# What's your definition of a blow-job? (Clinical, but NSFW) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 15, 2012, 8:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071 "2012-11-15T08:57:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Cinnamon\_Imp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58956e/32.png) [@Cinnamon\_Imp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cinnamon_Imp)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 8:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/1 "2012-11-15T08:57:30Z")
Without going into the background, I recently had a conversation which revealed I had a very different definition of a blow-job from my “friend”. I’d argue that any oral stimulation of the penis counted, as long as it lasted more than a few seconds, but his definition required seeing it through to orgasm. So, which do you agree with? Any oral contact is oral sex, or is completion required? Do try and keep it clinical please 😉 ---
**Author:** ![TheChileanBlob](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thechileanblob/32/435_2.png) [@TheChileanBlob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheChileanBlob)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 9:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/2 "2012-11-15T09:22:51Z")
Well, any oral contact counts as oral sex, but for it to be considered an actual _blow job_ I think it would have to go on for some duration; until orgasm or at least finishing manually. How’s that for clinical? ---
**Author:** ![Munch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/munch/32/5281_2.png) [@Munch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Munch)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 11:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/3 "2012-11-15T11:58:45Z")
If you’re not willing to work at it, then don’t call it a _job_. ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 12:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/4 "2012-11-15T12:01:05Z")
A pity that answers don’t specify if the answer is given by the blower or the blowee. ---
**Author:** ![CookingWithGas](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cookingwithgas/32/485_2.png) [@CookingWithGas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CookingWithGas)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 1:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/5 "2012-11-15T13:37:03Z")
If it doesn’t end in orgasm then it’s just teasing. Blowee. ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 1:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/6 "2012-11-15T13:45:15Z")
I am 64 years old and have been with a lot of women. Most of the time I would say a good blow job is foreplay leading to sex. I may very well go back for some more oral when it is time to finish but I view blow jobs primarily as foreplay. Exception would be if I was paying for one, then it would have to be to completion. ---
**Author:** ![Kamino\_Neko](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kamino_neko/32/34_2.png) [@Kamino\_Neko](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kamino_Neko)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 1:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/7 "2012-11-15T13:49:44Z")
I don’t think it needs to end with the person attached to the penis coming. If the person attached to the mouth blows their partner, then finishes them with their hands, or breasts (if applicable), or lets them fuck whichever orifice the two feel like getting involved, or if the owner of the penis ends up not coming at all for whatever reason…that’s still a blowjob. However, a bj isn’t _any_ oral stimulation of the penis. If the owner of the involved penis was the one actively doing things, then they have facefucked their partner, not received a blowjob. For it to be a bj, the person with the mouth needs to be the active partner. ---
**Author:** ![kanicbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/5f8ce5/32.png) [@kanicbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kanicbird)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 1:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/8 "2012-11-15T13:56:40Z")
Blow Job to me would include the ‘blowing’ in other words the male ejaculating but also including failed attempts at it and needing to switch to a different form or stopping. the intent of a blow job is to have the man ejaculate via oral. Other then that it would be oral foreplay but no I would not consider that a blowjob. YMMV Peace ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 2:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/9 "2012-11-15T14:07:08Z")
> [@Kamino\_Neko](#): > > However, a bj isn’t _any_ oral stimulation of the penis. If the owner of the involved penis was the one actively doing things, then they have facefucked their partner, not received a blowjob. For it to be a bj, the person with the mouth needs to be the active partner. I’d agree with this. However, I still feel that a blowjob involves her performing oral on me, and me climaxing in her mouth as a result of the oral\*. Whether or not she used her hands during the act is irrelevant. If it was a prelude to intercourse or some other type of release, it is “she blew me for a while, and then…” \*Like this morning, for instance. ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 2:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/10 "2012-11-15T14:10:46Z")
Wiki (which I won’t link to as there are a couple of explicit illustrations), has this definition of fellatio: > [@](#): > > Fellatio (also known as fellation,[1] and colloquially blow job, BJ, giving head or sucking off[2]) is an act of oral stimulation of the penis by a sexual partner or by oneself (autofellatio). It involves the stimulation of the penis by the use of the mouth, lips, tongue or throat. ---
**Author:** ![the\_apples\_fell](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecb155/32.png) [@the\_apples\_fell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/the_apples_fell)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 2:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/11 "2012-11-15T14:14:58Z")
Oral stimulation of the penis that actually leads to ejaculation. ---
**Author:** ![Cinnamon\_Imp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58956e/32.png) [@Cinnamon\_Imp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cinnamon_Imp)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 2:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/12 "2012-11-15T14:17:24Z")
> [@corkboard](#): > > \*Like this morning, for instance. Reported for stealth bragging 😉 ---
**Author:** ![hogarth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hogarth/32/1773_2.png) [@hogarth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hogarth)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 3:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/13 "2012-11-15T15:05:19Z")
Ten seconds of licking does not make a blow job. But it doesn’t have to end in orgasm. ---
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/14 "2012-11-15T15:07:43Z")
Oral stimulation. Oral stimulation that doesn’t lead to orgasm is still a bj, it’s just a bad bj. (Unless as some have said, it’s a precursor to other romantic activities.) ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 3:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/15 "2012-11-15T15:58:38Z")
> [@Cinnamon\_Imp](#): > > Reported for stealth bragging > > 😉 Damn right! ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/16 "2012-11-15T16:03:41Z")
This just blows me away. The word “job” implies a work that is complete from start to finish. There needs to be a pay-off for it to be an honest-to-god blow-job. ---
**Author:** ![Scougs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scougs/32/3158_2.png) [@Scougs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scougs)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/17 "2012-11-15T19:40:32Z")
> [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > This just blows me away. > > The word “job” implies a work that is complete from start to finish. There needs to be a pay-off for it to be an honest-to-god blow-job. I am in complete agreement. A blow-job has a beginning, a middle and an end. It is a discrete, finite thing. It is a one-sided thing; for his pleasure.\* Oral stimulation, fellatio, whatever, can be parts of foreplay and general sexy funtime, but a blow-job is a blow-job. Same goes for a hand-job. \*I do, of course, enjoy giving a good old blow-job, but the pleasure mostly comes from knowing the pleasure I’m giving. Can I also just add that, following the recent Scottish Dopefest, this is a spectacular first post-in-reply-to-an-OP-I-have-met. ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Tyger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/fbc32d/32.png) [@Silver\_Tyger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Tyger)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 7:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/18 "2012-11-15T19:52:02Z")
You guys must be a lot easier to get off than my boyfriends have been (yes, the other possibility is also likely, except the one said he’s only gotten off once or twice from a blowjob alone) Doesn’t have to end in orgasm, but you have to put some significant effort into it. ---
**Author:** ![Duckster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/duckster/32/1244_2.png) [@Duckster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duckster)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/19 "2012-11-15T20:47:23Z")
> [@Munch](#): > > If you’re not willing to work at it, then don’t call it a _job_. The only job some enjoy even though it sucks. ---
**Author:** ![RealOmegaMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/958977/32.png) [@RealOmegaMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RealOmegaMan)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/20 "2012-11-15T22:22:38Z")
Fellatio is foreplay, a BJ is a different beast 😉 [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071.md?page=2)