# Whats the deal with girls? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 30, 2004, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-deal-with-girls/226771 "2004-01-30T16:26:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![vandal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/858c86/32.png) [@vandal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vandal)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 4:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-deal-with-girls/226771/41 "2004-01-31T04:28:48Z")
Face it. The women you are meeting are superficial bitches. You don’t need that kind of heartache in your life. Look elsewhere. ---
**Author:** ![Bites\_When\_Provoked](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bites_when_provoked/32/18073_2.png) [@Bites\_When\_Provoked](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bites_When_Provoked)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 2:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-deal-with-girls/226771/42 "2004-01-31T14:58:16Z")
> [@BioHazard](#): > > I used to play eq but I decided that sleep and work is more important… > > What server do you play on? Used to be Bertoxxulous, but I changed servers to Innoruuk in December after some friends moved there. So if you’re ever passing by Inny server, /wave hi to Khiadra. 😉 I don’t play as much as I used to, but I’m still on semi-regularly. I’m from South Australia though, which tends to mean my gaming hours are really inconvenient to most people. (And yes, I _am_ sad enough to have an EQ char and a message board ID that are identical!) ---
**Author:** ![odd-socks](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/c67d28/32.png) [@odd-socks](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/odd-socks)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-deal-with-girls/226771/43 "2004-01-31T19:36:04Z")
\*How important are these things to you? Type of job? Where we live? \* to me, they are not important at all. _Where_ you live - heh - it’s easier to communicate with people nowadays given our technological age, no? E-mail is instantaneous - can you imagine having to wait years to get a letter in days gone by?! Obviously it would be harder if something went from friendship to a relationship as people would be separated by continents and time zones - but hey, the world is getting smaller, and as we have seen on the boards here, it can be done. If someone thought he could attempt to impress me with how much they earned - even hinted at it - or said what type of car they drove, or what sort of abode they lived in - if in conversation these things were voiced as status symbols, then personally I would find that inordinately dull and would probably not want to take the time to get to know someone further. Some people are materialistic; others just are not. I think it’s ok to be proud of what you have worked for, I’m not saying it isn’t, but I guess it’s just…well, you must’ve come across the type of people I mean? You’ve met them for all of 3 minutes and they’ve told you how much they earn, what their bonus was blah blah blah. Zzzzz. I’m more interested in if they have a sense of humour, if they come across as being “genuine” - as opposed to your usual flavour of ratbastard; if they are intelligent etc. By their very nature, I think most geeks / nerds whatever you want to label them, tend to be cool to talk to, assuming of course they can break over the Great Wall of Shyness… and most geek men will assume they are the only ones who are stuck behind that wall, when in reality, some of the geekettes are just as bad, if not moreso. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![pravnik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/8edcca/32.png) [@pravnik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pravnik)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-deal-with-girls/226771/44 "2004-01-31T20:25:28Z")
You gotta jazz up your job description: “I’m a codeslinger, baby.” When I just moved back to the States from Europe and was staying with my folks until I moved to Houston for law school, I told a seemingly interested girl in a bar who asked what I did for a living “I’m unemployed and I live with my parents” (technically true at the time) just to see what she’d say. She just walked off. I don’t think she even excused herself. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![ParentalAdvisory](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/53a042/32.png) [@ParentalAdvisory](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ParentalAdvisory)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-deal-with-girls/226771/45 "2004-01-31T20:54:35Z")
**pravnik** You should’ve just said that you’re collecting $4,000 monthly from a disability lawsuit and that you’re being a nice guy by letting your parents live with you. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Starving\_Artist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/aeb1de/32.png) [@Starving\_Artist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Starving_Artist)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2004, 7:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-deal-with-girls/226771/46 "2004-02-01T07:11:13Z")
> [@pravnik](#): > > She just walked off. I don’t think she even excused herself. 😃 Maybe she thought you were being sarcastic and were blowing her off. Not too many people would state such a thing so bluntly if it were true. ---
**Author:** ![PucksRaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ecd19e/32.png) [@PucksRaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PucksRaven)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2004, 8:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-deal-with-girls/226771/47 "2004-02-01T08:21:23Z")
Has it occured to you that living in Ohio might be your problem? Not that I have anything against Ohio, mind you. My best friend and a cousin have lived there at various times. But I imagine computer programmers are not thick on the ground, therefore upping the geekiness quotient. I live in Silicon Valley. Guy tells me he’s a programmer I ask which company he works for and can he get me anything free 🙂 It’s like telling me he breathes air, not a shocker. BTW, count me in as a lover of geeks. Also includer dorks, dweebs, nerds and the occasional poindexter. Smart is sexy. ---
**Author:** ![BioHazard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3bc359/32.png) [@BioHazard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BioHazard)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2004, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-deal-with-girls/226771/48 "2004-02-05T20:01:28Z")
> [@whiterabbit](#): > > What I don’t get about those sorts of people, men and women, is why they haven’t realized that they’re not in high school anymore. They’re welcome to each other. I’d rather have a sweet geek in my life than an asshole who thinks he’s the pinnacle of manhood or something. > > I never, ever, EVER liked the popular people. I guess I still don’t. I just wanted them to leave me alone, and now they do. Oh well, their loss, right? It’s kinda funny, really, all the girls that used to rip on me the most back in HS are the only girls I can get now. ---
**Author:** ![BioHazard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3bc359/32.png) [@BioHazard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BioHazard)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2004, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-deal-with-girls/226771/49 "2004-02-05T20:16:03Z")
The thing is I can get girls(sex) anytime I want. But I cant get what I want. I want a girl to love me as much as I love them. To care about me as much as I care about them. I want my other half. ---
**Author:** ![Lucki\_Chaarms](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/9de0a6/32.png) [@Lucki\_Chaarms](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucki_Chaarms)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2004, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-deal-with-girls/226771/50 "2004-02-05T20:48:26Z")
Ah, the age-old problem of slightly unappealing geekdom. OK, I’ll let you in on a secret. There’s thing called indie music, right? It’s like, all these complete dorks who are just as socially insulated and obsessive as any Everquest geek, but here’s the secret - _we just insist that we’re superior to everyone else_, and after a while, we start buying in to it. It’s awesome! You go sit at your coffee shop (it’s yours, remember, and you’re free to collaborate with the others at your table in order to appraise anyone who’s not a regular), you read philosophy, literature, poetry, or any book with an impressive title. You talk about bands and books for like 9 hours a day, pausing occasionally to make fun of someone for wearing uncool shoes to your coffee house. It’s basically standard dorkdom with the bonus of an all-encompassing sense of smug superiority. Sure, you’ll still generally only get to date people from the same subculture, but now it’s because you’re better than all those other people. It’s fabulous for the self-esteem. If you require further lessons, I recommend reading [Cat and Girl](http://www.catandgirl.com) LC ---
**Author:** ![moi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@moi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moi)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2004, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-deal-with-girls/226771/51 "2004-02-06T16:16:00Z")
> [@FilmGeek](#): > > I also like barrel chests… _MROW!_ This, obviously, is something I like as well. **BioHazard:** Count me in among those not scared off by computer programmers, but I do have to admit your flirt to **Draelin** left a lot to be desired. I kinda zoned out when the whole thing started with a chat you’d have with a dentist, not an interested member of the opposite sex: > [@BioHazard](#): > > Hey Draelin, whassup? How you doin? I have all my teeth but 2 aren’t fully grown in yet (all 4 of my adult canines had an extra tooth come in behind them, all 4 fell out, 2 grew back in fine and the other 2 are about half grown back in) I’m almost 26 and I don’t know if I’m hot or not (and don’t really care) but one of my ex-gf’s is a proffessional model. > > In 10th grade I took the SAT and I don’t remember what score I got but I do remember that I missed 5 or so questions. In 8th grade I was tested as having a 165 IQ. Scared yet? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-deal-with-girls/226771.md?page=2)