# When does hanging out with your ex girlfriend considered foul?

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [November 19, 2010, 3:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-does-hanging-out-with-your-ex-girlfriend-considered-foul/561222 "2010-11-19T15:23:54Z")\
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**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\
**Post date:** [November 22, 2010, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-does-hanging-out-with-your-ex-girlfriend-considered-foul/561222/101 "2010-11-22T16:05:59Z")

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> [@Wheelz](#):
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> \<snip\> And realize that every word was written by somebody who – it seems to me – has your best interests at heart far more than your boyfriend does.

And has probably gone through the same type of relationship at some point and sees all the signs here. Of course, we all had to learn the hard way ourselves, too. 🙂

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**Author:** ![salinqmind](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3ec8ea/32.png) [@salinqmind](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/salinqmind)\
**Post date:** [November 22, 2010, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-does-hanging-out-with-your-ex-girlfriend-considered-foul/561222/102 "2010-11-22T16:32:25Z")

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Some relationships can’t be ‘saved’. See the writing on the wall and accept it. (easy for me, Lifelong Doormat, to say, but it’s true).

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**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\
**Post date:** [November 22, 2010, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-does-hanging-out-with-your-ex-girlfriend-considered-foul/561222/103 "2010-11-22T16:59:07Z")

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Lest my comment appear too brusque, I’ll expand a bit: assuming that you’re for real, **divisibleBYone** , and have described your situation truthfully, your boyfriend (if he truly cared about you) would not have put you through what he put you through in the first place.

“I realize now that I was a dick to you, so let’s just call it even” isn’t much of an apology and is a pretty bleak indicator of his future behavior. If he’s still planning to meet with the ex and purposely exclude you, it’s because he’s either having sex with her or pursuing her. That’s pretty much guaranteed.

If you’re okay with that, then enjoy being assistant girlfriend in your new open relationship.

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