# When someone's "help" leaves you silently cursing them **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 5, 2025, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-someones-help-leaves-you-silently-cursing-them/1017931 "2025-05-05T23:13:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 18
**Author:** ![Cervaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cervaise/32/16693_2.png) [@Cervaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cervaise)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2025, 5:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-someones-help-leaves-you-silently-cursing-them/1017931/18 "2025-05-06T05:55:20Z")
> [@StarvingButStrong](#): > > Except she somehow managed to prepare a meal that took critical ingredients that were planned to go into four separate dinner for the next week! I would have torn this person a new asshole. I don’t care how valuable the family relationship is or about maintaining diplomatic relations. You do not fuck with my kitchen. Also, I started a thread on a similar topic a year ago, in which I describe my mother-in-law trying to be helpful in similar ways, but eliciting more irritation than gratitude. > [@Thank you for wanting to help. (Even if you didn't.)](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thank-you-for-wanting-to-help-even-if-you-didnt/995950): > > AKA, the thread for talking about well-intentioned people whose desire to be of assistance is welcome, but whose actual contributions can be, unfortunately, annoying. My wife’s mom came to stay with us just before the holidays. She’s an old-school Middle Eastern woman who needs to feel like she’s doing something productive all the time; she has difficulty just relaxing and letting us take care of her. Host-and-guest culture is a big thing in Iran, but just because the host is doing their best t… --- _[View the full topic](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-someones-help-leaves-you-silently-cursing-them/1017931)._