# When, in a dating relationship, do you generally start having sex? Be honest. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 9, 2009, 5:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-in-a-dating-relationship-do-you-generally-start-having-sex-be-honest/516885 "2009-11-09T05:33:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2009, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-in-a-dating-relationship-do-you-generally-start-having-sex-be-honest/516885/121 "2009-11-12T00:19:52Z")
> [@SmartAlx](#): > > But a man who is generous and giving will interract with his partner, involve her, make the dance about her. And a man can be generous and giving, but a real dud in the sack. The only way you can find out how someone will fuck you is to let them fuck you. ---
**Author:** ![RickJay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bb73d2/32.png) [@RickJay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RickJay)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2009, 12:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-in-a-dating-relationship-do-you-generally-start-having-sex-be-honest/516885/122 "2009-11-12T00:20:19Z")
> [@SmartAlx](#): > > But they can not escape their personality when they dance. A man who is selfish will treat his dance partner like a rag doll. But a man who is generous and giving will interract with his partner, involve her, make the dance about her. You just finished watching that Antonio Banderas movie where he teaches the inner city students how to dance, didn’t you? ---
**Author:** ![Rack-a-Bones](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rack-a-Bones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rack-a-Bones)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2009, 2:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-in-a-dating-relationship-do-you-generally-start-having-sex-be-honest/516885/123 "2009-11-12T02:32:51Z")
> [@twickster](#): > > And having fucked – even on the third date – doesn’t make you a slut, a sex maniac, or a bad person. But does it make you a fucker? I’m late to the party but I think after two or three dates is about right. My last GF said she knew on the 2nd date she was going to let me take a run around the bases. Actually what she said was she knew almost right away, but decided to wait a few dates to make sure I wasn’t a dickhead. ---
**Author:** ![storyteller0910](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecae2f/32.png) [@storyteller0910](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/storyteller0910)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2009, 6:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-in-a-dating-relationship-do-you-generally-start-having-sex-be-honest/516885/124 "2009-11-12T18:53:21Z")
Here’s what I want to know about the piece-of-the-soul thing: exactly _when_ does it happen? I mean, when Chrissy Altelli put my hand inside her shirt during the homecoming dance in tenth grade, was she actually forcibly taking away parts of my immortal spirit? Or, like, the first time I had sex with my wife, it was in my mother’s house and we were interrupted prior to the conclusion of the festivities - did she snag the soul chunk during that encounter, or was it a week later when we actually made it all the way? If only standard-issue vaginal intercourse counts for soul-stealing, what of gay sex? Do they get to keep their souls entirely intact _and_ have an unfair allotment of dancing ability? That hardly seems equitable. Ooh, and does each person with whom you have sex get only a single portion of your soul no matter how many times you do it, or would it be possible for my wife to gradually take _all_ of my soul given enough time? ---
**Author:** ![Trepa\_Mayfield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/edb3f5/32.png) [@Trepa\_Mayfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trepa_Mayfield)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2009, 10:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-in-a-dating-relationship-do-you-generally-start-having-sex-be-honest/516885/125 "2009-11-12T22:06:43Z")
> [@storyteller0910](#): > > Here’s what I want to know about the piece-of-the-soul thing: exactly _when_ does it happen? I mean, when Chrissy Altelli put my hand inside her shirt during the homecoming dance in tenth grade, was she actually forcibly taking away parts of my immortal spirit? Or, like, the first time I had sex with my wife, it was in my mother’s house and we were interrupted prior to the conclusion of the festivities - did she snag the soul chunk during that encounter, or was it a week later when we actually made it all the way? If only standard-issue vaginal intercourse counts for soul-stealing, what of gay sex? Do they get to keep their souls entirely intact _and_ have an unfair allotment of dancing ability? That hardly seems equitable. Ooh, and does each person with whom you have sex get only a single portion of your soul no matter how many times you do it, or would it be possible for my wife to gradually take _all_ of my soul given enough time? Don’t forget, you get parts of her soul as well. Eventually, you’ll have completed a ‘soul swap’, an achievement worth 5000 GP\*! \*Godliness Points [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-in-a-dating-relationship-do-you-generally-start-having-sex-be-honest/516885.md?page=6)