Single mother of 3 college graduates here - (OK - almost college grad for the youngest)
This is what I know:
I was a statistical nightmare - I had my first at 18 - I smoked during all pregancies (HEH! I was young and it was Oklahoma + Why did we elect a president who would further our beliefs in rugged individualism and “boot-strap” success if we can’t screw up our children?)
Babies are slow to respond when their airways are blocked - nursing babies don’t mind (for wayyyy to long) if they aren’t breathing through their noses. Newborns (to 3 months) are pretty insensible to discomfort - cold temperatures, wet diapers, close covers = nor do they struggle much when their airways are restricted.
As far as I’m concerned, putting them on their back or putting them on their stomach has equal hazards. On their back, they can aspirate spit-up. On their stomach, they can be smothered in the bedding (regardless of its specs) because they can’t lift their head high enough to avoid smothering - nor do they respond strongly to having their air cut off. And don’t forget that you need bedding enough to keep the them warm.
One of the founding fathers of 20th cent. anthropology, Ashley Montaque, pointed out that human babies require “9 months in & 9 months out” to develop to the same degree that most mammals have attained at birth. Your baby has traversed more than half of the perilous journey. This is America, with a very high rate of infant survival - your precious will be counted among them.
You have no idea how fleeting this stage of life is, and how much you should be worrying about the next few phases . Ya’all survive.
PS - Remind me to tell you the story of how my youngest didn’t sleep through the night until he was 7 1/2 months old, and how when I woke up that morning (having slept through the night for the 1st time since he was born) I was convinced that he was dead, dead, dead - the only thing I had to do was confirm the fact by going into the nursery. A momentary lapse on his part - he didn’t sleep through the night again until he was almost 1!
I really, really know your concern. Security is not insured - this new person is so very, very vulnerable - but he’s not a statistic. Check on him frequently - trust that odds are wayyy in your favor, and prepare to wonder at your own inexperience some day.