# What's it take to make you lose it? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 13, 2002, 4:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434 "2002-12-13T04:36:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Spoc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecd19e/32.png) [@Spoc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spoc)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2002, 4:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/1 "2002-12-13T04:36:04Z")
To the typically non-violent, what pushes your quirky buttons and makes you fantasize about how good it would feel to just regress and break or throw something? For me, it’s days where my clutz and coordination quotient is skewed to mishaps at a rate much greater than chance. This is when I know that gnomes exist, and are following me around and stacking the deck against me that day, snickering deliciously. Purse strap caught on doorknobs, causing snap-back action (quite entertaining to others); inability to find keys attached to my cinder block keychain, in a bag the size of a legal envelope (ultimately results in contents being flung on floor; does make locating easier); chronic underestimation of the heighth of steps and positioning of doors… What PISSES YOU OFF?? :mad: ---
**Author:** ![LadyMack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/4491bb/32.png) [@LadyMack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LadyMack)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2002, 4:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/2 "2002-12-13T04:42:55Z")
Rude people in bad weather. Heh. It’s not my fault it’s snowing, believe me. Oh, yeah? The only way you’ll get this gallon of milk, is to pry it out of my cold, dead hands. …and don’t **even** think about driving like a lunatic in the parking lot, barely missing my kid. Other than that? Not much…😃 ---
**Author:** ![Tony\_Montana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/278dde/32.png) [@Tony\_Montana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tony_Montana)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2002, 6:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/3 "2002-12-13T06:02:06Z")
Today the boss asked me to re-do something that was fine in everyone’s opinion but his. OK fine, I started & worked hard at it for an hour ,then I broke this something I was re-doing(construction). long story short the boss sent someone to help me out, someone who wanted to do things differently than I had worked things out. I calmly said " OK I worked this out already,but if you want to try something different I’ll be over there drinking coffee,call me when you get it worked out" Turns out after he did some figuring we did it my way anyhow.MAN I lost it inside, but I kept my cool 'cause this co-worker and I get along really well and I didn’t want to argue over nothing and possibly cause i’ll will… ---
**Author:** ![Tony\_Montana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/278dde/32.png) [@Tony\_Montana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tony_Montana)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2002, 6:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/4 "2002-12-13T06:11:22Z")
oh then there’s the idiot drivers who put everyone else at risk. That sets me off _immediatly_ ---
**Author:** ![Spoc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecd19e/32.png) [@Spoc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spoc)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2002, 6:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/5 "2002-12-13T06:27:43Z")
I hear you about those drivers. To make it worse, how about the idiot drivers who can’t or won’t resist messing with the instigating idiot driver? I once partially cured a friend who was prone to such reactions, by pointing out to him that he is a bigger sucker to join in the game than to abstain, even if that makes him feel like he isn’t taking control of the situation. By joining in, he actually gives the other guy POWER - the power to decide that someone else’s blood pressure should go up, and/or that they may as well be in an accident that day! ---
**Author:** ![Flutterby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Flutterby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flutterby)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2002, 6:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/6 "2002-12-13T06:31:53Z")
Mainly a lot of prodding when I’m feeling down/having a bad day. People either constantly asking me If I’m okay (NO and if I _wanted_ to talk about it I would be telling my story right now) or just a lot of teasing. I can handle some teasing but too much of it and the same thing termed in different ways eventually it’s just like _why_ can’t you just **leave me alone**!!! Or just if someone does a lot of stuff to me that just adds up and becomes too much. I still wouldn’t mind seeing my first b/f beaten up, and I’m not the only one, because he basically used me and tossed me aside (which I got over) but then he was friends with my roomie so he came over one day and stole a bunch of stuff from me (70 bucks, a full pack of smokes ($10 right there!!), and a couple of my CD’s that he really liked) Leaving me at work the next day without a cigarette, no money for food and sick as a dog already from having caught the flu earlier that week… The others want to see him beat up not on my behalf but their own because he pulled the same sort of stunt with them after me, and they didn’t believe me when I said not to trust him! ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2002, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/7 "2002-12-13T16:00:48Z")
When people STAND IN A DOORWAY TO CHIT-CHAT. Ohmygod, I wanna just beat the shit outta them! And then they look at you like YOU’RE the asshole when you try to excuse your way through the clusterfuck. ---
**Author:** ![Tony\_Montana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/278dde/32.png) [@Tony\_Montana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tony_Montana)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2002, 4:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/8 "2002-12-13T16:04:45Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Spoc \* > \*\*I hear you about those drivers. To make it worse, how about the idiot drivers who can’t or won’t resist messing with the instigating idiot driver? > > I once partially cured a friend who was prone to such reactions, by pointing out to him that he is a bigger sucker to join in the game than to abstain, even if that makes him feel like he isn’t taking control of the situation. By joining in, he actually gives the other guy POWER - the power to decide that someone else’s blood pressure should go up, and/or that they may as well be in an accident that day! \*\* last summer I was working in small neighborhood, my job(carpenter) keeps me outside mostly. Also I have to fetch tools&materials from the truck for myself throughout the day. _Everyday_ I would see the _same people_ hauling-ass down this narrow street with houses on both sides,_with kids running around no less_ . Damn right I would say something. I would either yell " ---
**Author:** ![Stccrd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8797f3/32.png) [@Stccrd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stccrd)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2002, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/9 "2002-12-13T16:06:31Z")
I am an anti-smoker. Flame me all you want, but I cannot stand it when people stand outside of non-smoking buildings and smoke right in front of the entrances. Sure sometimes its cold it and they don’t want to be too far, or whatever reason someone could come up with. But I have to walk through the awful stench of it all, and it makes me angry. ---
**Author:** ![merge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9f8e36/32.png) [@merge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/merge)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2002, 4:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/10 "2002-12-13T16:07:03Z")
People who ask you a question, and then don’t listen to your answer… and then say… what? I hate repeating myself… of course, that just happened… ask me again in 5 minutes, my answer will be different. ---
**Author:** ![Tony\_Montana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/278dde/32.png) [@Tony\_Montana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tony_Montana)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2002, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/11 "2002-12-13T16:10:53Z")
oops I hit “reply” by accident , thats supposed to say “SLOW DOWN!!”. anyhow long story short I got some folks to slow down. BTW I saw 2 near accidents by these same idiots as a result of their excessive speed…so yes I’ll “join in the game” ---
**Author:** ![Coffeeguy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/958977/32.png) [@Coffeeguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coffeeguy)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2002, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/12 "2002-12-13T17:00:11Z")
1. Anyone in a minivan. 2. Anyone in a SUV. 3. People who honk their horns instead of getting out of their car and ringing the doorbell. 4. People using their car horn for anything other than the emergency warning device it was designed to be. ---
**Author:** ![YEP](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/43a26b/32.png) [@YEP](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YEP)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2002, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/13 "2002-12-13T17:43:20Z")
Ignorance… especially my own. People with “hurry up and wait” attitude. more, but I’m getting pissed. RRRRRRGHHH!!! ---
**Author:** ![Spoc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecd19e/32.png) [@Spoc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spoc)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2002, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/14 "2002-12-13T21:48:06Z")
- People who stick their umbrella/hand into elevator doors which are damn near closed all the way already, so they can get on. (Understandable in a massive highrise where you could wait five minutes for the next one I suppose.) But people should be able to tell telepathically when I’m late or not in the mood for it! Then, the ones who do the above and proceed to get off at the second floor (notwithstanding the handicapped). Somehow it strikes me as ‘coming late and leaving early.’ - Then, how about people who would rather stand behind you glaring when you have your back to them and are innocently blocking their way without knowing it (as in being at your gym locker, or looking at a product in the grocery store), rather than use that orifice on their face known as a mouth to say “exuse me, I need to get by you.” I believe they’d rather wait for you to realize on your own that they are there, so they can be vindicated by the startled look on your face and your rush of apologies over what a clod and idiot you are. ---
**Author:** ![seal\_cleaner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e274bd/32.png) [@seal\_cleaner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/seal_cleaner)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2002, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/15 "2002-12-13T22:04:50Z")
Coffeeguy sez \<\\> What’s the problem? I got one, only way to travel with kids. Plus opposite-gender temptation unlikely to be reciprocated. ---
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2002, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/16 "2002-12-13T22:46:14Z")
- People who walk _really_ slowly in front of my and sort of drift from side to side, making it impossible for me to get around them. - People who walk in front of me then all of the sudden **STOP!** in the middle of the sidewalk/walkway. \*People who stand in groups in the middle of a hallway, talking. Is it _that_ hard to move to the side? \*Rice Rockets \*People who bring toddlers and children under the age of oh, say 12 to movies like _The Ring_ and _Red Dragon_. Are you trying to traumatize your child. \*People who talk through movies. This includes video’s at home. No, I don’t want to be engaged in a conversation about the actresses dress \*while I’m trying to watch the movie \* \*Holier-than-thou anti-smoking fanatics. _Deep breath_ I need to calm the hell down… ---
**Author:** ![vivalostwages](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/d07c76/32.png) [@vivalostwages](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vivalostwages)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2002, 10:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/17 "2002-12-13T22:51:02Z")
People who create extra work for me with their incompetence. :mad: ---
**Author:** ![agentfroot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/779978/32.png) [@agentfroot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/agentfroot)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2002, 10:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/18 "2002-12-13T22:54:53Z")
how to piss me off: - try converting me to something or tell me i’m wrong - make assumptions about me because of my age, gender, religion, sexual preference, etc. - clog the shower drain - smoke within 20 feet of me - touch my neck (I get violent when this happens) - refuse to leave me alone - send me spam - scream for no reason - yell at me - be the 45th person in a row to ask “so, how is college?” (one of the reasons I hate being around my mom’s church friends) - etc. ---
**Author:** ![Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angel_of_the_lord/32/2949_2.png) [@Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angel_of_the_Lord)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2002, 11:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/19 "2002-12-13T23:23:51Z")
My Dad “highly suggesting” (It’s not quite telling me, but it’s persistant “you need rest…we’re getting up early tomorrow…get some sleep…don’t stay up too late…you’ll tire yourself out”) that I go to bed. I know how my body works, and I’m smart enough to know how much sleep I need, when I’m going to get up, etc. When one of my roommates decides to sing. She doesn’t have a half-bad voice, actually…but she’s a soprano. A very loud soprano. And she sings in Japanese, which I don’t understand. Fire alarms. ---
**Author:** ![Cyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e4f/32.png) [@Cyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyn)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2002, 12:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434/20 "2002-12-14T00:51:39Z")
When I’m overwhelmed with work and someone gives me a test question—why are you giving that med now when you have a phonecall and a doctor waiting? I choose to give the med and talking about it is putting me even farther behind. Wrong, the doctor should be your priority. I don’t yell or throw things, ever. I burst into tears. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-it-take-to-make-you-lose-it/142434.md?page=2)