# When a beautiful woman starts at work... what have you seen? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 7, 2018, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624 "2018-06-07T19:41:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Urbanredneck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ea5d25/32.png) [@Urbanredneck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urbanredneck)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/1 "2018-06-07T19:41:39Z")
Have you ever worked at a place where one day a just stunning, attractive woman starts to work there? A woman every man notices even if they try to play it cool? In your experience what behaviors do you see or how does it change the dynamic of the office? ---
**Author:** ![Slash1972](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slash1972/32/6461_2.png) [@Slash1972](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slash1972)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/2 "2018-06-07T19:46:29Z")
I work with professionals who are at work to do a job, not to rate the “new woman”. ---
**Author:** ![Lamoral](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lamoral/32/16078_2.png) [@Lamoral](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamoral)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/3 "2018-06-07T19:51:58Z")
I worked in an office once where there was a really attractive woman. There are a lot of women in the office. This woman was really attractive, she was around 18 or 19. Does that mean she is a teenager or a woman? I don’t know, but either way she wa a really attractive woman, I enjoyed looking at her. I asked her out on a date once and wow, we had a great time…later that night! I guess you could say she aced my test. ---
**Author:** ![DCnDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dcndc/32/2842_2.png) [@DCnDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DCnDC)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 7:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/4 "2018-06-07T19:54:49Z")
I only ever experienced this when I was at Safeway. It’s a high turnover job, especially the front-of-house staff, and it attracted quite a lot of young college-age people. Because it was pretty much the norm, and there wasn’t really all that much down time on the clock, a new attractive person coming in changed very little, if anything. ---
**Author:** ![MoonMoon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/moonmoon/32/2959_2.png) [@MoonMoon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MoonMoon)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/5 "2018-06-07T19:57:34Z")
> [@Urbanredneck](#): > > Have you ever worked at a place where one day a just stunning, attractive woman starts to work there? A woman every man notices even if they try to play it cool? In your experience what behaviors do you see or how does it change the dynamic of the office? Good grief. ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/6 "2018-06-07T19:58:19Z")
My co-workers are adults. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G930A using Tapatalk ---
**Author:** ![Kimstu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ecd19e/32.png) [@Kimstu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimstu)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/7 "2018-06-07T19:59:41Z")
> [@Slash1972](#): > > I work with professionals who are at work to do a job, not to rate the “new woman”. Same here. My most recent experience of my workplace acquiring a very beautiful new female employee may be somewhat affected by the fact that said new employee is married to one of the other employees, but I don’t think the general workplace “dynamic” would be significantly different even if that weren’t the case. The workplace dynamic likewise wasn’t noticeably affected at a previous workplace with the arrival of a new employee who was literally about the most beautiful young woman I’d ever seen in real life as opposed to on the screen. We had plenty of things to talk to her about other than her looks, and we had the basic manners not to gossip about her looks behind her back. (Heterosexual female here, so maybe I’m just not aware of other colleagues indulging in some private recreational objectification of beautiful new co-workers, but it certainly doesn’t show in their public deportment as far as I can judge.) ---
**Author:** ![Moriarty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/moriarty/32/49_2.png) [@Moriarty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moriarty)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 8:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/8 "2018-06-07T20:07:30Z")
What have I seen? The creepy IT guy really wants to help her with her computer. Everybody around her shoos the guy away and then warns her about him. She rolls her eyes and mentions her fiancée. Other people are friendly, smile and introduce themselves. Wait, that usually happens whenever anybody new starts. So, yeah, the creepy guy in IT is what I’ve seen. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 8:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/9 "2018-06-07T20:08:52Z")
Sometimes there just ain’t enough :smack:s ---
**Author:** ![senoy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dbc845/32.png) [@senoy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/senoy)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/10 "2018-06-07T20:09:24Z")
It probably depends on the office and the individual. I guess if there are a bunch of single guys vying for her attention it could matter, maybe? I have an attractive coworker - sweet girl. I guess that her presence has made meetings marginally nicer, but mostly because she has one of those bubbly personalities. If she were unattractive or male, but had the same personality, the affect would likely be similar. In our office, the only men are married and seemingly happily so, so I don’t think that her attractiveness really registers particularly. (She’s my daughter’s age, so while I consciously can evaluate her as an attractive girl, it’s probably more paternal than sexual. I definitely am not salivating over my keyboard or anything.) The women in our office vary in age, but are all in relationships of their own, so I don’t think there’s any jealousy - although I guess I can conceive that that could be an issue in some workplaces, maybe? I think that most office drama is more personality based than looks based. The office problems seem to come from people with bad attitudes regardless of their physical appearance or gender. In the same way, the people that it is pleasant to work with come in all shapes and sizes. You’re either someone that plays well with others or you aren’t and it doesn’t matter whether you’re a slim young blonde or a fat balding old dude. ---
**Author:** ![SmellMyWort](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea5d25/32.png) [@SmellMyWort](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmellMyWort)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/11 "2018-06-07T20:18:22Z")
> [@Urbanredneck](#): > > Have you ever worked at a place where one day a just stunning, attractive woman starts to work there? A woman every man notices even if they try to play it cool? In your experience what behaviors do you see or how does it change the dynamic of the office? Are you fucking stupid? Do you really lack enough brain cells to realize that day-to-day, mundane situations don’t play out like the plot in a lame sitcom? ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/12 "2018-06-07T20:32:22Z")
Another adult here. I may notice, but I’m not a creep and I don’t have those conversations with my co-workers. Sounds like a great way to get a bad reputation in the workplace, destroy working relationships and get fired. I will say that I worked with a woman in the late 80’s and early 90’s who thought she was THE BOMB and that every man lusted after her. Very hands on too, which would get her fired damned fast these days. But inside, she was an ugly person and she got very angry with me, when after a couple of years of not being particularly nice to me (or a lot of other people for that matter, especially when people refused to do parts of her job for her), when she said something to me about me wanting her and I said no, not interested. ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/13 "2018-06-07T20:35:03Z")
Another adult over here who works with adults. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/14 "2018-06-07T20:41:43Z")
First, to avoid speculation, no one reported this thread. However, I want to jump to let people know that salacious or degrading posts won’t be tolerated. This one I quoted walks up to that line, and puts a toe over it, so you get the idea. Keep this conversation cool, folks. Don’t be jerks about it. Thanks. > [@Jacquernagy](#): > > I worked in an office once where there was a really attractive woman. > > There are a lot of women in the office. > > This woman was really attractive, she was around 18 or 19. > > Does that mean she is a teenager or a woman? I don’t know, but either way she wa a really attractive woman, I enjoyed looking at her. I asked her out on a date once and wow, we had a great time…later that night! > > I guess you could say she aced my test. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/15 "2018-06-07T20:42:30Z")
Ain’t the pit. Cool it. > [@SmellMyWort](#): > > Are you fucking stupid? Do you really lack enough brain cells to realize that day-to-day, mundane situations don’t play out like the plot in a lame sitcom? ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 8:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/16 "2018-06-07T20:43:39Z")
> [@Urbanredneck](#): > > Have you ever worked at a place where one day a just stunning, attractive woman starts to work there? A woman every man notices even if they try to play it cool? In your experience what behaviors do you see or how does it change the dynamic of the office? What I’ve noticed when discussing these scenarios with my friends, is that Chandler won’t stop talking about her but be afraid to ask her out. Meanwhile, office hijinx will ensue because she’ll be flirting with Chandler but he’s too dumb and shy to realize it. Of course Joey will give him dating tips and two big thumbs up as encouragement. Meanwhile Ross will be impatient and tell Chandler to just man up and ask her. It’ll all be too late of course, because she’ll have assumed Chandler is gay and start dating Chandler’s boss. Monica, Phoebe and Rachel will be there to pick up the pieces when things don’t work out for poor Chandler. Because they never do. ---
**Author:** ![Wesley\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wesley_clark/32/20581_2.png) [@Wesley\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wesley_Clark)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/17 "2018-06-07T20:44:27Z")
LOL. I guess I’m the only one who notices attractive people here. :rolleyes: Because of sexual harassment laws you have to tread lightly. But usually there are discussions in private between workers about how pretty the new worker is. But that only lasts a few days to a few weeks at most. After he or she integrates into the team, the discussions stop. And I"ve overheard female coworkers say the same thing in private when a good looking guy starts working there. Nothing wrong with it. If anything, women are more open about appreciation of a guys good looks because they aren’t as afraid of getting fired for doing it. The phrase ‘Daaaaaaaaaaaaaaamn’ comes up at least once in these discussions. ---
**Author:** ![begbert2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/begbert2/32/3357_2.png) [@begbert2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/begbert2)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/18 "2018-06-07T20:48:57Z")
I’m a prime candidate to post terrible things in this thread! I’m male, single, heterosexual, and lonely! If a beautiful woman was hired at our company, well, we already have some fairly decent-looking women here, and they’re universally…expected to do their jobs. But none of these woman are Helen of Troy (or if they are they lied about their name for the phone list), so perhaps the _right_ woman would devolve the company into 50’s MadMen office. If we hired a salivatingly beautiful woman into my _department_, such that she was working alongside me all the time, then I’d continue to remain professional, because I 1) am not an asshole, and 2) am not an idiot. Also I like being employed here. Whether I like her as a _person_, well, before I determine that I’d have to wait and see what kind of a programmer she is. If she makes my job harder I want her gone, or at least censured/corrected/forced to shape up. (Eta: The same as any male.) ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 8:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/19 "2018-06-07T20:51:14Z")
Of course I notice what people look like when they come to work. The cool thing is that I have a skull, and it keeps the thoughts that go on in my brain inside my brain, unless I decide to let them out. There’s not much percentage in my letting thoughts out about what my co-workers look like, beyond a simple, “Heh, awesome tie,” or, “You died your hair blue? Very cool,” or, “You okay? You look a little, uh, haggard.” Yeah, I notice, but no, I’m not gonna make a fool out of myself because someone is especially attractive, or especially unattractive, to me. The chance they want to hear my evaluation of their overall attractiveness is close to zero. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624/20 "2018-06-07T20:53:25Z")
I started a pit thread about this. I train a lot of the new hires. When the prettier ones get hired, I notice a LOT more guys stopping by to say “Hi” (right in the middle of when I’m trying to train them). It’s blatantly obvious to me what they’re doing, but you can’t call them out on it because there’s plausible deniability. It’s so damned annoying! More so for her, I’m sure. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-a-beautiful-woman-starts-at-work-what-have-you-seen/815624.md?page=2)