# What's the "Dirtiest" thing a partner has ever you asked for? (NSFW and probably TMI as well!) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 3, 2010, 7:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497 "2010-01-03T07:38:32Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Martini\_Enfield](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/martini_enfield/32/11123_2.png) [@Martini\_Enfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Martini_Enfield)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 7:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/1 "2010-01-03T07:38:32Z")
Inspired by [this thread here on “what makes a girl dirty in a good way?”](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=546157). So, here’s the obvious companion thread in which people can share the best examples that they’ve been offered of the sort of thing being discussed in the other thread. And in that spirit, it’s only fair I go first by sharing mine: Many, many years ago (before my wife and I got together) I worked with a woman who was older (mid-30s) and not bad looking. Anyway, she was married but a flirt (harmless, friendly flirting). I won’t bore you all with the details but it turns out the flirting wasn’t as innocent as I thought and she asked me to join her husband and her in bed as he’d been offered a job overseas and there were some things they wanted to try before they left and they (rightly) figured I’d be open-minded enough to be up for it, without having to worry about things being awkward later. Strictly heterosexual but pretty interesting and a lot of fun, not to mention definitely dirty in a good way… toys and handcuffs were definitely involved and it only got more interesting from there. So, your turn: What’s the “dirtiest” (in a good way) thing that your partner (M or F) has asked for? ---
**Author:** ![Mosier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ea924/32.png) [@Mosier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mosier)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 7:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/2 "2010-01-03T07:49:04Z")
Be honest. You started this thread just to brag, didn’t you? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Martini\_Enfield](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/martini_enfield/32/11123_2.png) [@Martini\_Enfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Martini_Enfield)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 7:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/3 "2010-01-03T07:55:25Z")
Honestly, no. I know there are people on the boards who’ve done far more… interesting things in that department, far more frequently than I could ever hope to. I just didn’t want to be the guy who started an… “interesting” thread but didn’t contribute to it first, if that makes sense. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 8:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/4 "2010-01-03T08:34:59Z")
Heavens I would be bragging. Sadly I have nothing to contribute. Well , if you discount the goat, the feather boa and the female Siamese twins playing the trombones. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 8:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/5 "2010-01-03T08:51:40Z")
My partner and I don’t have to “ask for” anything; we just do it. We have a very well-equipped dungeon in the attic, and never get bored. ---
**Author:** ![MovieMogul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f08c70/32.png) [@MovieMogul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MovieMogul)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 10:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/6 "2010-01-03T10:41:40Z")
I guess anal and a facial, which is on the fringe for me but pretty run-of-the-mill in porn. ---
**Author:** ![EpicNonsense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c37758/32.png) [@EpicNonsense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EpicNonsense)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 11:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/7 "2010-01-03T11:18:01Z")
“It went in my eye.” Mission Accomplished ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 11:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/8 "2010-01-03T11:36:55Z")
Pretty sure we had this thread before (or maybe it was a slightly different subject and I posted the same story), but I knew a girl once who was a big bondage freak and wanted me to tie her up and throw her in a trunk like I was kidnapping her. I was afraid of what the neighbors would think and declined. ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 12:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/9 "2010-01-03T12:00:51Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > We have a …dungeon in the attic… Somehow that seems wrong, but mostly from an architectural viewpoint 🙂 Me, a partner once asked that I pee on him. ---
**Author:** ![Acid\_Lamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Acid\_Lamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acid_Lamp)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/10 "2010-01-03T14:36:40Z")
Threesomes, and once a foursome which was more complicated. ---
**Author:** ![Llama\_Llogophile](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/49beb7/32.png) [@Llama\_Llogophile](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Llama_Llogophile)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/11 "2010-01-03T16:00:42Z")
Definitely going to brag here. I’ve had a few delightfully dirty girlfriends. They were into all the usual kinks, a few rather unusual ones, and a couple I doubt I will have the opportunity to repeat. Two in particular come to mind. A girlfriend once picked up the phone during foreplay… and called her husband. She told him where she was and exactly what she was doing, then put him on the phone with me so I could vouch for her skillfulness and enthusiasm. I don’t know if this one is dirty exactly, but I was surprised that more than one asked for it: They wanted me to control their orgasms. This was part of a larger desire to be submissive, which I’ve found is fairly common. But there’s playful submissiveness, and then there are women who are serious about it. It takes a special something for a woman to accept and savor the fact that she might get to have only one orgasm for every ten of mine. Handing over that sort of control is a real gift. And when they got permission for that one orgasm after a week or so… :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/12 "2010-01-03T16:36:47Z")
> [@Maastricht](#): > > Somehow that seems wrong, but mostly from an architectural viewpoint 🙂 I know what you mean. :eek: I can virtually guarantee you that that will be the most disturbing thing that I read in this thread. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/13 "2010-01-03T17:57:52Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > We have a very well-equipped dungeon in the attic… I read that book when I was a kid: _Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle’s Torture Chamber_ ---
**Author:** ![Gorgon\_Heap](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f475e1/32.png) [@Gorgon\_Heap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gorgon_Heap)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/14 "2010-01-03T18:41:31Z")
My ex and I were asked to participate in a threesome with a friend once, but because there was fourth-person voyeuristic aspect it it got too weird. ---
**Author:** ![Stauderhorse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce7236/32.png) [@Stauderhorse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stauderhorse)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/15 "2010-01-03T20:15:55Z")
To let me “stick my hand down your pants and finger you”. I was a little reticent, considering I had had no sexual experience whatsoever; also, we were in a semi-public place (laying face down on the grass behind the campus library), and what if someone came over and saw us? :eek: But I relented, and the slight risk just added to the thrill of the act. ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 8:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/16 "2010-01-03T20:36:06Z")
> [@Cicero](#): > > Heavens I would be bragging. Sadly I have nothing to contribute. Well , if you discount the goat, the feather boa and the female Siamese twins playing the trombones. You had be right up until the musical instruments. PERVERT! 😃 ETA: Nothing naughtier than road head. ---
**Author:** ![DianaG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7ab992/32.png) [@DianaG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DianaG)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/17 "2010-01-03T20:45:52Z")
You know, I always thought road head comes with the standard package, but I guess I was wrong. There’s a guy I broke up with years ago who still gets a dreamy look when anyone says the word “Connecticut”. Kinda sad, really. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Voyager](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voyager/32/133_2.png) [@Voyager](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Voyager)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2010, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/18 "2010-01-04T01:46:39Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > I read that book when I was a kid: _Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle’s Torture Chamber_ I think that’s the funniest thing I’ve ever read in a NSFW thread. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2010, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/19 "2010-01-04T01:57:06Z")
> [@Maastricht](#): > > Somehow that seems wrong, but mostly from an architectural viewpoint 🙂 It’s an unfinished attic, roughly pyramidal in shape, with a very high center. Lots of big high beams to hang or suspend things from . . . like my partner, who is 6’10’. And the “unfinishedness” gives it a sufficiently creepy atmosphere. The basement, on the other hand, has low ceilings and no exposed beams. ---
**Author:** ![Honesty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/f04885/32.png) [@Honesty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honesty)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2010, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497/20 "2010-01-04T02:22:45Z")
> [@Mach Tuck](#): > > Definitely going to brag here. > > I’ve had a few delightfully dirty girlfriends. They were into all the usual kinks, a few rather unusual ones, and a couple I doubt I will have the opportunity to repeat. Two in particular come to mind. > > A girlfriend once picked up the phone during foreplay… and called her husband. She told him where she was and exactly what she was doing, then put him on the phone with me so I could vouch for her skillfulness and enthusiasm. > > I don’t know if this one is dirty exactly, but I was surprised that more than one asked for it: \*\*They wanted me to control their orgasms. \*\* > > This was part of a larger desire to be submissive, which I’ve found is fairly common. But there’s playful submissiveness, and then there are women who are serious about it. It takes a special something for a woman to accept and savor the fact that she might get to have only one orgasm for every ten of mine. Handing over that sort of control is a real gift. > > And when they got permission for that one orgasm after a week or so… :eek: (bolding mine) How do you control a woman’s orgasm? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-dirtiest-thing-a-partner-has-ever-you-asked-for-nsfw-and-probably-tmi-as-well/523497.md?page=2)