# What's Your Relationship Status?
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [March 13, 2006, 4:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133 "2006-03-13T04:10:25Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@Gadarene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gadarene)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 4:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/1 "2006-03-13T04:10:25Z")
Inspired by a discussion in [this thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=362389), I thought I’d find out the rough proportion of Dopers who are (a) in a happy and committed relationship; (b) in an unhappy and committed relationship; (c) happily single; (d) unhappily single; or (e) other. You’re “single” if you’re not in what you’d consider an exclusive romantic relationship. You’re “happy” if you’d prefer that things stay as they are, relationship-wise. (If you’re committed to X but would rather be dating A, B, or C, that’d qualify as an unhappy, committed relationship.)
Put your age, your relationship status, and whatever other information you feel like sharing.
Me, I’m 30. Unhappily single. I was unhappily committed for the last few months of a two-year relationship ending in August 2004. Since then, the people I’ve met who’re interested in a relationship with me I don’t find interesting…and, unfortunately, vice versa.
Anyone else? 🙂
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### Author:  [@Kid\_A\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kid_A_1)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/2 "2006-03-13T04:25:06Z")
I’m 22 and in a happy and committed relationship. My girlfriend and I have been together for 19 months now.
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### Author:  [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 4:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/3 "2006-03-13T04:29:58Z")
I don’t consider myself “single”, but I’m not in a physically exclusive relationship, either. Both **supervenusfreak** and I have sexual encounters (always with protection!) outside of our couplehood, and sometimes play together with an outside partner. Both of us have varying degrees of feeling for the people we engage with outside of each other, ranging from “you’re cute, wanna bj?” to “I really like you…wanna see a movie?” But I’m disgustingly happy with **supervenusfreak** , and I’m not even considering looking for a different long-term _romantic_ partner. The possibility is open in the future for us to find a third (or fourth) person to add to the romantic relationship, but it’s not an immediate priority. As far as I know (and I trust it’s true) he feels the same way.
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### Author:  [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 4:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/4 "2006-03-13T04:31:02Z")
Gah! Forgot to add that I’ll be turning 35 this week.
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### Author:  [@some\_white\_dude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/some_white_dude)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 4:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/5 "2006-03-13T04:34:31Z")
1. In a happy and committed relationship. We’ve been together for a little under a year, and things have been going exceptionally well. She’s been studying in Barcelona this semester, but the long distance hasn’t put any kind of a strain on us. I just got back from visiting her a couple weeks ago, and yeah, things are still really good.
I don’t mean to brag too much, but I’m just really happy at the moment. I trust her completely, which makes the long distance thing pretty bearable. Not that it won’t be great to have her back here in the summer…
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### Author:  [@LH75](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LH75)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 4:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/6 "2006-03-13T04:38:39Z")
i am 53. i have been fortunate enough to be with the incomparable sunflower since may 19, 1972. we have been very happily married since may 17, 1975. we have two adult daughters and one spoiled rotten cat.
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### Author:  [@fishbicycle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fishbicycle)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 4:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/7 "2006-03-13T04:39:30Z")
I’m 47. My wife and I are a) happily married. Eight years in May. No arguments yet. This marriage stuff isn’t anywhere near as hard as some people would have you believe. It might be the easiest thing I’ve ever done.
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### Author:  [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/8 "2006-03-13T04:50:07Z")
I’m 34, and have been unhappily single for almost a year. I went through a looong stretch of not really wanting to date, but then at the end of 2004 something snapped and I got all into the dating thing. Went out with a few guys, had a blast, even landed in a brief relationship this time last year (that _didn’t_ end in me swearing off relationships), but my dating mojo seems to have gone walkies. ☹
I remain optimistic, though, and maintain profiles at a couple of dating sites while I debate the wisdom of actively pursuing one of my co-workers. 😃
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### Author:  [@JpnDude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JpnDude)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/9 "2006-03-13T04:56:23Z")
I’m 33 years old. She’s 36. Happily married for 6+ years now. We met in the US, and I came to Japan to date her 11 years ago. I fell in love with her and the country. So I married her, and stayed here.
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### Author:  [@appleciders](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/appleciders)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 4:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/10 "2006-03-13T04:58:22Z")
By your definition, I’m 18 and “happily single”, although I am in a long-distance non-exclusive relationship and have been for nigh on a year now.
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### Author:  [@Lissla\_Lissar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lissla_Lissar)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 5:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/11 "2006-03-13T05:05:11Z")
I’m 27 and happily married. We’ve been married three years, together for about seven years.
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### Author:  [@myskepticsight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/myskepticsight)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/12 "2006-03-13T05:10:23Z")
1. Pretty happily single. Been single for close to a year wooo (after a year and a half relationship - about a year too long, but we won’t get into that). I dig a guy right now, but we’re friends and I don’t care too much if anything ever happens. But I would definitely be jealous if he started dating someone else. But eh. I’m too busy for a boyfriend, and if I met one here at school, I’m going home this summer so unless he lived in St. Louis, it would suck. And above guy lives in Chicago, so.
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### Author:  [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/13 "2006-03-13T05:10:58Z")
I’m 45 in a happy, committed relationship with a bloke who is considerably older.
Can I ask another question though? My SO and I **don’t live together** , yet we have been in a HCR for more than two years now. How does one introduce one’s SO under these circumstances? The reason I ask is that yesterday we went to a function where he needed to introduce me to some new colleagues. Girlfriend just didn’t seem _right_ because we are really old farts, and _partner_ didn’t seem right because we don’t share living arrangements. And _Significant Other_ is downright obscene as a verbal tool (it’s OK in a written medium though).
_Squeeze_ seems to signify a transient and superficial relationship, as does _My Fucking Friend_ (that I suggested but _that_ was howled down, funnily enough 😃 ).
What’s the go, my fellow geriatric dopers? How do you describe your committed (but unmarried/defacto) relationships?
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### Author:  [@Xan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Xan)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 5:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/14 "2006-03-13T05:23:18Z")
I’m unhappily single.
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### Author:  [@bouv](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bouv)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 5:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/15 "2006-03-13T05:25:50Z")
23 and unhappily single. Last relationship was sometime in the May/June range of last year. Tried a long-distance relationship with a girl that I met through a mutual friend and that I hooked up with a few times. We decided we should try something beyond friends with benefits. A combination of the distance and my complete apathetic stlye of emotion (which is to say, no emotion at all, really) made it not work.
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### Author:  [@Harmonix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harmonix)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 5:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/16 "2006-03-13T05:30:53Z")
22 and I see-saw between being happily and unhappily single.
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### Author:  [@drewbert](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drewbert)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 5:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/17 "2006-03-13T05:33:08Z")
I’m 32, and I waver between answers c) and d) practically daily. A week ago I had my first actual in-real-life date of the 21st Century. Fireworks failed to ignite. I’m not in a mad rush to try again, but should the opportunity present itself…
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### Author:  [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 5:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/18 "2006-03-13T05:35:25Z")
26(f) and happily single right now. First time in my life when I am happy to be single.
kambukta - I don’t see anything wrong with “girlfriend” at your age, or any age. But I think Miss Manners would advise “This is [your name].” 🙂
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### Author:  [@Xan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Xan)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 5:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/19 "2006-03-13T05:35:56Z")
> [@Xan](#):
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> I’m unhappily single.
and I forgot to mention I am 19.
I’ve never had any relationships. Not any during high school and college doesn’t look like it will improve that prospect. Maybe it’s the psoraisis that’s visable on my forehead or that I’m over weight (I’m working on that but not because it may attract women) Doesn’t matter really because I give up.
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### Author:  [@HPL](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HPL)
#### Post date: [March 13, 2006, 5:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-relationship-status/348133/20 "2006-03-13T05:42:55Z")
24 and single. I’d like to be in a relationship, but any potential one will have to wait until I get some other things out of the way.
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