wait, yes there is. [redacted. it’s not the pit. Nevermind]. I ain’t going to report that, but you probably should be spanked for it. I ain’t going to do it. Inshallah. ---
**Author:** ![TBG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c89c15/32.png) [@TBG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TBG)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 11:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/39 "2013-11-30T23:31:22Z")
> [@Nzinga\_Seated](#): > > Have you all ever watched any documentaries or those HBO specials where some women break down their reasons? They really do seem like well considered reasons! All the documentaries and HBO specials where some women break down their reasons that I’ve seen wind up with them giving a bunch of doubletalk about how much they like sex and everything, and it’s no big deal, then years later when they’re washed up and out of work it turns out they were in it for the typical daddy issues and/or drug addictions. ---
**Author:** ![amorali](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3e96dc/32.png) [@amorali](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amorali)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2013, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/40 "2013-11-30T23:35:26Z")
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