# What's the longest you've gone w/o sex? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 15, 2000, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255 "2000-03-15T03:24:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Akatsukami](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ea666f/32.png) [@Akatsukami](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Akatsukami)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2000, 12:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/21 "2000-03-15T12:37:00Z")
I don’t know…I’m still working on it. If it finishes before I do, I’ll let you know. * * * “I don’t just want you to feel envy. I want you to suffer, I want you to bleed, I want you to die a little bit each day. And I want you to thank me for it.” – What “Let’s just be friends” _really_ means ---
**Author:** ![ultress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/7c8e57/32.png) [@ultress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ultress)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2000, 12:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/22 "2000-03-15T12:43:00Z")
One year and counting…(does not include the years I was married) * * * _I’ve learned that if someone says something unkind about me, I must live so that no one will believe it._ ---
**Author:** ![EnigmaOne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d2c977/32.png) [@EnigmaOne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EnigmaOne)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2000, 12:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/23 "2000-03-15T12:50:00Z")
{{{(scarlets gonna get la-id, scarlets gonna get la-id)}}}—the Scarlet Pimpernel In my mind’s eye I see Steve Burns, dancing to a conga beat, singing that line. No more Blue’s Clues!!! Make the music inside my head stop!! \ Since I figure that the time before my “first time” doesn’t really count; I went 2 years, tops. Oh look! It’s S-t-e-v-e and Blue!!! * * * – **Kalél** _Common ¢ for all ages…_ “Well, there was that thing with the Cheese-Wiz…but I’m feeling **much** better now!” – John Astin, Night Court “If ignorance is bliss, you must be orgasmic.” ---
**Author:** ![Bluepony](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Bluepony](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bluepony)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2000, 1:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/24 "2000-03-15T13:36:00Z")
(sigh) August 1990- April 1991. The start of Operation Desert Shield to the end of Operation Desert Storm, and redeployment. In those old Vietnam War movies they always show the GIs having a great time in the Saigon bars. All we had were camel caravans and religiously repressed women wrapped in black. No contest. * * * _…send lawyers, guns, and money…_ ``` Warren Zevon ``` ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2000, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/25 "2000-03-15T15:46:00Z")
I remember asking what people thought ‘sex’ was along time back & no two people came up with the same answer. ---
**Author:** ![Brewpub\_Wench](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Brewpub\_Wench](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brewpub_Wench)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2000, 4:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/26 "2000-03-15T16:17:00Z")
The smart-ass answer is 19 (so I was a late bloomer). The answer you’re looking for is: I was intentionally (and _quite_ happily) celibate for three years. * * * Lacey _“Casey got hit with a bucket o’ \*\*\*\* and the baaannnnddd plaaayyed onnnnnnn…”_ ---
**Author:** ![dansir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b9e5f3/32.png) [@dansir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dansir)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2000, 4:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/27 "2000-03-15T16:23:00Z")
this is great to know I am not the only one who waited so long. 19 I was a virgin when I married 6 weeks after each child and other than that a couple of days. ---
**Author:** ![Kiki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dc4da7/32.png) [@Kiki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kiki)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2000, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/28 "2000-03-15T16:34:00Z")
I got married in Feb. 1997 and had sex w/him that night and not again until July 1998! That’s 17 months w/no sex, cuddling, nothin! I also didn’t have sex from 1-27-99 to 11-13-99. That wasn’t my choice though… that was doctors orders. I was pregnant w/my son until 9-1 and then had to wait 6 weeks before I could have sex. Ever since I got together w/my boyfriend I only go 1-2 days w/out (which still sucks because I’m horny all the time!) I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 17 years, 8 months and 18 days old. The whole experience sucked… it took about 5 minutes, hurt like a bitch, and I bled. Had a great time, thanks. :rolleyes: * * * That John Denver’s full of shit man! ---
**Author:** ![dragonfly98](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7bcc69/32.png) [@dragonfly98](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dragonfly98)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2000, 6:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/29 "2000-03-16T06:40:00Z")
15 years and counting without any, any, well you know… 🆒 * * * “What’s right is only half of what’s wrong and I want a short-haired girl who sometimes wears it twice as long.” George Harrison - _Old Brown Shoe_ ---
**Author:** ![neuro-trash\_grrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/3ab097/32.png) [@neuro-trash\_grrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/neuro-trash_grrrl)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2000, 6:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/30 "2000-03-16T06:48:00Z")
The longest time I have gone without sex was the 18 years between birth and my first time. Other than that, the longest drought I’ve had is the current one. One year and about five months. I’d love to give one of those “…twelve days, eight hours, thirty-seven minutes…” responses, but I can’t remember the exact date. If I’d known it was going to be the last time, I’d have kept better track. * * * Heck is where you go when you don’t believe in Gosh. ---
**Author:** ![Sealemon88](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c68b51/32.png) [@Sealemon88](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sealemon88)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2000, 7:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/31 "2000-03-15T19:25:00Z")
Not counting the time before I lost my virginity, I’d say…almost two years. The second longest? About a year. * * * You say “cheesy” like that’s a **BAD** thing. ---
**Author:** ![psycat90](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@psycat90](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/psycat90)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2000, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/32 "2000-03-15T20:11:00Z")
I’ve had at least 2 2 year dry spells, as well as a 1 year and at least a couple 6 months. I could probably look on a calendar of the last 3 years and point out every date that I have had sex. Honestly, the only down side of being single. I’m not even gonna touch the virginity thing. * * * Gabba Gabba, We accept you, we accept you, one of us. ---
**Author:** ![Minxsmom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d07c76/32.png) [@Minxsmom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Minxsmom)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2000, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/33 "2000-03-15T20:26:00Z")
Well, I was a virgin when I got married at 22. We had sex once every other month or so for a year, then I went 6 years without. Divorced him. My current SO is a horny lil bugger. So I think the longest I’ve gone without since my divorce is two weeks (that was only because I had pneumonia then he got a chest cold right after - hacking during sex is not really attractive). ---
**Author:** ![Catrandom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7bcc69/32.png) [@Catrandom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Catrandom)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2000, 10:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/34 "2000-03-15T22:19:00Z")
Sigh. I won last time, and I’d probably win again. Catrandom, who isn’t talking. ---
**Author:** ![Jeannie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e480ec/32.png) [@Jeannie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jeannie)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2000, 10:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/35 "2000-03-15T22:24:00Z")
Well, since we’re all sharing… 21 years and 361 days (upon which I lost my virginity). Since then, probably around a month or so when I was going through a depression. Since getting married, maybe, um…10 days or so. (Winter is a slow time for us). ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2000, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/36 "2000-03-16T01:25:00Z")
10 years and counting. Thank God for ‘self-love’. ---
**Author:** ![Omniscient](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omniscient/32/3290_2.png) [@Omniscient](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omniscient)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2000, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/37 "2000-03-16T01:36:00Z")
Been a pretty long dry spell currently, damn you for bringing it up. I’d say its been about 6 and a half months, this is the longest since virginity. ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Watson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Dr.Watson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Watson)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2000, 1:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/38 "2000-03-16T01:45:00Z")
Ye gads! Someone ought to package up this thread and mail it to the bone-headed journalists what keep goin’ on about our sex-obsessed culture . . . Dr. Watson “If sex is such a natural phenomenon how come there are so many books on how to?” – Bette Midler ---
**Author:** ![aha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/eada6e/32.png) [@aha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aha)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2000, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/39 "2000-03-16T02:23:00Z")
Oh geezz I have never seen so many sex deprived folks…what happened to the 60’s??? * * * Yours truly, aha ---
**Author:** ![SkeptiJess](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea666f/32.png) [@SkeptiJess](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SkeptiJess)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2000, 4:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/40 "2000-03-16T04:20:00Z")
20 and a half years from birth 'til the first time. Had a couple of 4 - 6 week dry spells during my first marriage. Since marrying my second husband 14 years ago the longest I’ve gone without is 7 1/2 months. That was while he was away for Desert Storm. There were also 3 other 6 month at-sea periods and numerous shorter ones. When he is in port the longest we’ve ever gone without it is 4 or 5 days. That’s only happened once or twice, when one of us was sick or something. We usually have sex every day, twice (or sometimes 3 times) on the weekends. Do I win? * * * ``` Jess ``` Remember the Straight Dope credo: It’s all about wiping out ignorance, not coddling the ignorant. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255.md?page=3)