# What's your definition of a blow-job? (Clinical, but NSFW) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 15, 2012, 8:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071 "2012-11-15T08:57:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/21 "2012-11-15T22:41:45Z")
I’d say it can fall somewhere between the two. I’m a blower and blowee and am adding those terms to my vocabulary. ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/22 "2012-11-15T22:44:00Z")
I voted for “oral stimulation leading to orgasm.” Oral stimulation without that goal is fine and dandy, but I don’t think I’d ever say that I gave a guy a blowjob unless he came. If that was the goal but he didn’t come despite my best efforts (for whatever reason), I’d say that I tried to give him a blowjob or that I started to give him a blowjob. ---
**Author:** ![Lalosantillana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ea666f/32.png) [@Lalosantillana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lalosantillana)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 10:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/23 "2012-11-15T22:47:28Z")
blow job would be if you have an orgasm due to oral sex. if she uses her hand to give you an orgasm it will be a hand job. I have my own vocbulary for this topic. if she gives you oral sex just to get up and ready for sex, i call it a bj, if she starts with oral and finishes u with oral i call that a blow job. what do you all think? ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2012, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/24 "2012-11-15T23:02:08Z")
> [@Misnomer](#): > > I voted for “oral stimulation leading to orgasm.” > > Oral stimulation without that goal is fine and dandy, but I don’t think I’d ever say that I gave a guy a blowjob unless he came. If that was the goal but he didn’t come despite my best efforts (for whatever reason), I’d say that I tried to give him a blowjob or that I started to give him a blowjob. This. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2012, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/25 "2012-11-16T02:29:02Z")
While all blowjobs are oral sex; not all oral sex are blow jobs. _Any_ stimulation of the penis by the mouth is oral sex but it ain’t a bj unless it features that “big finish”. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2012, 3:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/26 "2012-11-16T03:20:03Z")
All I know is the only thing wrong with 69 is the view. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2012, 3:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/27 "2012-11-16T03:27:59Z")
> [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > All I know is the only thing wrong with 69 is the view. …And the distraction. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2012, 3:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/28 "2012-11-16T03:39:59Z")
> [@hogarth](#): > > Ten seconds of licking does not make a blow job. But it doesn’t have to end in orgasm. But what if those ten seconds of licking end in an orgasm? ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2012, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/29 "2012-11-16T03:41:54Z")
> [@Happy\_Lendervedder](#): > > But what if those ten seconds of licking end in an orgasm? That’s part-time employment. ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2012, 4:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/30 "2012-11-16T04:39:32Z")
It’s not a job unless you finish it. And do it right. Heh heh. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2012, 5:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/31 "2012-11-16T05:04:50Z")
> [@Silver\_Tyger](#): > > You guys must be a lot easier to get off than my boyfriends have been (yes, the other possibility is also likely, except the one said he’s only gotten off once or twice from a blowjob alone) Next time try taking your teeth out first. ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2012, 2:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/32 "2012-11-16T14:16:05Z")
In the [Previous thread/poll](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=564685), “any oral stimulation” was the clear winner, but a substantial number of people did vote for/advocate “orgasm required.” It looks like this one’s going the same route. ---
**Author:** ![Cinnamon\_Imp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58956e/32.png) [@Cinnamon\_Imp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cinnamon_Imp)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2012, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/33 "2012-11-16T20:15:54Z")
> [@Scougs](#): > > Can I also just add that, following the recent Scottish Dopefest, this is a spectacular first post-in-reply-to-an-OP-I-have-met. Did I not say in person I was going to start this thread? 😉 If not, I meant to! And you may also have met the “friend” of mine who started the discussion 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Winston\_Smith](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e95f7d/32.png) [@Winston\_Smith](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Winston_Smith)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2012, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/34 "2012-11-16T20:18:36Z")
It’s a blowjob if it ends in orgasm. If not, it’s foreplay. ---
**Author:** ![robert\_columbia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e79b87/32.png) [@robert\_columbia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/robert_columbia)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2012, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/35 "2012-11-16T21:23:58Z")
> [@rhubarbarin](#): > > It’s not a job unless you finish it. And do it right. Heh heh. I know this one girl who got fired from a blow job once. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2012, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/36 "2012-11-16T21:28:20Z")
Wow, she must be really tiny. ---
**Author:** ![Cartooniverse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cartooniverse/32/3084_2.png) [@Cartooniverse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cartooniverse)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2012, 11:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/37 "2012-11-16T23:00:45Z")
Finishing what you start makes a blowjob. Demurring makes for agita… :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2012, 11:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/38 "2012-11-16T23:03:27Z")
A BJ has to be finished unless the judge’s gag order say otherwise. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Small\_Hen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ad7895/32.png) [@Small\_Hen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Small_Hen)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2012, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/39 "2012-11-16T23:15:25Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Wow, she must be really tiny. _applause_ For it to be a blow job, the penis has to go in the mouth, but the man doesn’t have to come. If he _did_, by that logic, a person is a virgin until they’ve climaxed from sex, which is simply not the case. ---
**Author:** ![janeslogin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@janeslogin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/janeslogin)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2012, 11:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-definition-of-a-blow-job-clinical-but-nsfw/641071/40 "2012-11-16T23:20:22Z")
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