# What's the longest you've gone w/o sex? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 15, 2000, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255 "2000-03-15T03:24:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Poto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ab992/32.png) [@Poto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poto)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2000, 12:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/61 "2000-03-23T00:38:00Z")
After the first time, there were two 1 year periods. Then I didn’t need to keep track, I got married. So, who knows, really. ---
**Author:** ![Poto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ab992/32.png) [@Poto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poto)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2000, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/62 "2000-03-23T03:57:00Z")
On that boring note, which is better: sex, or fresh corn. Garrison Keillor is starting to lean toward the latter. ---
**Author:** ![Kiki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dc4da7/32.png) [@Kiki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kiki)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2000, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/63 "2000-03-23T04:50:00Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally posted by OpalCat: > **Awww…you bled? poor thing. > Doesn’t everyone bleed? I bled for several days after I lost mine. It hurt like HELL.** I know a woman who didn’t bleed the first time. She said it didn’t hurt or anything! He must have been pretty small or something. I bled for about 2 days and it hurt to walk. It was like that the next 2-3 times I did it… not at all what I expected. * * * That John Denver’s full of shit man! ---
**Author:** ![Steve-o](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecc23a/32.png) [@Steve-o](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Steve-o)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2000, 4:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/64 "2000-03-23T04:57:00Z")
16 years from birth to loss of virginity. Since then, probably 6 months. Since I’ve been married (married 6 years), 2 months (not including after my wife gave birth). ---
**Author:** ![ChiefScott](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58f4c7/32.png) [@ChiefScott](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ChiefScott)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2000, 6:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/65 "2000-03-23T06:14:00Z")
Going on 1 month, 6 days, 8 1/2 hours. Cruises suck. A wise sage once said: > [@](#): > > Maybe there should be a post on what to do with the time you have since you’re NOT having sex? (My house is VERY clean, my car is VERY clean…) ## The country is VERY well defended. The Med is VERY well guarded… Voted **Best Sport** And narrowly averted the despised moniker **Smiley Master** Forward deployed until 18AUG00 ---
**Author:** ![Joe\_Cool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ecb155/32.png) [@Joe\_Cool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joe_Cool)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2000, 7:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/66 "2000-03-23T07:50:00Z")
Wow, I thought I was going to be in the running for longest involuntary active–well, I guess active is the totally wrong word…let’s say current–streak, but I guess not. I’m somewhere between 1 1/2 and 2 years. Being single is a downer, but at least I’m relatively stress-free. hahaha * * * ## Mere Life is not Victory. Mere Death is not Defeat. Joe Cool ---
**Author:** ![Byzantine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/dfb087/32.png) [@Byzantine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Byzantine)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2000, 8:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/67 "2000-03-23T08:13:00Z")
Honestly, I don’t think sex is that big of a deal. We seem to think that “getting” it or “having” it is so important but I really don’t think it is. I’d much rather have someone spend the evening talking to me, sharing with me, rather than that person spending the entire evening figuring out how they can “get into my pants”. Really, anyone can fuck, how many can really communicate? I’d gladly exchange my meaningless sex nights for a good, honest, “get to know about you” night, in a heart beat… as for the longest supposed “dry spell”? Three and a half years. I don’t regret a day of it. * * * Best! Byz Voted most sex obsessed. (Yeah, blow me smart ass!) ---
**Author:** ![rorschach](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/3d9bf3/32.png) [@rorschach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rorschach)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2000, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/68 "2000-04-21T13:58:00Z")
Two spells of 18 months in close succession and then nearly a year each between the next two times. Current spell is nearly 5 months and I’m going out with a girl I’m not that attracted to in order to avoid clinical depression. (She lives in Germany I live in Scotland, hence gap.) I don’t mean to be offensive but I could really have done with this libido suppressant medication when I was about 23 as I dropped out of university I was so depressed about my lack of love life. It has other unpleasant side effects I suppose. Oh by the way I didn’t lose it until I was 21 and I bled even though I’m male, although in fairness it was just abraded skin. Hurt like a bastard at the time though. A friend of mine is currently on 2 years nine months and is a really great guy. Don’t tell me theres a god. ---
**Author:** ![MissMonica7](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e36b37/32.png) [@MissMonica7](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MissMonica7)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2000, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/69 "2000-04-21T14:42:00Z")
right now its been 4 1/2 months, but i have been up to 8 months, since losing it. These 4 1/2 months SEEMS like years lately… oh and the bleeding and stuff the first time, I really don’t know too many that did bleed the first time. I know I didn’t, and had no trouble walking the next days. I’ts probably b/c I was a dancer, and was used to being all stretched out and stuff. * * * “I am so smart, I am so smart, s-m-r-t, i mean s-m-a-r-t” ---
**Author:** ![Eve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Eve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eve)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2000, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/70 "2000-04-21T14:46:00Z")
“I’m going out with a girl I’m not that attracted to in order to avoid clinical depression.” —Huh? How does going out with someone you’re not attracted to keep you from being depressed? How about the depression SHE’LL feel when she finds out you’re using her as a human Paxil? Kee-rist, man, get yourself a blow-up doll. ---
**Author:** ![Geobabe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/geobabe/32/3908_2.png) [@Geobabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geobabe)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2000, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/71 "2000-04-21T15:01:00Z")
Well, I don’t feel so bad about my just over 1 year dry spell now. Actually, when it comes down to it, I don’t really think of it as a dry spell, since if I just wanted to get laid, I could probably do that without too much trouble (it _is_ much easier for women, if they so choose). My last relationship ended about a year ago, and I’ve hardly dated, much less gotten anywhere close to sex with someone. It’s much easier to focus on my schoolwork without that complication in my life right now. * * * The difference between the right word and the almost right word is the difference between the lightning and the lightning bug. Mark Twain ---
**Author:** ![A\_girl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c68b51/32.png) [@A\_girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/A_girl)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2000, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/72 "2000-04-21T15:07:00Z")
Bad sex is worse than no sex at all. I haven’t been properly laid in about 3 years, due to bad marriage and now singleness. Not that I minded not getting it when I was married, see above. I avoided it, but I still wanted _something._ I tried to teach him and talk it over and stuff, but nothing really worked. He treated me like a piece of furniture. I’ve often wondered why there are no brothels for women, where there could be themed rooms and stuff…fantasies fulfilled kind of thing. A girl * * * A girl’s Body Part of the Week: [The Eyes Have It!](http://www.thecats.com/images/eyes.jpg) ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Cynical](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ee59a6/32.png) [@Mr.Cynical](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Cynical)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2000, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/73 "2000-04-21T15:08:00Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally posted by aha: > \*\* > I can sympathize to some degree opal, my blood pressure medicine has slowed me way down as well. > \*\* Could you hook me up with some of that stuff? I average 6 months between zesty sessions, and I don’t really like it. Right arm - Popeye. Left arm - Olive Oyl. ---
**Author:** ![Eve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Eve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eve)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2000, 3:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/74 "2000-04-21T15:12:00Z")
“Bad sex is worse than no sex at all.” No. No, it’s not. Ech. Take it from someone who’s had good sex, bad sex and no sex. Oh, and indifferent sex, too. Few things are worse than bad sex. Would you say eating a spoiled, wormy apple is better than no apple at all? At the moment, I am a happy spinster lady; and at my age, that will probably be a permanent condition. No big deal—I see more people in unhappy marriages and relationships. “I’ve had mine,” so I have no regrets. To once again quote Aunt Ida, “It’s better to be alone than to wish you were.” ---
**Author:** ![Eve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Eve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eve)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2000, 3:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/75 "2000-04-21T15:13:00Z")
Oops, now I see I completely misread your post—you are right, bad sex IS worse. For some reason, I thought it said “better.” Ha, we are as one! ---
**Author:** ![aha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/eada6e/32.png) [@aha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aha)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2000, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/76 "2000-04-21T15:25:00Z")
I think many of those people in the 60s and 70’s that partook of all the “free love” paid a price for it eventually. Either physically ( stds like herpes) or mentally, ( busted relationships and inability to sustain those relationships) or both. Geezzz I think I just hijacked my own thread…sorry. 😛 * * * One of the few to be personally welcomed to this board by Ed Zotti. Yours truly, aha ---
**Author:** ![h\_thur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/db5fbb/32.png) [@h\_thur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/h_thur)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2000, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/77 "2000-04-21T16:06:00Z")
I lost my virginity 2 months shy of my 21st birthday. It hurt, but I didn’t bleed. I was a bastard-virgin for about 6 months after that. (To make a long story short - he was a premature ejaculator, so I wasn’t exactly “broken” right away. He also lived 500 miles away and we saw each other once, maybe twice a year.) That relationship with the obligatory dry-spells lasted until I was properly fucked a month after my 23rd birthday. It was like a whole new world. I could hear the birds singing, everything was beautiful and shiny. And then I couldn’t get enough of the stuff. I will spare you the lurid details of the wonderful times I had from years 23 to 25. Then one of the men in my "him"em wanted to be my one and only. We tried it, he went away for awhile, we tried it again. We had great sex 3+ times a day. He wanted to marry me. I got pregnant. He let his aggressive nature slip. We went to counseling. He got worse. I left him, when I was 5 months pregnant, last July. I had my 27th birthday and celebrated my 8th month anniversary of celibacy all on April 10. ---
**Author:** ![dragonlady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/5f8ce5/32.png) [@dragonlady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dragonlady)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2000, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/78 "2000-04-21T18:58:00Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally posted by Eve: “I’ve had mine,” so I have no regrets. To once again quote Aunt Ida, “It’s better to be alone than to wish you were.”\*\* ## Eve, you are ever so right!! I was widowed five years ago, ending the last of multiple marriages. I happily (at this point)single. And I didn’t bleed or have any trouble the first time…must have been made for it!!! Always remember that you are unique, just like everybody else. MIPSIMS : where we put the fun back in dysfunctional. ---
**Author:** ![obfusciatrist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/4af34b/32.png) [@obfusciatrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/obfusciatrist)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2000, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/79 "2000-04-21T18:58:00Z")
Lost my viriginity sometime in my 14th year. Spent the rest of of that year making sure I would never be found again. When on a three year dry spell after that, dated and got married too young to a woman who felt sex was completely optional. Dry spells during the dating/marriage probably average 3 months, and when we did have sex she was usually done before I was. By the time we divorce I had pretty much lost interest in sex and went two years or so until I met my current SO and was reminded just how good sex could be. Since then I have had it as often as I wanted it (surprisingly this isn’t nearly as often as I would have thought when I was 15, and it isn’t nearly often enough for my SO). Is it a breach of protocol to get overly personal before your 20th post? * * * -Obfus ---
**Author:** ![Munch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/munch/32/5281_2.png) [@Munch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Munch)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2000, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255/80 "2000-04-21T19:13:00Z")
Oh man, I have to share this with the group: [Priorities](http://www.nd.edu/~tleo/question.htm) Really makes you reconsider, eh? Connor * * * Sala, can’t you count?!? I said NO camels! That’s FIVE camels! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-the-longest-youve-gone-w-o-sex/16255.md?page=5)