# What would you do? (Teenage sex question) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 18, 2011, 1:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028 "2011-01-18T01:21:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/81 "2011-01-18T03:26:37Z")
> [@lindsaybluth](#): > > Am I the only irreligious person here praying to Og this kid isn’t going to be super fucked up and need decades of therapy after all this? > > Only one? She’s his guardian. Pretty much goes without saying even without this situation. ---
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/82 "2011-01-18T03:27:10Z")
How about at this point they just worry about being unincarcerated citizens, they can worry about being normal and adjusted once they are emancipated and able to leave her crazy ass. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/83 "2011-01-18T03:28:46Z")
> [@Kolga](#): > > Oh, bullshit. In order to know the laws of her state in this situation, we need to know the state in which she lives. It’s as simple as that. She can claim she lives in any state she wants. Unless you see a utility bill, you don’t “know” where she lives. I doubt she’s going to give up her location for you. But considering the states where it’s illegal are some of the more populous in the US, I see no reason to doubt her on this. ---
**Author:** ![Kolga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e56c9b/32.png) [@Kolga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kolga)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/84 "2011-01-18T03:30:35Z")
> [@needscoffee](#): > > She can claim she lives in any state she wants. Unless you see a utility bill, you don’t “know” where she lives. I doubt she’s going to give up her location for you. But considering the states where it’s illegal are some of the more populous in the US, I see no reason to doubt her on this. :smack: Really? After all those threads she’s participated in in which she clearly exhibits a mental illness, and a misunderstanding of basic human behavior, you’re just going to assume that she lives in one of the MINORITY states on your list? Again, I don’t know why you’re her knight in shining armor on this issue, but you’ve chosen the wrong windmill to tilt at, IMHO. ---
**Author:** ![ZPG\_Zealot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/e47c2d/32.png) [@ZPG\_Zealot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZPG_Zealot)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/85 "2011-01-18T03:31:20Z")
> [@Kolga](#): > > Or you could mind your own business, **ZPG** , and realize that teenagers fuck, and have fucked since the beginning of time, and the likelihood of any of your paranoid fantasies about rape accusations are significantly less likely to occur in real life than in your fevered brain. I guarantee that the number of teenagers being wrongfully prosecuted for sex is FAR less than the number of teenagers who are actually fucking. Your desire to throw this girl under the bus is abhorrent, but totally in keeping with your evil. > > Dude, seriously, I don’t know why you’ve appointed yourself as her legal protector, but regardless of where it is (and she only JUST NOW verified it’s in Illinois), her stories are not to be trusted. You’d know that if you paid attention to her posting history. Where in the hell, did you JUST NOW verified that I live in Illinois. I guess there must be some out of date information on my profile. I live in the the red state south. This isn’t about teenagers fucking. It’s about UNDERAGE teenagers fucking and that creates a lot of legal problems especially when the girl is WASP and the boy isn’t. And I have no desire to throw the girl under a bus, but if I have to do that to keep her family from throwing my nephew from throwing my nephew under said bus, hell yes I’ll do it. You know, I think you have a real problem with Roma (somebody con your granny out of her life savings?) if you jump on that as that as my obvious objection to underage (and illegal) teen sex. ---
**Author:** ![Smeghead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f1d935/32.png) [@Smeghead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smeghead)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/86 "2011-01-18T03:31:33Z")
> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > I’m paranoid Among many many other things. ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/87 "2011-01-18T03:34:24Z")
Explain why it’s so horrible the girl is not Roma. Don’t want to mix with sub-humans? ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/88 "2011-01-18T03:34:38Z")
> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > Where in the hell, did you JUST NOW verified that I live in Illinois. I guess there must be some out of date information on my profile. I live in the the red state south. This isn’t about teenagers fucking. It’s about UNDERAGE teenagers fucking and that creates a lot of legal problems especially when the girl is WASP and the boy isn’t. I had no idea that it was extra illegal to have sex with an underage WASP girl. ---
**Author:** ![Kolga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e56c9b/32.png) [@Kolga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kolga)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/89 "2011-01-18T03:34:39Z")
> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > Where in the hell, did you JUST NOW verified that I live in Illinois. I guess there must be some out of date information on my profile. I live in the the red state south. This isn’t about teenagers fucking. It’s about UNDERAGE teenagers fucking and that creates a lot of legal problems especially when the girl is WASP and the boy isn’t. And I have no desire to throw the girl under a bus, but if I have to do that to keep her family from throwing my nephew from throwing my nephew under said bus, hell yes I’ll do it. You know, I think you have a real problem with Roma (somebody con your granny out of her life savings?) if you jump on that as that as my obvious objection to underage (and illegal) teen sex. Sorry, for some reason I misread what you posted about your state. Of course, given that you’ve posted that you’re originally from Chicago, but but grew up in Yugoslavia except for that time that you were raised in the Old South, surely you can understand the confusion. It is about teenagers fucking. Believe me, nobody else gives a damn about it until you, with your craziness, starts to make it about something else. Nice accusation of racism there, but 1) I don’t believe you’re anything “exotic” like Roma for one goddamn minute and 2) I jump on your statements because you are a batshit lunatic. Who, if you truly have custody of children, are creating MORE batshit lunatics who are going to suffer throughout the rest of their lives because of your mental illness. And that offends me, as a human being and as a psychologist. ETA: Interesting that YOU are the one who equated your so-called heritage with “conning” people. ---
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/90 "2011-01-18T03:35:39Z")
> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > Where in the hell, did you JUST NOW verified that I live in Illinois. I guess there must be some out of date information on my profile. I live in the the red state south. This isn’t about teenagers fucking. It’s about UNDERAGE teenagers fucking and that creates a lot of legal problems especially when the girl is WASP and the boy isn’t. And I have no desire to throw the girl under a bus, but if I have to do that to keep her family from throwing my nephew from throwing my nephew under said bus, hell yes I’ll do it. You know, I think you have a real problem with Roma (somebody con your granny out of her life savings?) if you jump on that as that as my obvious objection to underage (and illegal) teen sex. I think you have a lot of latent racism. Clearly in your mind it isn’t about teenagers fucking, it’s about your nephew being victimized because of his ethnicity, and your willingness to strike first to prevent that from happening. Clearly you are also irrationally fixated on this, given the fact that you are willing to ruin a girl’s life preemptively without any valid proof that anyone but you is interested in pressing statutory rape charges but your own paranoia. ---
**Author:** ![ZPG\_Zealot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/e47c2d/32.png) [@ZPG\_Zealot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZPG_Zealot)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/91 "2011-01-18T03:37:12Z")
> [@Kolga](#): > > :smack: Really? After all those threads she’s participated in in which she clearly exhibits a mental illness, and a misunderstanding of basic human behavior, you’re just going to assume that she lives in one of the MINORITY states on your list? > > Again, I don’t know why you’re her knight in shining armor on this issue, but you’ve chosen the wrong windmill to tilt at, IMHO. The only obivious mental illness I see here, Kolga is your insane belief that just because you believe teenagers should have a legal right to have sex whenever they want to, an ADD will accept that as new law. Talk about living in your own little world. I have a teenage boy in my care. My first interest is making sure he doesn’t get tampled on by the legal system. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/92 "2011-01-18T03:37:52Z")
> [@Kolga](#): > > :smack: Really? After all those threads she’s participated in in which she clearly exhibits a mental illness, and a misunderstanding of basic human behavior, you’re just going to assume that she lives in one of the MINORITY states on your list? > > Again, I don’t know why you’re her knight in shining armor on this issue, but you’ve chosen the wrong windmill to tilt at, IMHO. You may as well question her on whether he’s really her nephew. She started the thread after she’d already ascertained (to her own satisfaction, at least) that she lives in a state where it’s illegal. Try California, NY, Texas, Louisiana, etc. If you’re accusing me of being her knight in shining armor because I don’t agree with you, you have a problem. ---
**Author:** ![Kolga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e56c9b/32.png) [@Kolga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kolga)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/93 "2011-01-18T03:39:05Z")
> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > My first interest is making sure he doesn’t get tampled on by the legal system. No, your FIRST interest is to not be mentally ill. Without a stable foundation, that child will not be able to function in society. And your conviction that the legal system is panting at your door, just slavering to get their hands on your precious nephew, is paranoia, not reality, which is a symptom of mental illness. Get help, before you fuck up somebody’s life other than your own. ---
**Author:** ![Kolga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e56c9b/32.png) [@Kolga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kolga)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/94 "2011-01-18T03:40:20Z")
> [@needscoffee](#): > > You may as well question her on whether he’s really her nephew. She started the thread after she’d already ascertained (to her own satisfaction, at least) that she lives in a state where it’s illegal. Try California, NY, Texas, Louisiana, etc. If you’re accusing me of being her knight in shining armor because I don’t agree with you, you have a problem. You can’t see the difference between someone who might possibly not understand the laws regarding sexual behavior in her state (a relatively decent guess, given her insanity regarding sex in general), and whether she knows if she has a nephew or not? Oh. Kay. ---
**Author:** ![ZPG\_Zealot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/e47c2d/32.png) [@ZPG\_Zealot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZPG_Zealot)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/95 "2011-01-18T03:40:43Z")
> [@runner pat](#): > > Explain why it’s so horrible the girl is not Roma. Don’t want to mix with sub-humans? That isn’t even an issue though some people seem to want to make out that it is. The girl is UNDERAGED is the problem. ---
**Author:** ![Kolga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e56c9b/32.png) [@Kolga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kolga)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/96 "2011-01-18T03:41:48Z")
> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > That isn’t even an issue though some people seem to want to make out that it is. The girl is UNDERAGED is the problem. SO IS YOUR NEPHEW, WHICH MAKES HIM A RAPIST. What’s the difference between your nephew and his consensual sexual partner, then? ---
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/97 "2011-01-18T03:42:05Z")
> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > The only obivious mental illness I see here, Kolga is your insane belief that just because you believe teenagers should have a legal right to have sex whenever they want to, an ADD will accept that as new law. Talk about living in your own little world. I have a teenage boy in my care. My first interest is making sure he doesn’t get tampled on by the legal system. This still all hinges on the idea that the girl will pursue rape charges. What do you have to substantiate that, and no, just because she can is not substantive to her motives. ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/98 "2011-01-18T03:46:11Z")
> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > That isn’t even an issue though some people seem to want to make out that it is. The girl is UNDERAGED is the problem. You made it the issue. ---
**Author:** ![ZPG\_Zealot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/e47c2d/32.png) [@ZPG\_Zealot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZPG_Zealot)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/99 "2011-01-18T03:49:32Z")
> [@ladyfoxfyre](#): > > I think you have a lot of latent racism. Clearly in your mind it isn’t about teenagers fucking, it’s about your nephew being victimized because of his ethnicity, and your willingness to strike first to prevent that from happening. Clearly you are also irrationally fixated on this, given the fact that you are willing to ruin a girl’s life preemptively without any valid proof that anyone but you is interested in pressing statutory rape charges but your own paranoia. Better that than my nephew find himself in situations like this. > **[Metroactive Features | Teen Sex and Statutory Rape](http://www.metroactive.com/papers/metro/12.18.97/cover/teensex-9751.html)** ---
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2011, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028/100 "2011-01-18T03:50:38Z")
Totally different situation. In that article, the individuals are 17 and 22, respectively. You have a situation with two 16 year olds. Try again. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-would-you-do-teenage-sex-question/568028.md?page=6)