# What's up with black people, dating, and marriage in adulthood? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [October 9, 2007, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126 "2007-10-09T18:37:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![lobstermobster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobstermobster/32/10033_2.png) [@lobstermobster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lobstermobster)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/61 "2007-10-09T20:12:30Z")
[QUOTE=OneCentStamp] I completely agree with your co-worker’s assessment of dating life. I am in my mid-thirties as well, and I find that the available women tend to fall into many of the same categories. All in all, I find that my dating experiences mirror his very closely. I am roughly as black as Robert Downey Jr. [/QUOTE] I think we’re all just terrified you’re going to knock us up with your superseed ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/62 "2007-10-09T20:13:52Z")
[QUOTE=John Mace] Exactly. I’ve dated a few wonderful Black girls, [/QUOTE] Great. Rub it in. I’m working on someone, but she’s flaking on me. Maybe she doesn’t have the organizational skills to return e-mails. Or maybe she’s just not that into me. ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 8:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/63 "2007-10-09T20:14:34Z")
[QUOTE=lobstermobster] I think we’re all just terrified you’re going to knock us up with your superseed [/QUOTE] Just keep your legs crossed, honey. I gots me some range as well as accuracy. Just sayin’. ---
**Author:** ![Grey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b782af/32.png) [@Grey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grey)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/64 "2007-10-09T20:15:02Z")
[QUOTE=Frank] Come now. Pierre Trudeau. [/QUOTE] Mulroney. Canadians blame things on Mulroney ya big newbie! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![shamrock227](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@shamrock227](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shamrock227)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/65 "2007-10-09T20:16:57Z")
_sigh_ **VCO3** , you’ve already answered your own question. See, it’s like this. When white people get to be in their mid to late 30s and feel too old for the club/bar scene they meet in coffee shops. Well, we know from an earlier thread that black people don’t like coffee. So there’s the problem right there. ---
**Author:** ![you\_with\_the\_face](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/ecccb3/32.png) [@you\_with\_the\_face](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/you_with_the_face)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/66 "2007-10-09T20:21:14Z")
[QUOTE=John Mace] Exactly. I’ve dated a few wonderful Black girls, and I’m a White guy. [/QUOTE] **JM** has split some black oak and I’m just now finding out about it? Wonders never cease… Maybe **VCO3** should do the same so he can quit obsessing about it. ---
**Author:** ![SkipMagic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skipmagic/32/20706_2.png) [@SkipMagic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SkipMagic)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 8:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/67 "2007-10-09T20:36:34Z")
[QUOTE=you with the face] Maybe **VCO3** should do the same so he can quit obsessing about it. [/QUOTE] **What’s up with black women pointing and laughing at me when I ask them out?** ---
**Author:** ![Kid\_A\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Kid\_A\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kid_A_1)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 8:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/68 "2007-10-09T20:36:54Z")
[QUOTE=shamrock227] _sigh_ **VCO3** , you’ve already answered your own question. See, it’s like this. When white people get to be in their mid to late 30s and feel too old for the club/bar scene they meet in coffee shops. Well, we know from an earlier thread that black people don’t like coffee. So there’s the problem right there. [/QUOTE] Or camping. A large group of single men and women in the forest together. Something is bound to shake out from that. It is awfully cold at night in the forest. ---
**Author:** ![Cervaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cervaise/32/16693_2.png) [@Cervaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cervaise)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/69 "2007-10-09T20:39:48Z")
[QUOTE=SkipMagic] **What’s up with black women pointing and laughing at me when I ask them out?** [/QUOTE] Not enough bling. ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 8:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/70 "2007-10-09T20:40:11Z")
If black people are loud in the forest and nobody hears them, do they tip badly? ---
**Author:** ![lobstermobster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobstermobster/32/10033_2.png) [@lobstermobster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lobstermobster)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/71 "2007-10-09T20:50:12Z")
[QUOTE=OneCentStamp] If black people are loud in the forest and nobody hears them, do they tip badly? [/QUOTE] oh my god that made me spit out the soda in my mouth laughing like in the movies! ---
**Author:** ![you\_with\_the\_face](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/ecccb3/32.png) [@you\_with\_the\_face](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/you_with_the_face)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/72 "2007-10-09T20:50:34Z")
[QUOTE=OneCentStamp] If black people are loud in the forest and nobody hears them, do they tip badly? [/QUOTE] …for their non-coffee beverages? ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 8:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/73 "2007-10-09T20:51:54Z")
[QUOTE=lobstermobster] oh my god that made me spit out the soda in my mouth laughing like in the movies! [/QUOTE] Remind me not to sit in front of you in the theater. ---
**Author:** ![Omega\_Glory](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/7c8e57/32.png) [@Omega\_Glory](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omega_Glory)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/74 "2007-10-09T20:59:20Z")
[QUOTE=you with the face] **JM** has split some black oak and I’m just now finding out about it? Wonders never cease… Maybe **VCO3** should do the same so he can quit obsessing about it. [/QUOTE] So you’re saying you want him to start a series of threads on why black women do/don’t do \_\_\_\_\_\_ in bed? ---
**Author:** ![SiXSwordS](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/49beb7/32.png) [@SiXSwordS](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SiXSwordS)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/75 "2007-10-09T21:00:01Z")
I can almost hear this co-worker now. Where d’black women at? Aw, lordy, lordy I’z despit’ ---
**Author:** ![Duke\_of\_Rat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ad7895/32.png) [@Duke\_of\_Rat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duke_of_Rat)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/76 "2007-10-09T21:01:19Z")
[QUOTE=lobstermobster] I’m with **Marshmallow** can we PLEASE do a “black people don’t tip” thread!?! [/QUOTE] It’s been done. Not sure how to search for it since “tip” is too short for the search filters, but it’s been done, pretty sure of it. ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/77 "2007-10-09T21:09:05Z")
[QUOTE=Duke of Rat] It’s been done. Not sure how to search for it since “tip” is too short for the search filters, but it’s been done, pretty sure of it. [/QUOTE] Even so, typical **VCO3** thread + typical war over tipping = wow. ---
**Author:** ![Cerowyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/82dd89/32.png) [@Cerowyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cerowyn)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 9:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/78 "2007-10-09T21:15:10Z")
[QUOTE=DudleyGarrett] [Typical Doper]You’re a hateful racist, VCO3. You’ll get your comeuppance one day, and you’re everything that is wrong with America!!! DIE NAZI SCUM!!![/Typical Doper] [/QUOTE] Please, find another trick. The pony must be getting tired of that one by now. ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/79 "2007-10-09T21:19:56Z")
[QUOTE=Marley23] Even so, typical **VCO3** thread + typical war over tipping = wow. [/QUOTE] The term “critical mass” comes to mind. **insert mushroom cloud smiley here** ---
**Author:** ![Slithy\_Tove](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slithy_tove/32/18248_2.png) [@Slithy\_Tove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slithy_Tove)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2007, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126/80 "2007-10-09T21:25:24Z")
[QUOTE=OneCentStamp] **insert mushroom cloud smiley here** [/QUOTE] Rats, no smiley! How about a lolcat? _“I M b-come deth, d-stroyn’ UR wrld”_ [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-up-with-black-people-dating-and-marriage-in-adulthood/422126.md?page=5)