# When approaching a member of the opposite sex, whats the first thing you look at? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 8, 2004, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-approaching-a-member-of-the-opposite-sex-whats-the-first-thing-you-look-at/233119 "2004-03-08T13:58:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![fishead788](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a4c791/32.png) [@fishead788](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fishead788)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2004, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-approaching-a-member-of-the-opposite-sex-whats-the-first-thing-you-look-at/233119/61 "2004-03-13T21:53:45Z")
I’ve been told in the past that I look at a certain part of a woman’s anatomy as soon as they approach and that I’m obsessed. I’m sure it is not consciencely, so I make a special effort to look at her face. I’m not obsessed! I’m doing the breast that I can. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Skipper](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecccb3/32.png) [@The\_Skipper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Skipper)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2004, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-approaching-a-member-of-the-opposite-sex-whats-the-first-thing-you-look-at/233119/62 "2004-03-13T23:37:04Z")
I think I speak for most men in that if the woman is wearing tight fitting pants/jeans/shorts, our eyes zero in on camel toes or just the crotch area in general. My ex never believed me about this because why would any man want to stare at a woman’s crotch. (I know, how stupid/naive can one be. 😉 ) This was until one night there was a skit on Late Night with Conan O’Brien. The skit was called, “Camel toe’d Annie” and featured a girl in some tight lycra pants with an obvious vagina prosthesis in the crotch area accentuating the “camel toe” look and was gyrating to some silly music. Women can be so naive or in denial when it comes to men. She also had very large “raisin-like” nipples (perpectually hard and erect) and she only liked to wear thin bras and had breast implants and was a size 36B-C. But instead of wearing an appropriate bra to conceal her nipples she’d complain (seriously) about men staring at them. Go figure. 😃 My .02 ladies. ---
**Author:** ![texasgurl24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/cdc98d/32.png) [@texasgurl24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/texasgurl24)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-approaching-a-member-of-the-opposite-sex-whats-the-first-thing-you-look-at/233119/63 "2004-03-14T00:09:22Z")
his face :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-approaching-a-member-of-the-opposite-sex-whats-the-first-thing-you-look-at/233119/64 "2004-03-14T00:25:58Z")
Since the chance of anything else being exposed is slim to none, I tend for faces. Hell, there’s little reason to look at another girl’s boobs in the first place. I’m not scouting talent, so to speak. ---
**Author:** ![Lobelia\_Overhill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/54ee81/32.png) [@Lobelia\_Overhill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobelia_Overhill)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 2:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-approaching-a-member-of-the-opposite-sex-whats-the-first-thing-you-look-at/233119/65 "2004-03-14T02:49:53Z")
I don’t pay any attention to men staring at my chest area, since most of them are eye level with it anyway 😃 ---
**Author:** ![The\_Griffin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a87d85/32.png) [@The\_Griffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Griffin)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-approaching-a-member-of-the-opposite-sex-whats-the-first-thing-you-look-at/233119/66 "2004-03-14T03:06:47Z")
Whatever draws attention to itself. ---
**Author:** ![msklystron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/43a26b/32.png) [@msklystron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msklystron)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-approaching-a-member-of-the-opposite-sex-whats-the-first-thing-you-look-at/233119/67 "2004-03-14T16:36:04Z")
Just thought I’d share something here about being too distracted to look. I was rushing through Zellers (like WalMart) in search of a green turtleneck for my youngest to wear at her Xmas concert. I had only a little time to locate and purchase this item before attending my oldest child’s Xmas concert. Hence I almost bumped into a man at the intersection of two aisles. Distracted I barely looked at him as he waved me on saying ‘You first Blondie’. It was only when I’d walked away that I caught a glimpse of him in my peripheral view… He was a hunk! Still kicking myself over that close encounter. ---
**Author:** ![Phatlewt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a698b9/32.png) [@Phatlewt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Phatlewt)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 5:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-approaching-a-member-of-the-opposite-sex-whats-the-first-thing-you-look-at/233119/68 "2004-03-14T17:37:40Z")
I’ve been told that ladies often look at a man’s shoes, not nessicarily first, but early, when sizing up his physical appearance. Any truth to this? ---
**Author:** ![Merkwurdigliebe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/74df32/32.png) [@Merkwurdigliebe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Merkwurdigliebe)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-approaching-a-member-of-the-opposite-sex-whats-the-first-thing-you-look-at/233119/69 "2004-03-14T18:11:23Z")
> [@Lobelia Overhill](#): > > I’m 6’2" and have a “phobia” about men who are smaller than me, so I always check to see how tall the fella is first … but given that the only men who are **ever** attracted to me are 5’4" - 5’6" it’s all a waste of time anyway ☹ AHA!!! You didn’t post im my thread where I was upset about the fact that I have trouble with girls that are taller than me! Now I see! Okay I am kidding of course. But SEEE!!! I knew there were women like this. I too am strangely attracted to taller girls ☹😉 ---
**Author:** ![The\_Griffin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a87d85/32.png) [@The\_Griffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Griffin)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-approaching-a-member-of-the-opposite-sex-whats-the-first-thing-you-look-at/233119/70 "2004-03-14T19:22:24Z")
I prefer girls to be a good bit shorter than me. I’m 6ft1 and girls over 5ft7 I dont feel as comfortable. ---
**Author:** ![dorfl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/59ef9b/32.png) [@dorfl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dorfl)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-approaching-a-member-of-the-opposite-sex-whats-the-first-thing-you-look-at/233119/71 "2004-03-14T20:12:46Z")
My wife ---
**Author:** ![Lobelia\_Overhill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/54ee81/32.png) [@Lobelia\_Overhill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobelia_Overhill)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 11:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-approaching-a-member-of-the-opposite-sex-whats-the-first-thing-you-look-at/233119/72 "2004-03-14T23:08:57Z")
> [@Merkwurdigliebe](#): > > AHA!!! > > You didn’t post im my thread where I was upset about the fact that I have trouble with girls that are taller than me! Now I see! > > Okay I am kidding of course. But SEEE!!! I knew there were women like this. I too am strangely attracted to taller girls ☹😉 I’m sorry, but I didn’t see that thread … I know quite a lot of tall women (via the internet) and we’re all the same, we prefer tall men (6ft+) Nothing personal shorter men just don’t “do it” for me ---
**Author:** ![Lobelia\_Overhill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/54ee81/32.png) [@Lobelia\_Overhill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobelia_Overhill)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 11:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-approaching-a-member-of-the-opposite-sex-whats-the-first-thing-you-look-at/233119/73 "2004-03-14T23:12:05Z")
> [@The Griffin](#): > > I prefer girls to be a good bit shorter than me. I’m 6ft1 and girls over 5ft7 I dont feel as comfortable. so there’s no hope for me whatsoever :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![LifeOnWry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/96bed5/32.png) [@LifeOnWry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LifeOnWry)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 2:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-approaching-a-member-of-the-opposite-sex-whats-the-first-thing-you-look-at/233119/74 "2004-03-15T02:38:49Z")
Either I am a very very deep person, or I’m just oblivious to a lot of things. I have been thinking over the OP and it seems that I am not initially attracted to anything! I AM quickly turned off by some superficial things - combovers, really noticeably bad teeth or stink, but I can’t think of a feature in particular I zoom in on routinely. I have found that a guy who’s not all that conventionally attractive physically can suddenly become quite attractive physically if there’s something else there. For a stupid but easy to recall example, I always thought Rod Stewart looked rather like a rooster - then I saw him perform live and I thought, “my, he has a nice tushy… and such beautifully shaped lips, too!” ---
**Author:** ![Merkwurdigliebe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/74df32/32.png) [@Merkwurdigliebe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Merkwurdigliebe)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2004, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-approaching-a-member-of-the-opposite-sex-whats-the-first-thing-you-look-at/233119/75 "2004-03-15T03:03:23Z")
> [@Lobelia Overhill](#): > > so there’s no hope for me whatsoever :rolleyes: Well, you have two options: 1. endure leg-shortening surgery. Then you’ll be small, so you’ll find the sea of desirable men has broadend significantly 2. move to Holland. That is where the avereage man is the tallest. Yes they are extremely tall in this country. If you have never been there you’ll feel right at home if you go there. They are all at least 5’11. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-approaching-a-member-of-the-opposite-sex-whats-the-first-thing-you-look-at/233119.md?page=3)