# When to get involved in someone else's marital problems?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-to-get-involved-in-someone-elses-marital-problems/300503>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [April 21, 2005, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-to-get-involved-in-someone-elses-marital-problems/300503 "2005-04-21T23:38:12Z")\
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**Author:** ![devilsknew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/4da419/32.png) [@devilsknew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/devilsknew)\
**Post date:** [April 24, 2005, 8:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-to-get-involved-in-someone-elses-marital-problems/300503/21 "2005-04-24T08:35:30Z")

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His betrayal is heinous, yours is supreme. Do the right thing.

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**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\
**Post date:** [April 24, 2005, 8:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-to-get-involved-in-someone-elses-marital-problems/300503/22 "2005-04-24T08:59:27Z")

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> [@Stainz](#):
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> I am seeing her tomorrow at a ball game … I feel like SUCH a hypocrite sitting there listening to her talk about their plans for the summer, and their new baby that’s on the way, etc … when I know she’s in for such a fall.

I would feel really uncomfortable under these circumstances. I think I would be inclined to express my sympathies about her marital difficulties and let her take it from there. If she wanted to know more and asked me what I knew I would tell her the truth. If she is happy to know no more than she does now I would drop it. But I don’t think I could just sit there talking to her pretending that I don’t know anything.

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