# What would you do if your daughter did porn? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 30, 2013, 12:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132 "2013-11-30T12:50:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/121 "2013-12-03T01:53:15Z")
> [@Evil\_Captor](#): > > BTW, wasn’t there a Doper porn star a few years ago? A low-level porn star, named Alexandria or something like that? Or maybe it was a poster on [Salon.com](http://Salon.com). There’s also a porn producer on the Board. I forget his name, but didn’t he do an “Ask the …” thread on the subject? ---
**Author:** ![LinusK](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@LinusK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LinusK)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 2:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/122 "2013-12-03T02:55:16Z")
> [@drewtwo99](#): > > I’m sorry but if you enjoy watching porn but you find it sleazy, terrible, and wouldn’t want anyone you care about being a part of it, then you’re kind of a hypocrit. Empathy/sympathy demands that you care about those folks even if you aren’t related to them by blood (and we are all related by blood if you go back far enough). > > Either you support porn, enjoy it, and support people’s right to engage in it (including your family), or you don’t. > > I’d be much more upset if my child became a tarot card reader, a televangelist, or a republican, and wonder where I went wrong. Not really. Empathy demands you care more about people you know, than about strangers. ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/123 "2013-12-03T03:07:44Z")
> [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > There’s also a porn producer on the Board. I forget his name, but didn’t he do an “Ask the …” thread on the subject? Actually, we had two of them: [Abby Winters](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=417727) until about 5 years ago, and [Mike South](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=661336) as of 2012. Both did “ask the…” threads. ---
**Author:** ![amorali](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3e96dc/32.png) [@amorali](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amorali)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/124 "2013-12-03T03:17:10Z")
> [@JRDelirious](#): > > Actually, we had two of them: [Abby Winters](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=417727) until about 5 years ago, and [Mike South](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=661336) as of 2012. Both did “ask the…” threads. And how did you know they weren’t trolls? ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/125 "2013-12-03T03:25:01Z")
> [@JRDelirious](#): > > Actually, we had two of them: [Abby Winters](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=417727) until about 5 years ago, and [Mike South](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=661336) as of 2012. Both did “ask the…” threads. > [@amorali](#): > > And how did you know they weren’t trolls? Mike south, he’s the one I was thinking of. I know he’s not a troll because I’ve looked at his website. Mike South really is his industry name. and he gave enough information that I believe it was not someone impersonating him. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 3:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/126 "2013-12-03T03:31:49Z")
There’s no way I could turn my back on my child. So I’d figure something out. I wouldn’t be happy about it, though. ---
**Author:** ![amorali](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3e96dc/32.png) [@amorali](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amorali)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/127 "2013-12-03T03:37:40Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > There’s no way I could turn my back on my child. So I’d figure something out. I wouldn’t be happy about it, though. Like I said, kidnapping is the only option. ---
**Author:** ![amorali](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3e96dc/32.png) [@amorali](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amorali)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 3:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/128 "2013-12-03T03:38:58Z")
> [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > Mike south, he’s the one I was thinking of. I know he’s not a troll because I’ve looked at his website. Mike South really is his industry name. and he gave enough information that I believe it was not someone impersonating him. I do wonder if any of the people have veto power. As in “he/she is nasty no way” ---
**Author:** ![Gleena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b3f665/32.png) [@Gleena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gleena)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 3:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/129 "2013-12-03T03:45:42Z")
> [@amorali](#): > > And how did you know they weren’t trolls? Because Abby was a longstanding member here, who we all got to know? Mike South not as along, but still. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/130 "2013-12-03T03:47:04Z")
> [@Gleena](#): > > Because Abby was a longstanding member here, who we all got to know? Mike South not as along, but still. I don’t remember Mike South, but Abby certainly checked out as credible. ---
**Author:** ![amorali](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3e96dc/32.png) [@amorali](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amorali)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/131 "2013-12-03T03:50:54Z")
> [@Gleena](#): > > Because Abby was a longstanding member here, who we all got to know? Mike South not as along, but still. I’m skeptical, or why would I be here? ---
**Author:** ![Aji\_de\_Gallina](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aji_de_gallina/32/260_2.png) [@Aji\_de\_Gallina](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aji_de_Gallina)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/132 "2013-12-03T03:59:58Z")
> [@Eonwe](#): > > Because . . . the best way you can think of to express your disapproval and disappointment is to sever the relationship? For such a scenario you’re 100% right. ---
**Author:** ![Gleena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b3f665/32.png) [@Gleena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gleena)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 4:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/133 "2013-12-03T04:06:25Z")
> [@amorali](#): > > I’m skeptical, or why would I be here? You asked. I answered. If you’re skeptical do a search on either name and judge for yourself. How do I know you’re not a troll? How do I know anyone else is not? By the words they post. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![amorali](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3e96dc/32.png) [@amorali](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amorali)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 4:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/134 "2013-12-03T04:13:23Z")
> [@Gleena](#): > > You asked. I answered. If you’re skeptical do a search on either name and judge for yourself. > > How do I know you’re not a troll? How do I know anyone else is not? By the words they post. :rolleyes: Well for one thing I’m not claiming to be a porn star. But point taken. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 6:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/135 "2013-12-03T06:15:06Z")
> [@amorali](#): > > Well for one thing I’m not claiming to be a porn star. But point taken. 🙂 So maybe you ARE really a porn star. ---
**Author:** ![Ranchoth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ranchoth/32/1066_2.png) [@Ranchoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ranchoth)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 8:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/136 "2013-12-03T08:24:47Z")
Well, I don’t have any children. But if I were in this scenario: •First, I’d be most concerned about their safety—I’m of the generation where protecting against HIV and other STDs was drilled into us almost as much as “always buckle your seatbelt.” No matter what they’re doing, I’d want them to do it _safely_. Disease, obviously, is the big worry, but also the worry about “falling into the wrong crowd”—drugs, sleazy people taking advantage of you, going mad with fame and power and burning out…y’know, typical showbiz worries. •Second, I’d be worried about the financial aspect—y’know, if they’re _only_ doing it because they’re _completely_ desperate for cash, or something, I’d at least _try_ to see if there’s anything I could do to help them financially, to avert doing something they really didn’t want to do. …or, on the other hand, if they were doing it, not because they had to, but because the money was _just insanely good_ (“Wait…you got paid _$50 grand_ to let someone lick your feet on IMAX for an hour? And you have _ten_ more movies scheduled for this year? Is…is this studio still hiring?”), I’d want to make sure they were being responsible with their earnings. But, I mean, that’s just common sense—especially if it’s in an industry where you might have a limited “shelf life,” and particularly if you didn’t want to do it for a career. Best to have some money in the bank and a marketable skill or degree or something to fall back on. Really, I’d just want them to be safe, prosperous, and fulfilled. Whatever that may be—tinker, tailor, soldier, porn-star. If they’re not hurting anybody, they’re getting enough food on their table, and they’re _happy_, that’s what I’d be concerned with. ---
**Author:** ![DragonAsh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/db5fbb/32.png) [@DragonAsh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DragonAsh)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/137 "2013-12-03T17:57:21Z")
> [@Evil\_Captor](#): > > Well what, pray tell, did you mean by your post, if not what I inferred? Bueller…? Bueller…? ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/138 "2013-12-03T18:07:19Z")
> [@Aji\_de\_Gallina](#): > > For such a scenario you’re 100% right. You know that this almost certain to be harder for you than for your kid, right? For most adult children, never being able to see your parents again is hard, but it’s also, eventually, expected - you’re meant to outlive them, after all. For most parents, never being able to see their children again is devastating. And, of course, the longer the estrangement last, the less your child is going to need you in their life, and the more you’re going to need them them in yours. ---
**Author:** ![Gleena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b3f665/32.png) [@Gleena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gleena)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2013, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/139 "2013-12-04T00:24:54Z")
> [@amorali](#): > > Well for one thing I’m not claiming to be a porn star. But point taken. 🙂 Neither of them were either. Abby runs a very lovely lesbian site, and Mike South (IIRC) is a producer. So in sum, you start JAQing about them being trolls without bothering to look, with a sidebar about throwing ‘nasty’ people off the board. Nice. ---
**Author:** ![amorali](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3e96dc/32.png) [@amorali](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amorali)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2013, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132/140 "2013-12-04T01:40:25Z")
> [@Gleena](#): > > Neither of them were either. Abby runs a very lovely lesbian site, and Mike South (IIRC) is a producer. > > So in sum, you start JAQing about them being trolls without bothering to look, with a sidebar about throwing ‘nasty’ people off the board. Nice. I don’t know what JAQ is. No no I meant I wanted to ask the porn star or producer what happens if the actors get there and one of them just can’t stand the other or thinks they are nasty. Can they have veto power and still stay in the movie? Sorry I didn’t it mean that way at all. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132.md?page=6) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-if-your-daughter-did-porn/675132.md?page=8)