# What's Your Safe Word?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-safe-word/295224>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [March 18, 2005, 10:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-safe-word/295224 "2005-03-18T22:40:25Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 5\
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**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\
**Post date:** [March 22, 2005, 10:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-safe-word/295224/41 "2005-03-22T22:50:54Z")

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I can’t remember.

Honestly.  
We decided it was going to be that name in Private Lives. Y’know, Noel Coward. And the was a name they had of someone they once knew they would say if they were in a dificult situation. Seemed very appropriate.

Problem is I could never remember it…but then I never used it 🙂

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**Author:** ![Wolfian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/7ea924/32.png) [@Wolfian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wolfian)\
**Post date:** [March 23, 2005, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-safe-word/295224/42 "2005-03-23T03:26:04Z")

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> [@Omniscient](#):
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> Yeah, thats the reference. And the movie did not suck. Greatest Cameo ever!

No, the greatest cameo ever is Lance Armstrong in Dodgeball.

Philadelphia.

Name that reference.

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**Author:** ![Padeye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a9a28c/32.png) [@Padeye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Padeye)\
**Post date:** [March 23, 2005, 3:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-safe-word/295224/43 "2005-03-23T03:39:45Z")

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> [@UnwrittenNocturne](#):
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> A problem arises when you use a ball gag though.
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> What does everyone else do then?

“Mffmffmrf” which sounds an awful lot like “mrfffmmfrm” but it has not been an issue so far. I find it’s good to maintain eye contact then anyway but some suggest an object held in one hand by the sub that can be dropped as a non-verbal safeword.

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**Author:** ![Fromage\_A\_Trois](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a88e57/32.png) [@Fromage\_A\_Trois](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fromage_A_Trois)\
**Post date:** [March 23, 2005, 1:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-safe-word/295224/44 "2005-03-23T13:25:40Z")

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With ballgags in mind, the word (or phrase) “ **cock-a-doodle-doo** ” is my safeword of choice - although the words probably can’t be made out through the gag, it’s pretty distinctive (unless it’s a really, really good gag).

Tends to kill the mood a bit too… not sure if that’s good or bad.

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**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\
**Post date:** [March 23, 2005, 1:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whats-your-safe-word/295224/45 "2005-03-23T13:41:21Z")

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> [@betenoir](#):
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> I can’t remember.
> 
> Honestly.  
> We decided it was going to be that name in Private Lives. Y’know, Noel Coward. And the was a name they had of someone they once knew they would say if they were in a dificult situation. Seemed very appropriate.
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> Problem is I could never remember it…but then I never used it 🙂

“Solomon Isaacs”, “Sollics” for short. But it didn’t work out well. (Not that there’s any of _that_ sort of stuff in Private Lives. At least, not the production I saw. :eek: )

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